I'm not sure how many of you have any advice on this situation but I thought I'd try because I'm in a really tough spot. Short background history (I'll try to be short)
My sister had a son when she was very young to a father that was never there. My parents raised him for the first two years. She met a man and they moved in together but he was a bad alcoholic so he went to rehab and my sister and her son moved back in. Once the man got out of rehab, he too moved in with my parents for about a year before they got back on their feet. They lived on their own for about a year, all the while my mom and dad helped out with bills, food, and school clothes. They ended up having a daughter together. Things were looking up for them until they both started using meth.
Things went downhill very fast and they ended up moving into a trailer that my parents owned so they wouldn't have to pay rent. They couldn't keep up electric there though, couldn't keep food even with food stamps. The kids now 10 and 6 started missing school a lot. Eventually DFS got involved. The man is an addict, always addicted to something. He is also abusive toward my sister and occasionally toward my nephew. DFS recommended that my sister and the children move in with my parents for thirty days while they worked on a safe plan.
What ended up happening however, is that DFS didn't come back. My sister ran off because doing meth is easier than being a parent. My parents just took care of the kids for six months...well last week DFS decided that the kids needed guardianship but my sister refused to let the kids stay with my parents so they gave both children to my niece's father. He tries to be a good man, he really does but time and time again he has failed. My nephew hates him. He doesn't want to live with him. He even said that he would kill himself if he had to stay there. My mother reported this to DFS and the lady very hatefully told her that the children were staying put even though they sleep on the floor there and my nephew hates it there. She also told my mom that if this situation doesn't work out they will give my nephew to his biological father.
His biological father is a convicted child molester, he molested an 11 year old boy, my nephew is 10, has never met him. The bio dad has only recently shown any interest in the child. When my mother told the woman this, she said "I'm aware of that." My mom sort of felt like it was a threat, like leave us alone or we will put your grandson with a child molester. She was speaking with the supervisor. Can we go over her head? They haven't even checked the home that the children have been placed in and the home owner is a violent felon. He has domestic assault charges. I don't feel like they are even remotely putting the children's best interests first and I feel like they are putting them in danger because they said they prevent taking custody of the children at all costs and my mom asked them, even the children? And she replied yes. They don't care what it costs the children as long as they don't have to pay for them. Are we being crazy like everyone seems to think?
TTC #1: February 1, 2014
BFP #1: 2/21/14 EDD: 10/31/14 MMC: discovered 3/31/14 (blighted ovum) D&C: 4/3/14 at 9w6d
BFP #2:12/18/14 EDD: 8/27/14 Beta #1 (16 DPO): 50 Beta #2 (18 DPO): 54 CP: 12/25/14 at 5w0d
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