I hope you don't mind if I ask a question on this board. If it is not appropriate, I am completely willing to remove it.
MH and I are expecting a child through a gestational surrogate in November. Using a gestational surrogate is interesting in that while the child will be biologically ours, I am not carrying and both mh and I are concerned about bonding we are missing out on now and how best to facilitate bonding once our child is born.
We anticipate being at the birth (our GC lives an hour from us, but delivers quickly!).
Can you please recommend resources (books, websites, YouTube videos, whatever) that have helped facilitate bonding?
I wish each of you the best on a tough journey!
TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012)
IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d,
FET #1 December 2012, BFN
FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!
GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!