ccip82 said:@krystalcrockettI would never make someone feel uncomfortable or judge them for wanting to cover up while NIP, it is entirely their prerogative. It's a personal choice- just like it is a personal choice to BF FF, NIP, etc. In a perfect world people could feed their LOs however the eff the want without the needless judging and mommy shaming.
beermelulu said:I FF. When asked if I FF or BF, I fucking HATE that I feel I have to follow up my answer with an explanation as to why I FF, to ease the side eye or look of pity I get.
I FF. When asked if I FF or BF, I fucking HATE that I feel I have to follow up my answer with an explanation as to why I FF, to ease the side eye or look of pity I get.
mrspadfoot said:Neither @bensmommy518 nor I have said we do not think you should be able to celebrate your successes, but there us an entire week devoted to breast feeding. There is no week celebrating moms who FF because it is best for their child.THaT is what perpetrates the mommy wars.
An UO, maybe? I think probably 75% of what we perceive as mom-war judgment is our own judgment of ourselves, projecting itself. (This especially extends to the BF/FF thing.) I think moms are harder on themselves than other moms are on each other. I don't know if I'm phrasing it right, but it makes sense in my head.
@bensmommy518 - I don't understand how celebrating breastfeeding can cause someone else mental/emotional harm. And if that is really occurring I feel bad for those mothers. But it sounds like many people on TB are holding onto self-imposed guilt on certain topics and then lashing out whenever the subject is brought up (not you, just bumpies in general).Maybe too much focus has been placed on BFing to the point where women can't fathom it not working for fear they are a "failure". Well, guess what - you didn't fail! Your child is growing and happy no matter which feeding method you choose.
**snip**See, I wish the decision to cover or not was left to the mom. Because as much as I don't want people to be uncomfortable, all they have to do is look away. I cover my boob down to DD's face. There's really not much to look at. I think people have this impression that women who nurse uncovered are being confrontational or cocky, like nursing uncovered is somehow a statement. The reality is, more often than not I'm sure, it's completely unrelated to the outside world at all. It's just what works best for you and your kid.