Urinating in the park...

GalLaura

At the park yesterday, this woman let her son pee in the bushes on the playground right next to the swings. It's an area right in the middle of all the action. This is the second time I have seen this happen in a high traffic area so to speak. I obviously haven't gone through potty training yet but this child seemed closer to 4 or 5 and there are bathrooms nearby. At the very least, if it was an emergency, I would expect them to go somewhere a little more discrete. The same mom also had an unleashed dog on the playground. Dogs are not allowed on the playground at all. It's the second time I saw this. I was pretty annoyed and grossed out. What does j13 think of this?

I posted about this on a Sydney group that I belong too. I was ripped to shreds. Everyone was like who cars of kids pee in the park. It was so bad the moderator actually took my post down and apologized to me. I quit the group because people were vicious. Is it a cultural thing? Are Sydney sisters rude? Lol

I still think it was inappropriate and if it was an emergency should have been done away from where all the kids play. I really think it should have been avoided at all costs though. Many people posted boys will be boys etc. I think that's lame to hold boys to a different standard than girls. thoughts?

ColieAnn31

I think it's inappropriate for the boy to be peeing outside in public. Idk but I think it gives them the idea that it's ok to do and it can get them into a lot of trouble when they're older if they pee in public. I'm not going to tell Grayson it's ok to pee in public. There are (usually) public restrooms for a reason.

And with the dog, I would have said something to the lady about the dog. Most places have a law where the dog must be leashed. Does Sydney have a law like that? I'd be extremely concerned about safety and probably would have packed up and left. They can swear up and down that their dog is friendly but I don't trust dogs. We have a ton of them but they are never left alone with Grayson.

I don't think you are in the wrong with any of this. Maybe it's just a cultural difference? But I feel the same way you do.

bumpuser7846882

My cousin's son totally dropped trou at the playground and was peeing before she could stop him. He's 3, though, and she explained that when he needed to go, he needed to find a restroom.

amie444

I am not thinking this is not cool. We go to potty in the toilet. If a grown man had done that...well call the cops. If a parent chooses to turn their backyard into a urinal that is fine but not in a public park.

WasNotWas

Laura, don't take this the wrong way, but could those ladies just have not liked how you phrased your question? I can't see anyone being ok with public urination. Is it against the law there?

We discourage "going" outside because I'm terrified we will have a Big Daddy situation at school

GalLaura

Hi ladies! @WasNotWas‌ and @vasc no it seemed to be about as they call it "weeing" in public. I was told dogs do it, so why not kids! I'm learning it's very accepted here. @WasNotWas‌ I'm not offended at all. I thought the same at first. Then maybe two Aussie mom's agreed with me and ripped to shreds too.

Yes there are laws about dogs on leashes here too. I've never said anything to the people who are disrespecting the law but rather left the park. Maybe I should nicely say something?

LaBellaVida

Welp, I'm the minority here. Do I think it's OK for him to go in a Bush right next to the park where kids are playing? No. But I think it's fine for boys to pee outside, discreetly.
I've potty trained 2 boys, I'd rather them pee in a Bush or on a tree to avoid accidents.
They pee outside all the time at my IL's, granted is in the Middle of the woods.
I don't really see the big deal in it, you never know if he was potty training.

My husband and I were driving in Europe. We stopped at a rest stop on our way home, and a couple got out with their daughter. She was probably 4 or 5. They parked right in front of the restrooms. The dad went in, and the mom dropped her daughters pants and undies, bare butt, you could see the little girls vagina, and she held her daughter under Her knees in the air (like she was sitting) and in front of everyone the little girl peed. I thought, what in the world is this woman doing!? I'd never!! But then, I noticed everyone else that was around payed no mind to it. It was acceptable.
People driving down the freeway will stop on the side if the road and go, too. It's accepted there.
In America, this is so frowned upon. People get arrested for stuff like that. It's against the law!

Point is, it very well could be accepted there. Being an American yourself, you were probably taught differently.

ASmallWonder

Like right IN the park with a nearby bathroom? No, I think that kid needed to go to the restroom but in a more out of the way area, no big deal.  

Last night my brother took Aiden for a walk and A had to pee, apparently (they were quite a distance from the house).  When they got back A proudly told me that he had "Peed outside!!!" I laughed and then was like "Um, did Uncle P show you how to...you know..just pull your underwear down a little in the front?"  "No."  I looked at my brother and he goes "Yeah, he dropped the whole business.  I didn't know he didn't know how to pee without pulling his pants down." LOLOL

kelseypie

CL8badB said:

I think its ok for a boy to pee outside when the arent bathrooms right there. Considering the park had a bathroom id be annoyed too. Id side-eye the mom for it.
And dogs off of a leash are a no no. I dont care how well trained your animal is. An animal is an animal and you never truly know whats going through their mind. Its unsafe. Especially in a park full of kids.

All of this. I don't think you were wrong, especially if the kid was like 5 years old.

GalLaura

Thanks for your support ladies! I feel better now!

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I completely agree with @ColieAnn31‌

I avoid confrontations at all costs, but I would definitely say something about the dog if I felt there was a safety concern. Personally, I wouldn't say anything about the peeing. I would just give an exaggerated raised eyebrow disgusted look.