am I the only mom

momthatlifts

Who's child refuses to go to sleep????? It's 2 in the morning and she is squirming around fidgeting, fighting it. Won't take my boob. Won't take a bottle. Spits out her paci. But sucks on her thumb and hands aggressively. I'm losing my patience. I want to cry. It never ends!!!!!!!!!!!! If she isn't in her swing she just won't sleep at night. And tonight we don't have a swing. Is there something wrong with her? I hate to say this about an infant but I feel like I have the worst behaved baby at night.

What infant goes to sleep at 1 or 2 or 3 in the morning? We need to work on our day schedule better I guess. And I have tried it all.

This was just more of a late night vent.

waldothewiener1

I assume you do the 5 S's? Swaddling, white noise, vigorous bouncing and then when she's calmed down give her paci or boob? It's not common but we'll have a night like that on occasion and it takes longer but doing those things eventually works. And sometimes DS will stir once I put him down in is rnp, so then I'll take his shoulder and gently giggle him like we're still bouncing and that has worked well so far! Good luck, I know it's hard. I had a night like that last night myself.

momthatlifts

@Bliz1712‌ not YET. But I have a feeling we are headed in that direction. I'm going to put more of a limit on her naps today and see if that helps. I thought we had a good thing going but she has been really hard to get down since, well for as long as i can remember. Now she just wont sleep.

momthatlifts

anniemore said:

This happens to us when LO gets overtired. I generally just try to keep an eye on sleepy cues, don't let him stay awake for longer than 1 1/2 hrs (but closer to 1) before I put him down for a nap or bed, and I also put him down between 6-7pm. I think as they get older they really crave an earlier bedtime and end up teetering into that "second wind" phase that adults get too when you stay up past your bedtime. Then you pretty much have to wait until exhaustion to get them down.. it sucks Hope it all gets figured out! 

I have been working on getting her to bed earlier. For it a while it was pretty normal for her to go to sleep around 1. She was up much earlier today. She kind of slept in yesterday. I'm hoping this was a fluke. But like I said, she still was going to bed at around 1 for almost 2 months now. I just started getting her down around 10 or 11 but she still sleeps in with me. I just need to get up with her instead of forcing back to sleep. It's just so hard when you aren't sleeping

jenb_99

DD goes to bed at midnight. Trying to wake her earlier in the morning or keep her up more in the evening always backfires, so I don't even fight it anymore. I just do my thing and get myself and her all the way ready for bed so all I have to do is feed her when she's ready for her nightcap, then put her down and hop in bed. I figure she'll eventually grow out of it.

momthatlifts

jenb_99 said:

DD goes to bed at midnight. Trying to wake her earlier in the morning or keep her up more in the evening always backfires, so I don't even fight it anymore. I just do my thing and get myself and her all the way ready for bed so all I have to do is feed her when she's ready for her nightcap, then put her down and hop in bed. I figure she'll eventually grow out of it.

I was/am hoping that she will outgrow it too. I try to bring her in to my room where its quieter and calmer but she will only sleep on my chest. My mom took her last night and said she could tell her reflux was acting up so that could be why she was worse than usual

busterbeagle

My older DD always went to bed late (12-1 am) and after a fight. It got better eventually and she is an awesome sleeper now. But the first year was really hard. By 10 months she had a consistent nap routine and that helped tremendously with getting her to bed around 10 pm. At 18 months she started going down at 7 pm. It will get easier.

kristine526

No advice, but A usually goes down between 11pm-1am, so you're not alone there.

momthatlifts

Tonight she wont even let me or my mom put her down. The only way she is happy is looking over her shoulder at the tv or basically just being held. I want to cry. I'm just so over these horrible nights. I know its a bad idea but I am so tempted to just letting her sleep in her swing at night.

kristine526

I haven't been around much, but what is your ideal set up for where you'd like her to be sleeping, crib, pnp, rnp, etc? With A, I'll snuggle her until she falls asleep, then put her in her pnp. When she gets up to nurse, I'll keep her in bed with me away from pillows and blankets. Bed sharing isn't for everyone, but it's how her and I get as much sleep as we can. She seems to do well with the closeness and goes right to sleep. Up until this week she was doing amazing in the rnp until she figured out that she could push herself up with her feet when she didn't want to sleep.

Other things that have helped us, swaddling, sometimes arms in, sometimes arms out, depending on her mood. She's learning to roll, so she likes sleeping on her side. I'll get her to nap by holding a lovie and patting her back or butt until she finally falls asleep.

Could she be too hot or too cold? What is the room like that you're in? Too bright? Too loud? I came home from work one night and H said to me "she won't sleep" Well no shit, you have all the lights on and the tv blaring. So I got her in her pajamas, snuggled her with her paci in my bedroom with just a soft light on and she went right to sleep.

By any chance do you have a wubbanub? I thought they were silly until I realized it gave her something to clutch on to while she was able to suck on her paci.

Sorry so long, I'm just trying to rack my brain for things that have worked when DD has been fighting sleep.

Creepy internet (((hugs))) Being a mom is so hard, but you're doing great!

momthatlifts

kristine526 said:

I haven't been around much, but what is your ideal set up for where you'd like her to be sleeping, crib, pnp, rnp, etc? With A, I'll snuggle her until she falls asleep, then put her in her pnp. When she gets up to nurse, I'll keep her in bed with me away from pillows and blankets. Bed sharing isn't for everyone, but it's how her and I get as much sleep as we can. She seems to do well with the closeness and goes right to sleep. Up until this week she was doing amazing in the rnp until she figured out that she could push herself up with her feet when she didn't want to sleep. Other things that have helped us, swaddling, sometimes arms in, sometimes arms out, depending on her mood. She's learning to roll, so she likes sleeping on her side. I'll get her to nap by holding a lovie and patting her back or butt until she finally falls asleep. Could she be too hot or too cold? What is the room like that you're in? Too bright? Too loud? I came home from work one night and H said to me "she won't sleep" Well no shit, you have all the lights on and the tv blaring. So I got her in her pajamas, snuggled her with her paci in my bedroom with just a soft light on and she went right to sleep. By any chance do you have a wubbanub? I thought they were silly until I realized it gave her something to clutch on to while she was able to suck on her paci. Sorry so long, I'm just trying to rack my brain for things that have worked when DD has been fighting sleep. Creepy internet (((hugs))) Being a mom is so hard, but you're doing great!

She usually ends up in bed with me too. She doesn't seem to like her rnp at night. She will take naps, but when it's bedtime she wants to be as close as possible. Last night I just went to bed and nursed her laying down. She slept on her side the entire night. I do notice she seems to like her side more. She ended going to sleep around 11 and slept until 4 and then back to sleep until about 6.

So the problem I am running in to is her wanting to go to sleep on her own. Even if she sees me or hears me, she has to be touching...

And this is if she is not colicky. My mom said I was colicky and my oldest sister was really bad and she finally got to witness some of it herself and said she definitely has a bit of colic. But its not every single night.