Need some DH help

luvboston

I am at the end of my rope. DH is away for work he travels 2-3 weeks a month. He used to occasionally check in and that was fine. Now he is texting constantly calling constantly and driving me nuts. He seems to think I have all the time in the world to talk to him when I do not. I was at work the other day and he texted to ask if I was working hard I wanted to smack him.
If I don't answer him back he just continues all day long to text and I have now decided to ignore him. He doesn't seem to understand that the world doesn't revolve around him.
He also had the nerve to ask me to Skype his parents when he knows I don't get along with them and LO screams when she talks to them. There his parents it's his job to deal with them.

He also is shooting orders at me that he needs me to send him a document and thinks he can just snap his fingers and it will get done.
When he was home last time he literally bugged me 10x about getting his dry cleaning like the world was going to end if he didn't get his pants.

And to top it off he told me I fed LO too much last night that's why her diaper leaked at 5 --( he's not even here she ate the same amount she always does.

How do I tell him to lay off he is so self centered.

Robeano

Hmm, that's a tough one. I know when my hubby gets more 'controlling' it's b/c he is feeling a loss of control.

Is there a chance he is freaking out a bit about the fact number two is on the way? Maybe he wasn't prepared yet. He might also be worried about you but he can't express it, so instead he's bombarding you with messages so you feel 'needed' (guys are weird that way) and with his parents, well I also don't get along with my in-laws very well and that does cause my hubby some pain. Maybe he is trying to encourage you to keep trying, but again can't express it? Maybd he feels bad he works so much and he knows in-laws don't see the grandbaby as much as they would like, maybe they are bugging him about Skype.

I just find that in general people usually aren't against you, they are for themselves. Something is clearly going on inside that man head of his, maybe he's not even aware yet.

Mrs.AmyDylan

I'm with ducky about sitting down without LO around. Ask him where the constant contact is coming from. Is he bored or stressed at work? Maybe his misses you guys? It could also be his way of showing support and concern with #2 on the way.

Maybe you can text him a picture of LO each day or so. Agree on a time or window of time that is okay for him to call. Let him know that it is hard with a busy toddler to get to anything right away, the phone, documents, dry cleaning will need to wait until it is convenient. 

Hugs and good luck. Btw, I would be a mess if DH traveled that much for work. 

Mnerani

Robeano- she took the words right out of my mouth. 

Sorry it's been hard lately!

mcgeeva

Robeano said:

Hmm, that's a tough one. I know when my hubby gets more 'controlling' it's b/c he is feeling a loss of control. Is there a chance he is freaking out a bit about the fact number two is on the way? Maybe he wasn't prepared yet. He might also be worried about you but he can't express it, so instead he's bombarding you with messages so you feel 'needed' (guys are weird that way) and with his parents, well I also don't get along with my in-laws very well and that does cause my hubby some pain. Maybe he is trying to encourage you to keep trying, but again can't express it? Maybd he feels bad he works so much and he knows in-laws don't see the grandbaby as much as they would like, maybe they are bugging him about Skype. I just find that in general people usually aren't against you, they are for themselves. Something is clearly going on inside that man head of his, maybe he's not even aware yet.

I agree with this as well. He isn't home a lot which I think in tern makes them loose their minds. DH travels a ton as well like yours and I will tell you this pregnancy he was a nightmare. Yet if I ask him a question during the workday it will be all day if I hear from him if at all. Then he is off to a work dinner and I'm too tired to talk at the end of it. I would tell him how you feel calmly and also address the skype. I don't get along with my in-laws so no one better dare as me to get online with them. It has to be when DH is home because it's just awkward. Two with working full time you are pregnant and beat with a child at home at the end of the day. Hang in there..he definitely needs to give you some more space. You are busy too