I'll start with an upbeat one: my MIL comes to town on Thursday and I can't wait! I love her and I love how wholly she loves us and I can't wait to see her interact with DS now that he has so much more personality!
@PinkDahLia44 my mil and I have a great relationship too. I love that we can really talk, she confides in me.
I felt bad this weekend. SIL's daughter is a year older than DD. When it was time to move to the next size up car seat DH and I had mentioned how much of a PIA it was moving the car seats from car to car and how we were going to get a second this time. Mil said not to because she has an extra from niece that no one is using. It had been bought as a third seat and had barely been used. Fast forward a couple weeks and I email her asking her to bring it when they come visit this weekend. She writes back how sorry she is but somehow it had been given away. I told her ok NBD at all. When she got to town she stopped by with a check so I could go buy a new carseat. She felt horrible that the one she had offered was given away. Then I felt bad because she felt bad. Totally not my intention, I am more than capable of buying a car seat. But she wouldn't take no for an answer and now Dd has a seat in both cars.
My MIL lives 5 miles away and hasn't seen DS in over 2 months. WTF. He is not going to know her and it'll be her own fault. She doesn't ask to see him. He's not allowed at her house because she smokes inside. She asks for pictures.... I don't get it. My parents are constantly inviting us over or coming over to visit him. They can't get enough.
I just don't understand it and it royally pisses me off because DH is so disappointed and hurt. Blah.
We're heading down to visit my mom and step dad in a few weeks. My ils reserved a hotel for 3 nights so they can visit too. Both of these sets of parents try to see Rachel at every opportunity even though they live several states away. My dad and step mother however have only seen her once. They just keep sending stupid gift like a creepy snoring bear.
My mom, step dad and in laws are great. My dad is absent with his granddaughter just as he was with me
We're heading down to visit my mom and step dad in a few weeks. My ils reserved a hotel for 3 nights so they can visit too. Both of these sets of parents try to see Rachel at every opportunity even though they live several states away. My dad and step mother however have only seen her once. They just keep sending stupid gift like a creepy snoring bear.
My mom, step dad and in laws are great. My dad is absent with his granddaughter just as he was with me
My FIL visits us from TX every opportunity he can get. My MIL has only visited once since DS was born. In November. FIL is coming this Thursday for the long weekend. Despite MIL being "semi-retired," she can't get off work and "doesn't like to travel anyway."
Thanks. I'll remember the effort being put forth when the pendulum swings the other way.
My FIL visits us from TX every opportunity he can get. My MIL has only visited once since DS was born. In November. FIL is coming this Thursday for the long weekend. Despite MIL being "semi-retired," she can't get off work and "doesn't like to travel anyway."
Thanks. I'll remember the effort being put forth when the pendulum swings the other way.
Can't wait to see my FIL on Thursday though!
This is my SIL. She came for DS's baptism (she's the godmother), but left her husband and DD at home. (???)
Also, we have lived in Texas for almost 4 years. This was not only the only time she visited since DS was born, but it is also the first time she has visited us at all...ever.
MIL has colon cancer, among other things that I am not really sure about bc we always hear different things. H and I don't know the whole extent of her illness, other than the fact that she tells us she doesn't have much time left.... she started dating another new guy 2 months ago, and she said she wanted him to know everything, so she had her doctor call him and update him on the extent of her cancer, and he was able to ask a bunch of questions. I mean wtf?? Your own son doesn't even know what's going on, yet you can have your latest fuck buddy call your doc AND have the doc fax over medical records to him!!?? This is NOT normal, right!!?!?
Oh, and when she was here two weekends ago, she was just telling us how great and sweet and gentle he is (just like she tells us all the others are) and then she says "and then we decided to take our relationship to the next level, I don't think I have to tell you what that means". To H and I, while eating dinner. GAG.
My MIL, as I've mentioned before, apparently gives no fucks. She lives states away, but she never really calls, texts, emails, etc. The last time we didn't hear from her or get a response in so long, I seriously was about to make DH call his aunt to check on her. Then she sent a Happy Father's Day text (surprisingly) to DH and asked us to send pictures of the baby. So I texted her a few and she didn't respond and still hasn't.
She has never met LO in person. I know she lives far away, but she had the money to fly DH's younger sister out last summer while I was cranky and pregnant and didn't want an extra child for 3 weeks. I'm not sure why she didn't save that money to come when he was born.
A few gems from our recent visit w/ IL's. I have transitioned to FF full time, and MIL is completely baffled by formula. She was all, what is that?? I said, it's formula. She said, does it have any sweeteners in it? I was like, uh....nope. Just lactose and vitamins, basically. She also suggested that we fold the seats down flat in the back of her Highlander and let the baby hang out and play with toys while we made a 2 hour drive (each way) to a memorial service. #thanksbutnothanks
Oh, and we were over visiting her house (we were staying at SIL's house) and she showed me a bicycle horn (the kind with a rubber bulb that you squeeze) she had gotten for SIL's 11 month old, and then squeaked it SUPER loud right in Cam's face. Scared the crap out of him, it was crazy loud like an air horn almost. Then she laughed at him being scared. #youareaweirdolady
She was trying to get my LO to eat with her plate sitting on top of her long bib (so she wouldn't make a mess) The plate n food ended up on the floor as I told her it would! We usually don't use bibs, because she always tries to eat it and it just gets in the way. If it's something messy like pasta, we just leave her in her diaper.
She was making LO and another baby sit on a blanket, and not sit on the carpet, because she thinks their drool will ruin the carpet.
When she holds LO she always keeps her back to me and tries to hide that I'm there. Drives me crazy
My MIL lives 5 miles away and hasn't seen DS in over 2 months. WTF. He is not going to know her and it'll be her own fault. She doesn't ask to see him. He's not allowed at her house because she smokes inside. She asks for pictures.... I don't get it. My parents are constantly inviting us over or coming over to visit him. They can't get enough.
I just don't understand it and it royally pisses me off because DH is so disappointed and hurt. Blah.
WOW. People's additctions really do drive weird behavior. And I have no issue with people smoking...do what you want, but come on! 5 miles away??? Wow.
Nothing much out of the ordinary...she's a Debbie Downer so, when talking about the new garage we are building, it was no surprise when she told me "GAH. Well good LUCK getting THAT to match the siding". And then infomred me that the great gandparents were in town and wanted to see the baby. And no one knew they were coming before the day of??? Doubt it. As it turns out, I did not drop everything and run over to see them.
My MIL lives 5 miles away and hasn't seen DS in over 2 months. WTF. He is not going to know her and it'll be her own fault. She doesn't ask to see him. He's not allowed at her house because she smokes inside. She asks for pictures.... I don't get it. My parents are constantly inviting us over or coming over to visit him. They can't get enough.
I just don't understand it and it royally pisses me off because DH is so disappointed and hurt. Blah.
WOW. People's additctions really do drive weird behavior. And I have no issue with people smoking...do what you want, but come on! 5 miles away??? Wow.
Right?!?! I don't mind smoking either, I just don't want DS sitting in a pile of smoke. I think it has to do with her drinking too. She'd rather sit there and get drunk than see her grandchild. SMH...
That sucks so many ladies here have crappy in laws. I had some tension with mine while I was pregnant but all that seems to be resolved and now we have a great relationship!
I don't know what I would've done with out her these last few weeks. I've been working a lot of 1st/3rd split shifts and she has done everything she can to make my life easier. Not only does she watch Thomas for me, she comes and gets him, drops him off, keeps him some extra time so I can find time to sleep.
Also, for my birthday on the 18th she surprised me and took me out for a pedicure and dinner at my favorite resteraunt because the money she gave me for my birthday got spent on diapers and formula. I might've cried I was so grateful!
We haven't heard from FIL and SMIL since we moved across the country. the major guilt trip we got for not seeing them at the holidays (hello, the roads go both ways).
MIL is going to be in VA 3 hours away from us next month. She expects my husband to drive out there so he can take her to dinner.
please say he didn't bite. Sorry, but she sounds awful
We celebrated my mothers bday yesterday at my house & my MIL baked my mom 2 cakes , a rice pudding dessert as well as pulled pork amongst other things. She and her 93yr old mother cleaned up for me after the party so I could give DD who didn't take a proper nap a bath. I feel very lucky to have their help.
Re: MIL Monday
I felt bad this weekend. SIL's daughter is a year older than DD. When it was time to move to the next size up car seat DH and I had mentioned how much of a PIA it was moving the car seats from car to car and how we were going to get a second this time. Mil said not to because she has an extra from niece that no one is using. It had been bought as a third seat and had barely been used. Fast forward a couple weeks and I email her asking her to bring it when they come visit this weekend. She writes back how sorry she is but somehow it had been given away. I told her ok NBD at all. When she got to town she stopped by with a check so I could go buy a new carseat. She felt horrible that the one she had offered was given away. Then I felt bad because she felt bad. Totally not my intention, I am more than capable of buying a car seat. But she wouldn't take no for an answer and now Dd has a seat in both cars.
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My MIL lives 5 miles away and hasn't seen DS in over 2 months. WTF. He is not going to know her and it'll be her own fault. She doesn't ask to see him. He's not allowed at her house because she smokes inside. She asks for pictures.... I don't get it. My parents are constantly inviting us over or coming over to visit him. They can't get enough.
I just don't understand it and it royally pisses me off because DH is so disappointed and hurt. Blah.
My mom, step dad and in laws are great. My dad is absent with his granddaughter just as he was with me
My ILS are quirky but at least they can get their shit together enough to come all the way from Florida to visit.
My dad lives a single days drive away, has visited once and has never even held LO. Absent in his life just he was in mine. Solidarity @WhenInRome11
My FIL visits us from TX every opportunity he can get. My MIL has only visited once since DS was born. In November. FIL is coming this Thursday for the long weekend. Despite MIL being "semi-retired," she can't get off work and "doesn't like to travel anyway."
Thanks. I'll remember the effort being put forth when the pendulum swings the other way.
Can't wait to see my FIL on Thursday though!
Also, we have lived in Texas for almost 4 years. This was not only the only time she visited since DS was born, but it is also the first time she has visited us at all...ever.
@Pinkdahlia44 - Ugh! I'm sorry you experience something similar.
Oh, and when she was here two weekends ago, she was just telling us how great and sweet and gentle he is (just like she tells us all the others are) and then she says "and then we decided to take our relationship to the next level, I don't think I have to tell you what that means". To H and I, while eating dinner. GAG.
She has never met LO in person. I know she lives far away, but she had the money to fly DH's younger sister out last summer while I was cranky and pregnant and didn't want an extra child for 3 weeks. I'm not sure why she didn't save that money to come when he was born.
Oh, and we were over visiting her house (we were staying at SIL's house) and she showed me a bicycle horn (the kind with a rubber bulb that you squeeze) she had gotten for SIL's 11 month old, and then squeaked it SUPER loud right in Cam's face. Scared the crap out of him, it was crazy loud like an air horn almost. Then she laughed at him being scared. #youareaweirdolady
She was trying to get my LO to eat with her plate sitting on top of her long bib (so she wouldn't make a mess) The plate n food ended up on the floor as I told her it would! We usually don't use bibs, because she always tries to eat it and it just gets in the way. If it's something messy like pasta, we just leave her in her diaper.
She was making LO and another baby sit on a blanket, and not sit on the carpet, because she thinks their drool will ruin the carpet.
When she holds LO she always keeps her back to me and tries to hide that I'm there. Drives me crazy
I could go on and on !
WOW. People's additctions really do drive weird behavior. And I have no issue with people smoking...do what you want, but come on! 5 miles away??? Wow.
I don't know what I would've done with out her these last few weeks. I've been working a lot of 1st/3rd split shifts and she has done everything she can to make my life easier. Not only does she watch Thomas for me, she comes and gets him, drops him off, keeps him some extra time so I can find time to sleep.
Also, for my birthday on the 18th she surprised me and took me out for a pedicure and dinner at my favorite resteraunt because the money she gave me for my birthday got spent on diapers and formula. I might've cried I was so grateful!