Does it ever bother you when people are "too cautious"?

sept14

Today should be our son's 2nd birthday (we would have been a scheduled C) and it just has me thinking about a lot of things.  Instead, of celebrating his 2nd birthday today, I am wishing my niece a happy 1st birthday.  It seemed like a cosmic slap in the face last year with she was born on the day we should have delivered.  (Her parents didn't know he would have been born on 7/31, and I never mentioned that to them.)

In 2011, we announced at Christmas that we were 9 1/2 weeks pregnant.  We subsequently miscarried at 16 weeks.  The next year at Christmas, my brother-in-law and his wife announced they were 9 1/2 weeks pregnant.  I quickly realized they were due on the same day we had been due (August 4).  They knew when we had been due, and never told me the due date, even when I asked.  Throughout the whole pregnancy, they would never say when she was due.  It always felt to me like it was the elephant in the room.  I appreciated their sensitivity, but it was awkward to me because it actually felt like they were being overly sensitive.  

Have you had anyone gone really out of their way to not mention a pregnancy?  Does it/has it bothered you?

sailorgal

I agree with the above. I think we see on here people are far more upset when people aren't considerate or cautious so that's a higher risk. I think they meant well. 

That's largely why we haven't talked to too many people...I don't want people dancing around me but then I do get really sad when I go for mommy get togethers and it's all baby talk. They wouldn't be able to win with me! 

GraceyandTroy

It can hurt no matter what.  So I try to look at the persons intention more than the application.  But I know what you mean.

sept14

Thanks for the feedback.  I know they meant well.  It just always felt awkward and like I said I was thinking about "what should have been" the other night.