newbie intro, loss mentioned, possibly stupid question as well

farniegal

Hello everyone. I use mobile mostly, so I don't have a siggy. I've been hanging around the mc board, but thought this topic might be more appropriate for this board...sorry if I'm incorrect.

DH and I had been trying for almost a year and seeing a specialist for his fertility issues...it work bc we got pregnant. My betas were not doubling at the rate they should and an u/s confirmed that I had a mmc. I am currently waiting for my betas to return to zero and then wait a full cycle to start trying.

Here's my potentially stupid question...
Since my cycle is all messed up, how do I know when I will ovulate so we can avoid DTD just before hand. OPKs say they are not good for preventing pregnancy bc if you have sex 2days before ovulation then you can still get pregnant. Are there any options besides condoms and abstinence? I want to follow my doctor's orders, but they haven't given me any clear instruction on how not get pregnant, granted I was rather emotional the last time I saw her. But the nurse did say condoms weren't necessary.

If you have any advice on how you've handle being benched, I'd appreciate it. If you don't and think my question is ludicrous, than I apologize and will try to take any snark with a grain of salt.

FWIW, I feel like an idiot asking, but off really love suggestions or stories on how you did it...well not did IT, rather how you stayed intimate while not getting pregnant.

Thanks!

Eta~ I've been cleared for sex by my doc. Prescribed Misoprotol by my doc to help my body with the process since it wasn't doing so naturally after 3 weeks confirmed mmc.

BethKate2

I'm sorry for your loss.

Have you been given the "all clear" to have sex again? I'm not sure when your loss was, but most women are told to wait at least two weeks (some longer) to avoid infection.

As far as not getting pregnant, there's no way of knowing days in advance when you will ovulate. Other than abstinence, condoms are your best bet.

farniegal

Thanks @BethKate2‌ I have been cleared for sex by my doc after my follow up u/s. Updated to include that info.

I'm not temping, DH counts had been do low we hadn't bothered with that yet, just opk. Maybe I'll need to start figuring out how temping works...thanks for the suggestion @Greeneyes842‌

farniegal

His counts are no longer low. They have gone up 98 times and is now considered quite fertile. So the shots 3 times a week finally paid off for him I'll check that out, I've been using a different app, thanks

Greeneyes842 said:

Check out www.fertilityfriend.com  they have all the tutorials that explain everything. I like temping because it helps to know that I did ovulate and what are our chances that cycle, as well as when to expect AF, and when to test.

 Honestly, if your DH has low counts and you're using condoms, you'll probably be fine until you're able to try again.

jjbmstinco

Pps have given you good advice. I just wanted to say welcome! I am sorry about your loss.

Km380

I'm sorry for your loss. We use condoms when TTA. It's annoying but it's only temporary

jennadesigns

Welcome to the boards. I'm sorry for your loss. PPs gave you great advice and temping and using FF to chart. I'm not a lot of help to the answer to your question as I had a hard time "getting back on the horse" after my loss and we ended up not being intimate until I was cleared by my doctor to try again. If we had, we would have used condoms until my temping showed I O'd and then do so without.

rslh10

Sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

eliida

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome, I hope you find comfort here.

stinybean

Welcome to the board. I'm sorry for your loss.

farniegal

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the warm welcome and advice.

If we DTD again we'll use condoms. I was wanting to bc I thought it would make me feel closer to DH, but I don't quite feel that way - and not bc of him. I still feel a little disheveled - for lack of better word - down there and I'm not sure I'm ready to get back to normal. Fortunately DH is very understanding and hasn't pushed me at all. I think I just need to give it a little more time.

BookishMomma

It looks like the others have covered your question, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss.

LilNugget19

I'm sorry for your loss, welcome.

tigerlynx31413

I just wanted to say welcome to the board. I am very sorry for your loss!

greenwl

Child mentioned.

 

Sorry for your loss.  I was cleared right away by my physician with both of my miscarriages as they were natural and early on in the pregnancies.  With my first miscarriage, my husband and I looked at the miscarriage as day 1 of a regular period and we got pregnant right away.  So, I ovulated when I normally would.  Again, this was with the permission of my physician that I could start right away.  With my second miscarriage, we were told we could try right away, but unfortunately we haven't conceived yet (this was in June).