Roomsharing

Katey3223

So I've read some articles that say room sharing until at least 6months old reduces the risk of SIDS by 50% because the parents are checking on the baby more and are more aware of issues that could come up during the night because the baby is right there. I'm conflicted. My dr told me that at 4months we should be putting her in her crib and letting her self soothe to sleep and that she should sleep through the night and not need a middle of the night feeding. But 'research says' that room sharing till 6months is the safest against SIDS. I could put her crib in our room but then if I'm letting her self soothe to sleep or self soothe back to sleep in the middle of the night then she's going to be keeping us up. What are your drs telling you? What are your plans?

lavendergiraffes

I'm going to follow her cues and wait until I'm comfortable. Dd's room is on a different floor than us though so that makes a huge difference. Dr hasn't said anything but I've heard 6 mo as well.

Eta: Seriously with the picture.... Why am I a man and where is my picture?? It's been doing this all day! Stupid bump!

usernewname

Here's how my midwife explained it. They sau 6 months because many parents will put the baby in the crib close the door to the baby's room and go to bed with their room closed. So no one hears each other's sounds.

Baby needs to hear the sounds of their parents at night. Which reduces the risk. Apparently if things are too quiet.

DS is in his own bed 10 steps away. I don't hear every little noise but I'm sure he can hear us in his sleep. I also use white noise which adds to the noises as well.

Unfortunately though sids happen. Even if all precautions are taken.

bossyferg

We have DS in bassinet beside our bed and when he outgrows that, we will use playpen until 6 months. We also did this with DD. It was recommended to us by our Dr and at our prenatal class from the hospital. I let him self sooth now even in the bassinet but i can hear the different sounds he makes and when i need to get up for feedings. Some noises i sleep through now as well but i like having them close by.

dogsombrero

Jules is in his room in his crib. We leave both doors open and use a monitor. We are all sleeping much better. We live in apartment so there is a lot of noise constantly.

gutsysneakers

We just transitioned DD to her crib this week. She was in a cosleeper in our room. I would have kept her in there but she moves a lot and would get stuck sideways in it. She's 10 weeks old and has been doing great. She is right next door and we have both doors open, a ceiling fan going, and her white noise lamb.

I feel like if SIDS is going to happen it's going to happen. I don't want to spend my nights worrying about something I really can't prevent. I love her and provide her the safest environment I can. After that, what else can a parent do?

skyrockets

AJ in a crib in his own room since day one - takes me twelve steps to get from my spot in the bed to him. Both doors open plus a monitor. I feel comfortable with this but wouldn't with closed doors or separate floors.

haylo33

Our pedi said that room sharing only decreases the risk by 1-2% as opposed to back sleeping which reduces it 50%. The number of cases has been half of what it used to be with the back to sleep campaign. Obviously if co sleeping reduced by another 50% there would be no risk. Pedi said it is because no one sleeps well and babies don't get into that deep sleep

apinkpelican

LO is in her own crib in her own room (since week 7-8) and it's been good for all of us. She is swaddled in a sleep sack with a white noise machine and a ceiling fan. I have a video monitor and always make sure her face/nose isn't covered (she manages still to get the sleep sacks bunched if they aren't tight enough bc she wants to suck her hand so badly).
I feel that I do everything I can to keep her safe and feel comfortable with this arrangement. I feel that I still have a very close eye on her even though she is on the next room.

You need to do what you feel comfortable with. Sure there is still worry but I don't feel that I worry any more than I did when she was right next to my bed.

jenb_99

We're going to keep DD in the bassinet in our room till at least 4 months. Maybe 6. Then we'll put her in the crib in her own room. Our house is tiny and both kids' rooms are just feet from ours. We also use baby monitors and white noise machines.

hfooter

We transitioned DS around 6 weeks. All of us slept much better once we did that. We have a video monitor and put in white noise for him. He is now doing 5-6hr stretches compared to the 2hr stretches when he was in our room.

sthomas1222

Also, keep in mind STTN is defined as a 5 hour stretch, typically 12a-5a. And sleep is a parenting issue not a medical one unless it's affecting the health of the child (toooooo much sleep or barely sleeping ever). I've had a pediatrician tell me my 6 month old was manipulating me by waking up every hour screaming (literally screaming) and to just let her scream even if she vomits b/c the vomit bothers me more than her. Then to clean her up and put her back to bed to continue screaming. Thankfully I ignored her and ran straight to a GI doctor who upped her zantac and found she had MPI. I don't discuss sleep with doctors now unless it's truly concerning. And I keep in mind that there are nights where I STTN and there are nights that I toss and turn a lot and am up every hour even as an adult. How can I expect a new to this world baby to do something I can't do 100% of the time?

Mimaloo

DD is in our room only bc her room is on a different floor. 

deanna1313

I am really big on doing what you feel is best. Go with your gut. Some drs are old fashioned with that stuff and some go with more modern things and studies. 2mths isn't going to make a difference either way.
My little guy has reflux so I'm not putting him in his room until it gets better or he out grows this rock and play. I don't care what "they" say. Its better for me and my baby and if we have a hard time with transitioning later than oh well!
I think keeping them in with you until 6 mths makes sense. It's longer than I would have planned, but I may do it.

britab

Our pedi said when we feel ready it's fine. She's 8 weeks now and does a 7-8 hour stretch, so we are going to start trying her room in a crib. Right now she's in a rnp.

caballo718

I say you do whatever works for you and your situation. We have a 1br and are locked into our lease till June so looks like we are all roommates till he's a year old which I'm not happy about. I can see bad habits in the future. I'm hoping to sublet our apt and move into a bigger place before then.