Miscarriage and 2 failed IUI's..discouraged

Discouraged31

Hi everyone, I am new to this but was wondering if anyone has gone through something similar to us. We got pregnant the first time we tried, but then had a missed miscarriage 2 months in.. I had a D&C in April and since then I have not been able to ovulate on my own. I took Provera but that didn't work..so we went to Clomid and did an IUI and we didn't get pregnant, so we just did our second IUI with higher dose Clomid and we had 2 eggs and a lot of sperm and yet we didn't get pregnant. The doctor is saying we should try one more IUI and then move on to IVF. It is just very frustrating to me to be resorting to IVF when we didn't have any fertility issues 7 months ago. The doctor had no reason as to why I haven't been ovulating on my own since the D&C. We want a baby so bad and are still feeling bad about the first loss and I am feeling discouraged that the IUI's aren't working. I can't help feeling like I should be 7 months pregnant and it was so easy for us to get pregnant but now instead I am having IVF discussions and still have a long wait ahead of us.. 

BethKate2

I'm sorry for your loss.

I am confused, though. You got pregnant right away in Feb. or March, and had a loss in April. After that you said didn't ovulate on your own, but for how long? April was only 4 months ago, and you've done 2 IUIs since then. A loss is devastating, but it can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant, so I'm curious as to why you only tried for a couple of months on your own before going to IUI.

ETA: What kind of testing did you have done before going on clomid and starting IUI? Do you have a diagnosis of some kind that made your doctor want to start IUI right away?

buggirl72

I'm sorry for your loss.

I agree with BethKate, this is very confusing.  It is very common for your body to need time to heal and get back to normal after a D&C.

To make things easy, I'm going to assume a 30 day cycle and that you had your D&C at the very beginning of April. So, if you had your D&C April 1st that would be day one of your cycle.

April 1 - expected period April 30ish
May 10ish - June 8 (provera forced cycle)
June 8 - July 7(failed IUI
July 7 - Aug 6 (failed IUI)

If the above is even close to accurate, find a new doctor.

Your body suffered a trauma when you had your D&C.  Not only do you need to wait until your HCG drops, but your body just needs time to heal. It is very common for women to not have a period in the 6 weeks post D&C. It seems like your doctor did not even allow that much time before putting you on a dose of progesterone to force your period to happen.  Again, your doctor did not let enough time to go by for you to ovulate on your own (you do not have to ovulate on or by CD14 - even if this was your normal pre-loss).

I would not continue with clomid and IUIs. There is no indication that you should be having/need this and I sure as heck would not be jumping to IVF.

I'm so sorry you are feeling discouraged, but, again, find a different doctor and let your body try to ovulate on its own. It may take awhile but try temping your basal body temp to see if you are just ovulating later in your cycle than you think.


ETA - just to add some ((((hugs)))) and make sure you know that no one is trying to give you a hard time.

Also, with your EDD coming up, your emotions are going to be really raw and it is pretty much impossible to not think about where you should be and how far along you should be. Allow yourself time to grieve and get through the next few months. More (((hugs))).

BethKate2

buggirl72 said:

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Your body suffered a trauma when you had your D&C.  Not only do you need to wait until your HCG drops, but your body just needs time to heal. It is very common for women to not have a period in the 6 weeks post D&C. It seems like your doctor did not even allow that much time before putting you on a dose of progesterone to force your period to happen.  Again, your doctor did not let enough time to go by for you to ovulate on your own (you do not have to ovulate on or by CD14 - even if this was your normal pre-loss).

This is a good point too. After my loss, I was told to call if my period didn't show up in 6 weeks. It's completely normal to wait that long (and even longer for some women). If the timeline we're envisioning is accurate, it seems like your doctor is seriously rushing things and you need to find a new one.

MSU_Girl1202

I'm so sorry for your loss.
As previous posters have said, a miscarriage is extremely traumatic, not just emotionally but physically. Most doctor's recommend waiting a couple cycles before TTC again. Also, it's very common not to ovulate "normally" or have "normal" periods for a while after the MC. I would definitely get a second opinion. Maybe this is just your body's way of telling you it's not quite ready? ((Hugs))

Discouraged31

Thanks everyone for your opinions! Buggirl your timeline is pretty close to accurate and BethKate I'm not sure why the doctor wanted us to start IUI's so quickly. He did some ultrasounds and saw that I was having LH surges but the follicles weren't maturing into eggs and said I should have been back to normal by that time so we should start the clomid to force ovulation. I did ask him if he felt like we should wait longer or do more testing but he said he didn't think so.. I will take all your good advice and get a second opinion. THANK YOU!

eliida

I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome, I hope you find comfort here.

Glad to hear that you plan on seeking a second opinion, that sounds like the right move.

shandorfml2

Discouraged31 said:

Thanks everyone for your opinions! Buggirl your timeline is pretty close to accurate and BethKate I'm not sure why the doctor wanted us to start IUI's so quickly. He did some ultrasounds and saw that I was having LH surges but the follicles weren't maturing into eggs and said I should have been back to normal by that time so we should start the clomid to force ovulation. I did ask him if he felt like we should wait longer or do more testing but he said he didn't think so.. I will take all your good advice and get a second opinion. THANK YOU!

DEFINITLY get that second opinion! I am so shocked your doc gave you clomid and did IUI without a bunch of testing, let alone giving you a year to try on your own. Good luck!

BethKate2

I'm glad you're planning to seek a second opinion. I'd also suggest, as @buggirl72 mentioned, that you TTC on your own for a while and chart your basal body temperature to see if you're ovulating. It seems as though you've only actually TTC without assistance for one or two cycles. Give your body a chance to see what it's doing/not doing on its own.

Good luck.

meredithcarole

Discouraged31 said:

Thanks everyone for your opinions! Buggirl your timeline is pretty close to accurate and BethKate I'm not sure why the doctor wanted us to start IUI's so quickly. He did some ultrasounds and saw that I was having LH surges but the follicles weren't maturing into eggs and said I should have been back to normal by that time so we should start the clomid to force ovulation. I did ask him if he felt like we should wait longer or do more testing but he said he didn't think so.. I will take all your good advice and get a second opinion. THANK YOU!

Yes, definitely get a second opinion. Something is not right with this course of treatment. Honestly, it sounds like the doctor is trying to make a profit. I am so sorry for your loss and your rough journey since then. Welcome to the board.

dawnstar898

Welcome and sorry for your loss!

katib77

Wow! Glad the ladies convinced you to get a second opinion. IUIs and IVF should be considered only after a year of ttc and unable to get pg or a known issue that has a established history- and then only after all infertility testing is done. A LH issue *just* after a m/c is almst to be expected which is why often people are told not to ttc for one to three cycles after... to give your body a chance to stablize after a trauma.

alm288

I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck - I hope you find another dr that can help you. I think a second opinion is needed. Welcome.

uromys

I'm sorry for your losses! Glad you are going to seek a second opinion. I really hope you find comfort here! (((Hugs)))

rmpar29

I'm very sorry for your loss.  The other women have given you great advice and I hope you run (not walk) away from this doctor.  Give your body sometime to heal and figure things out on it's own before seeking any more intervention.  I know how frustrating it is to not have it happen every month, but that doesn't mean any assistance is needed.  Only seek help if you've been trying for a year, or if you aren't seeing clear BBT shifts every month. 

rubysi

Welcome. I am sorry for your loss.

merc5411

I'm so sorry for your loss. Good luck with your second opinion. Hugs!

tigerlynx31413

Welcome to the board. I am so sorry for your loss and am glad you are going to look into a second opinion. Your body needs time to heal, and your doctor of all people should know that. Warm hugs!

tlc35

PP have given you good advice so I won't repeat it but I wanted to say that I also had a D&C in April and I'm very sorry for your loss.

StephieMK

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. Also, glad to hear that you're getting a second opinion!

graceanne927

I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss and on top of that it sounds like your dr has put you through unnecessary treatment too soon afterward...please go for that 2nd opinion and maybe attempt ttc on your own for awhile.   (((hugs)))

natalie115

Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm very glad you've decided to get a second opinion. I hope the next doctor gives you sounds advice and options that don't jump to IVF