UO?

TheTamedShrew

Am I crazy or has this not been posted yet?

needanustart

I don't care for Scandal. It seems like a poor man's sexed-up West Wing. More Sorkin for me.

nikel13

The US work week could be shortened, or the work day could.  The fact that people in the US work more than the worldwide average is ridiculous.  There is something to be said about how the French do things.  Breaks are needed, often.

TheTamedShrew

calikat80 said:

I don't care for Scandal. It seems like a poor man's sexed-up West Wing. More Sorkin for me.

I hate Scandal. "Homeland" is so much better.

BC&LM

Kindle > Nook

BC&LM

Re: Scandal--never seen it, don't care to

BC&LM

34blondie said:

Let me be clear that I understand the sex/gender definition difference, why it is important and why attitudes need to change.

My UO is that I don't agree people should become livid when someone doesn't know the difference. My OB, high-risk OB, my progressive and loving sister and pretty much everyone else I know use the terms interchangeably. I asked a few if they have heard of the difference in definitions and none have. It does not mean they are awful people. Let's be angry at the closed minded and not the compassionate, but uninformed who need some time to change the lingo.

On a similar note, I know on the first trimester board people catch a lot of flack if they say they are showing when it's just bloat. To me, if your bloat is giving away the fact that you are pregnant, you are in a way "showing" even if what is showing isn't actually your uterus/baby. So I never got splitting hairs over this term.

ColieAnn31

I've never been to a bachelorette party so I have no opinion on them. I don't like all the penises everywhere though.

tiffletons518

The last bachelorette party I went to was a train wreck. I will be thrilled if I never have to do another.

momofcatan

@34blondie I think you nailed it.

BC&LM

melOHdy said:

BC&LM said:

Kindle > Nook

Real Books > Kindle > Nook

I actually prefer my Kindle to real books now for two main reasons: 1) the dictionary function and 2) I don't have my hand cramp up trying to awkwardly hold a book one-handed open to the right page. Before I used an e-reader, I never thought I would like it more, but I was wrong!

TheTamedShrew

sctiger said:

Going with the Bachelorette theme, I think it's ridiculous that everyone expects a weekend away for a party and for their friends to foot the bill. I hear about parties in Vegas or NYC and think it's getting out of hand with the entitlement. What's wrong with just a simple night out going to bars and having a good time?

Meh, there's no good night life where I live, so we went to Nashville (2 hours away) for one night. It was the only thing my bridesmaids did for me, so I didn't feel that bad about it. 

needanustart

Agreed on the crazy trips for bachelorette parties. My younger sister got married 6 months after G was born and when he was two months old I got an email from her girlfriend saying they were doing a girls Vegas weekend for her. Umm, she lives in NYC. And I'm the maid if honor. WTF bish? I was so annoyed. I didn't go. And now I have heard rumblings that one of DH's cousin'a bar mitzvah might be a destination one in Costa Rica. Just, no. You are 13. Where will your honeymoon be at that rate, the fucking moon?!
I have been told I have a grumpy depression era mentality about money so that may be coming through!

needanustart

melOHdy said:

I don't like the tradition/mentality that bachelor/bachelorette parties are the, "Last hurrah" or last chance to get your rocks off doing shit you shouldn't.  You're still in a committed relationship regardless of the certificate.  

If strippers are acceptable in your relationship, fine.  But it shouldn't be some big secret and hidden from your spouse what you did. 

DH went to a whiffle ball tournament for his. He specifically said to his friends, "not to sound gay guys, but if rather hang out with you guys than see random boobs for my bachelor party." I knew I was making the right decision when I over heard that convo! Honestly I wouldn't have cared about strippers, it was just nice to hear he wasn't big into them.

Ryanswifey619

My mom threw my bachelorette party 4yrs ago. DH called it penispalooza 2010 and I hated wearing all the flashing penis necklaces. We just went to dinner and played pool, but I hated my penis necklaces. Give me a bride to be sash and maybe a little crown. Tonight is my friends bachelorette party I'm throwing and she and I agreed it would be fun to have pizza, do nails, and have some drinks(bud lime-Rita's)

itsStackie

Any excuse that means I get to go out dancing, I'm on it!  Be it a bachelorette party, wedding, or whatever. 

tiffletons518

I just now started watching Scandal on Netflix 2 days ago. I haven't watched it up until this point because it comes on too late. Yes, I know. Lame. Anyway, I'm in love. For now. I have a love/hate relationship with Shonda Rimes. I love her shows, the drama is always fantastic, but she also makes me want to run her over with my car on the regular too it seems. So, it's only I matter of time before I swear it off... for a few days. Then continue to binge watch.  

bumpuser7846882

I hate stereo equipment. I think speakers are ugly and home theatres are weird. If I want to have a theatre experience, I'll go to a theatre. And I'd much rather go see an orchestra perform than listen to a recording on a hifi system. Or use that space for actual instruments.

...clearly I needed to get that out. My FIL is really into stereo equipment, so we have a stereo room in the house in addition to (a really ugly) home theatre. He values quality of sound over aesthetics, so we have some bizarre looking speakers mounted awkwardly on the wall. He used to be a semi-professional musician and doesn't even have his clarinet anymore. I would rather have a home full of instruments. But I knew all this before we signed the mortgage paperwork

TheTamedShrew

itsStackie said:

Any excuse that means I get to go out dancing, I'm on it!  Be it a bachelorette party, wedding, or whatever. 

lioness13

I'm not sure how unpopular it is but I think that people who get married a 2nd/3rd (etc.) time should skip those pre-wedding bachelorette parties. Why do it if you already did it?  It's not your first time at the rodeo. Just get married again already!

TheTamedShrew

If you regularly post selfies on Facebook I automatically assume you are either legitimately narcissistic or have mental health issues. And then I unfriend you.

kelseypie

calikat80 said:

melOHdy said:

I don't like the tradition/mentality that bachelor/bachelorette parties are the, "Last hurrah" or last chance to get your rocks off doing shit you shouldn't.  You're still in a committed relationship regardless of the certificate.  

If strippers are acceptable in your relationship, fine.  But it shouldn't be some big secret and hidden from your spouse what you did. 

DH went to a whiffle ball tournament for his. He specifically said to his friends, "not to sound gay guys, but if rather hang out with you guys than see random boobs for my bachelor party." I knew I was making the right decision when I over heard that convo! Honestly I wouldn't have cared about strippers, it was just nice to hear he wasn't big into them.

MH went to a pre season hockey game with his friends and was home before midnight. I felt bad he didn't do anything more fun, but I guess that's what he wanted. I stayed at a hotel downtown with my friends. We started at a drag show and ended up at a strip club. But not the kind with dudes. Male stripped make me want to barf. Why do they all look like they're made out of hotdog material? Or like panty hose stuffed with meat? Vom.

LaBellaVida

34blondie said:

Let me be clear that I understand the sex/gender definition difference, why it is important and why attitudes need to change.

My UO is that I don't agree people should become livid when someone doesn't know the difference. My OB, high-risk OB, my progressive and loving sister and pretty much everyone else I know use the terms interchangeably. I asked a few if they have heard of the difference in definitions and none have. It does not mean they are awful people. Let's be angry at the closed minded and not the compassionate, but uninformed who need some time to change the lingo.

January 15 goes crazy over this. I roll my eyes. It's not that big of a deal to me, I mean no harm, and I'm not trying to offend. To me it's the same.

Also, I've never even heard of this until I joined Jan 15. I don't think it's a huge deal to people IRL, and they just want to bitch about something over there.

God forbid you say your having a girl or boy over there too, they prefer you say penis or vagina. "I'm having a vagina. " "I'm having a penis. " Get real!

needanustart

LaBellaVida said:

What?! No. They can't be serious. It's PC stuff like that that almost makes me want to play a troll and go role then up.

LaBellaVida

On the subject of 'parties' I think it's silly for adults to throw their own birthday party. Going out for drinks or dinner, cool. .... But to legit throw their own party with cake. Balloons, steamers, confetti ect is going a bit far.

Eta: also think it's silly to celebrate your birthday for a month. "it's my birthday month." no. Just. No.

ilovemarfa

A girl I know is health nut and is always preaching on Facebook about the importance of eating organic and healthy because you don't want to put all of these chemicals in your body. She frequently takes pictures of people's grocery store food (like she snaps a photo of the person in front if her as their food is on the belt ready to be rung up) and she shames what they have chosen. In the past few weeks she has asked her Facebook friends for advice on what kind of shampoo to use for color treated hair and what birth control pill she should switch to- she doesn't like the one she's on. I feel like calling her out and asking her why she's putting chemicals on her hair, and in her body. I really don't care what other people do but if you are going to shame people for eating conventionally grown food and potato chips you really should not ask people for this kind of advice.

Monkeybutt80

I love all bachelorette parties....  big ones, small ones, any excuse to go out with the girls and get drunk is good with me. penis shaped cookies and necklaces? sure, bring it on.  I rather go to all the bachelorette parties and skip all the bridal showers.... 

Gender v. Sex; I never knew this distinction until the bump. I still don't really get it. I know I have a vagina and I like sex.

 

Birthday month; hells yeah. I celebrate my birthday all month long. " it's my birthday month, so I can eat that donut.", "it's my birthday month so I will have another drink.", "I am going to buy both pairs of shoes because it's my birthday month", etc...

LaBellaVida

calikat80 said:

LaBellaVida said:

What?! No. They can't be serious. It's PC stuff like that that almost makes me want to play a troll and go role then up.

Please do. Lol.

needanustart

majwv8 said:

I like it when the person doing my nails can barely speak English and I can just sit there in silence instead of chit chatting about my life with a stranger.

Same with massages. I just want to fall asleep.

musicalsilver

@melOHdysaid:

I do not miss double spacing from my college days.  I hate when there is unnecessary blank space on word documents.  For example, I always set the margins to "narrow" because normal just seems like too much unused space.

I care about this. 

In looking up the formatting guidelines for my PhD dissertation - the margins have to be huge and it's all double spaced.  And it has to be a serif-containing font.  

It's so weird.  

LaBellaVida

stargazer763 said:

melOHdy said:

stargazer763 said:

I'm one of those people who will correct others on gender vs. sex. Sex is between the legs, gender is between the ears.

But I trust that you do it in a way that helps the person gain knowledge on the reasoning behind the distinction.  Not just to be a butthead?

ETA: I don't think people that correct others on the proper terms are "buttheads" but there are people that do it in a really snarky fashion rather than just educating someone on why it's an important issue. 

I hope I'm not being a butthead! I think referring to the kid as "vagina" or "penis" is over the line, though. My kid is a boy. If he identifies as a girl, then I will refer to her as such. But right now, I have a boy. I don't know what his gender is (there are a lot more than just masculine and feminine), but his sex is male.

Let me see if I can find that genderbread person.

I get it, sex is between the legs, gender is between the eyes. Until they identify differently I don't see a huge deal with it. My Dr. Even says gender.
I don't understand how these terms offend people when I'm referring to my babies gender. In my mind, I'm referring to what's between the legs, until they identify differently.
'Shrugs'
I'll just use sex from now on so I'm not flamed, plus I mean no harm in it, and don't want to offend anyone.

Eta: typo. Darn smart phone!

LaBellaVida

This topic has been discussed so many times on January 15. Then the penis and vagina subject got brought up. I asked this poster if they refer to their son/daughter as "this is my penis, this is my vagina." This poster said yes.
I highly doubt she was telling the truth, but still. ... This can't be a real thing.

mshukh

Personally, I'm one of those who thinks there are far more important issues the world has to solve than educating every Joe and Mary on semantics (sex v. gender).  Sure, no one wants to be in the situation where you have to distinguish, nor does anyone want their loved one to be in that situation. So I understand and I'm sensitive to it. However, I feel like this topic is the "popular" thing now for whatever reason. Most people arguing and fighting about it are just jumping on the bandwagon to feel self-righteous about something...anything. If it's not that, it will be something else. Personally, I'm waiting for it to blow over cause I'm kinda tired of it already.

nikel13

heelibrarian said:

How sad is it that my UOs involve kids tv? Stuffy is the best character on Doc McStuffins and Lambie gives me the creeps. I'm not sure what life lessons Jake and the Neverland Pirates is trying to teach except gold is the answer to all problems (pirate or otherwise).

H says Lambie must be a prostitute.  She is always asking for cuddles, wears little to no clothing, and is always strutting around.  

H also thinks that Jack and the Neverland Pirates promote communism because they get gold for not doing much and then have to share it.  

H and I apply a lot of adult concepts to children TV.  It makes it more interesting to watch.

needanustart

melOHdy said:

I don't get why people put their makeup on in the car/bus/subway. Why not get up 5 minutes sooner and leave your house the way you want to look?

I don't like it but I've been one of these people. When I had two kids to get out of the house, to daycare and then to the train in January in New England sometimes anything that could get pushed to my train commute did get pushed to my train commute. But I'm a judgey mcjudgerson, because if they look kinda trashy I presume they were just out partying and sleeping around the night before. Judge/jealous.

HeartLikeMine3

I usually put my makeup on in the car because my kids not attached to my leg pulling things from my makeup bag. And the natural lighting is great in the car

WasNotWas

Just wanted to weigh in on bachelorette parties:

All the penises.

MorganWP

On the topic of bachelor/bachelorette parties: I think it definitely depends on the people. My auntie's party was at a B&B. Hot tubbing and mimosas basically. My uncle's groomsmen made him dress up in a moomoo (i have no idea why) but then took him rafting.

My SO's friend got married last year and all the groomsmen, SO included, and boss surprised him with a trip to Vegas. He thought he was on his way to a business trip. I only got bits and pieces of it but it sounded like it was a total gong show.

Also, I agree about the no male strippers thing. Gross.

On Gender v. Sex: I get the difference and how some people could get offended but also agree that the debates about it can get pretty ridiculous... One thing Im always confused about is transgendered people. Not the concept but what to refer to them as. Example: Do you call a transgendered female "he" or "she"? Thats the one thing I can never get right and always feel awkward about.

momofcatan

melOHdy said:

I don't get why people put their makeup on in the car/bus/subway. Why not get up 5 minutes sooner and leave your house the way you want to look?

Because I want those 5 minutes of sleep? Same reason I eat breakfast at my desk instead of t home.

ilovemarfa

HoneyB1993 said:

Kraft American cheese is an UO? Am I missing something? M's diet is probably 90% organic, but she's had kraft singles on occasion. The fact that I've given M a food she enjoyed, that also has the same amount of calcium as 8 oz of milk, is flame worthy?
I am don't mean to be bitchy at all, but I'm honestly confused.

I bought organic cheese a few times and it was so gross. My husband said I never buy it again so I just but wegmans white american cheese slices. It's weird that it tasted so bad because organic milk and yogurt tastes fine to us.

WasNotWas

Yeah, Chicago, I guess this should go in the FFFC thread, but my kids eat Kraft slices AND kraft boxed Mac and cheese