Trying to be realistic.

KeiraS713

I want so bad to get pregnant my first try after my m/c (Like everyon else im sure) but i need to be realistic and realize there's a chance i could be waiting months..So, my question is how has everyone cycles and ovulation been since their loss? I've read that i may not ovulate after a m/c..I know i had my LH surge based on my opks but i haven.t started temping to know if i did actually ovulate. What was everyone AF like after too? I know everyone is different but im just trying to learn others stories and prepare myself. Hope this isnt a stupid post filled with stupid questions! LOL I been active in TTGP board and i know how some of the woman respond to dumb posts

KeiraS713

Ill take a look, thanks! Im pretty sure my cycle went back to normal as of now..According to my fertility chart I O'd or tried to at least within the week it said i normally would. But, as of what will happen once AF comes (if and when she comes) i have no clue...I've read that the first AF after m/c is heavy and long, So I'm just going to stock up on pads ahead of time just incase..It's still unreal to me that Im posting in this group. I don't want to be posting here (no offense) but at least some of the ladies here are in the same boat and can be of some support and give me some knowledge so i dont go insane. 

DenaMaree

I just concentrate on the things I can control! I'm eating healthy, getting to the gym several times a week, taking my prenatal vitamins/folgard/baby aspirin, getting 64+ oz of water a day, and tracking my ovulation through both temping and OPK's. I know I have 10% chance each month of getting pregnant and have no doubt when AF is due to arrive that I did everything each month to be successful. If I'm not then we are at CD1 and I'm excited for our new month to try again. Personally my cycles are heavier now then before and instead of 31 day cycles I'm at 34-36! I think it's important to find other goals, activities, adventures to look forward to/concentrate on so as not to put too much pressure on yourself. For me it's helped to look forward to the journey of TTC again and not to have expectations on when it could happen. In general I will say that I have a super laid back personality and whole heartedly believe that since I've been pregnant I know I can get pregnant; so it's up to my body on when that is going to happen again. Good Luck!

KeiraS713

Wow..You are so right. I have started to obsess a little over getting pregnant & that's exactly what i didn't want to do. I obsess over the opks and turned sex into a chore. This is only the first month and its not fun. Thank you so much for the response. I'm going to get through this 2WW and probably stop trying so hard (if i don't get a BFP)..No more OPK'S bc they are so stressful and keep me non stop guessing. Ill probably start temping next cycle and just stick to that. It so easy to obsess/worry after a m/c but its not healthy and def not going to make getting pregnant any easier. I swear your post was exactly what i needed to read. Thanks again!

rslh10

My first AF after my ectopic was normal, light even and came only a few days later than expected. The second was clotty and heavy. Everyone is different. Hopefully you did O and that way you'll know when to expect af.

jennadesigns

My first AF was very normal following my D&C. My second one was a bit heavier, longer and I had wicked cramps, which I never get. Everyone's body is different, you're just going to have to wait it out and see what yours decides to do. I do OPKs and temp each cycle and I figure that's enough obsessing... I know it can take over everything. I'm trying hard not to let it and finding other outlets (such as reading more books and sewing a quilt) to keep my mind off of it. Good luck.

MarinsMom

I'm pretty sure I ovulated 2 weeks after my loss (I got a positive OPK but wasn't temping, so I couldn't confirm) Then I got my first AF as expected, 2 weeks after that (26 days after the miscarriage) 

After that period we started trying again (BFN...) and I had another 26-day cycle that month too. Not sure if 26 is my new normal or if it will slowly creep back up to my old "normal" ...ill just keep temping and take it day by day. 

Good luck to you!