FFFC

PoppySeedWindsor

Didn't see it sooooooo GO!

strawberrytree

One time I nommed so hard on my baby's chunky thigh that I left a mark.

eireyes

Aiden and I have been sick this whole week, so I've been downright exhausted.  I was rocking him to sleep like I usually do with my cheek against his head like he likes, and I managed to rock us both to sleep.  When DH woke me up my head was still against Aiden's, but I'd managed to leave a nice drool spot on the top of his head...  ">

Ashleypixie

^ both characters are exactly how I pictured them in my head. I didn't want to see it but I might after seeing the trailer too!

smushi

embear22 said:

I know a lot of people think the 50 shades books are poorly written and I COMPLETELY agree, that said, after watching the trailor for the movie yesterday im stupid excited to see it. Lols. At first I was all BOO this dude sucks and then at the end I was all 'he'll do. Yep. He'll do. Haha this probably should go in RTT.

I thought the book was pure trash, and I laughed when I heard they were making a movie, but after seeing the trailer, it actually looks really well done, possibly.  It could be the first time in history that the movie is better than a book.

AmberLiz99

I'm doing a preschool coop with some friends this fall for my 3 year old ds. I think it will be the best thing for him, but part of me wishes he was going to a preschool program where I didn't have to help teach him.

Ashleypixie

Confession: I have no idea how to clean so sometimes I pour pine sol all over the floor and push it all around with a swiffer. Then when my husband comes home I act like I busted my ass cleaning all day.

LaNorte

I have no idea how to do gifs. It makes me sad, because I love gifs.

AmberLiz99

aronie82 said:

Aside from known medical issues I don't understand why a mother wouldn't at least try breast feeding. How do you know it's not for you if you don't try it?

I was about to go off on this, but in the spirit of "flame free" I'll just say I didn't try bf with ds, I did with dd. I don't regret any of it, they were both the right choices for those times in my life.

mamahann

DD is almost 17 weeks and I have yet to nurse in public. 

The NE A14 meetup tomorrow will probably be the first time I do it and I'm pretty anxious about it  

Ebeauchamp13

While I make dinner every night, LO sits in his bouncy seat in front of the tv and watches jake and the never land pirates. He can't stop smiling and talking to the tv. Whatever makes him happy and content while I cook is ok with me.

BeckyF82

As DD cries unless she can sleep on me during the day, I have to eat one handed with her on me. I have no co ordination and so regularly drop forkfuls of food all over her and then just eat the food straight off of her. Yesterday she was covered in BBQ sauce and rice and I just licked her sleepsuit clean.

sking72

I bought a mesh bumper yesterday. Never thought I would, but the only reason LO wakes up at night in her crib is because a limb gets stuck. She screams, I get up, move the limb, she's back asleep. The mesh bumper will save us both those three unnecessary waking moments.

MamaFantastic

@MaiTaiBeth‌ I know what PF stands for, but I always read it as "Planet Fitness" in my head when I see your posts

Ashleypixie

Oh, and I get really judgy at the people who pop up as point leaders on the boards. That means they post a whole hell of a lot, or maybe I just don't understand how it works, but it's always the same people. What do they do all day?

MamaFantastic

mamahann said:

DD is almost 17 weeks and I have yet to nurse in public. 

The NE A14 meetup tomorrow will probably be the first time I do it and I'm pretty anxious about it  

I can almost guarantee you all will see my boobs tomorrow too. I'll go first if it makes you feel better!

mamahann

MamaFantastic said:

DD is almost 17 weeks and I have yet to nurse in public. 

The NE A14 meetup tomorrow will probably be the first time I do it and I'm pretty anxious about it  

I can almost guarantee you all will see my boobs tomorrow too. I'll go first if it makes you feel better!

I usually bring a bottle of pumped milk if we're going out with people so I can avoid it but I've been having supply issues pumping at work and I need her to be on the boob as much as possible on weekends. I don't know what I'm so afraid of to be honest. I'll definitely feel better knowing I'm not the only one doing it. 

Also second FFFC I cannot stop playing the stupid Kim Kardashian Hollywood game on my iPad. I play it while I pump and while I nurse at night and now I've started playing it while I'm at my desk at work. 

SoulTermination

I doubt this one will stay flame-free, but I need to get it off my chest:

Half the time (or more >.>) when DH gets home from work I act super tired so he'll take A and spend the time getting her to sleep because frankly, after an entire day of looking after her alone... I just don't want to anymore. Poor guy's looking pretty exhausted (though I'm not exactly at Sonic the Hedgehog levels of energy, either).

Cecilbear

eme520 said:

I think some people don't try BFing because it just isn't done or supported in their community. Most of the women I work with don't want to BF until we talk them into it.

So I guess my FFFC: On the opposite end, BFing was so hard for me I'm not sure I would have continued with it if I hadn't felt social pressure to do so. In the end, I'm glad I stuck with it, but man it truly sucks sometimes.

Yes! At four days old, DD landed in the ER bc she was dehydrated. Her doctor tried to bully and shame me into FF. At that point I was hating BF-ing so much I was ready to quit. If it weren't for my mom insisting the hospital send down the most wonderful lactation consultant in the world, I'd have given up right then and there. I really don't care what other mothers and families choose to do, but I'm really grateful for my mom swooping in at that moment in the er when I was totally vulnerable. Almost three months in, I really love BF-ing and think it's so convenient!

Ashleypixie

SoulTermination said:

I doubt this one will stay flame-free, but I need to get it off my chest: Half the time (or more >.>) when DH gets home from work I act super tired so he'll take A and spend the time getting her to sleep because frankly, after an entire day of looking after her alone... I just don't want to anymore. Poor guy's looking pretty exhausted (though I'm not exactly at Sonic the Hedgehog levels of energy, either).

Flameless. Our days are still long and we need a break, and if faking exhaustion is what it takes then whatever.

PoppySeedWindsor

dani+california said:

Sometimes reading how much everyone misses their LO when they're apart makes me feel like a douche. At the wedding I was in a couple weeks ago, we were gone all day and one of the groomsmen asked me at night 'so, you miss your little guy?' I didn't even hesitate before I said 'ha, no!' and he seriously looked taken aback. I was gone 12 hours not 12 days! I was appreciating the adult time and hanging with friends. From now on I'll just say yes to avoid the side-eyes.

I feel the same way. Hubster gets mad at me because I don't kiss her goodbye every time I leave her. Admittedly, I probably should in case something awful and tragic happens while we're apart but I'm just going to go with the fact that I think more optimistically than that. Plus I see her all the ding dong day.

My FFFC: Friday mornings are the ONE day I have to go into the office. At 7. In the morning. It's a 30 minute car ride and I have to take Merri with me. I called today and said I got a flat tire on the way in when really I stayed in and snuggled her while watching Pitch Perfect. Yay Friday mornings.

zoopsiedaisy

Cecilbear said:

eme520 said:

I think some people don't try BFing because it just isn't done or supported in their community. Most of the women I work with don't want to BF until we talk them into it.

So I guess my FFFC: On the opposite end, BFing was so hard for me I'm not sure I would have continued with it if I hadn't felt social pressure to do so. In the end, I'm glad I stuck with it, but man it truly sucks sometimes.

Yes! At four days old, DD landed in the ER bc she was dehydrated. Her doctor tried to bully and shame me into FF. At that point I was hating BF-ing so much I was ready to quit. If it weren't for my mom insisting the hospital send down the most wonderful lactation consultant in the world, I'd have given up right then and there. I really don't care what other mothers and families choose to do, but I'm really grateful for my mom swooping in at that moment in the er when I was totally vulnerable. Almost three months in, I really love BF-ing and think it's so convenient!

This was our exact situation. If not for a really cool resident and the most amazing OT lactation consultant with a nipple shield I would have stopped too. Watching her get an IV and feel bad because of me was awful. But now being able to EBF is awesome and I wouldn't change it for the world. But that's me! No judgement otherwise.

Holljade

A friend of mine who has a 5 month old was telling me about going on an overnight trip for work and how she was sad to be away from baby for two days and a night.


I couldn't even hide it from her that all I could think about was the fact she would be in a quiet room with clean sheets. And fucking room service. Eating a meal in peace.

I told her to try and enjoy it.

Teresa1896

I have a friend who had no medical issues or "reasons" not to bf; she just thought it was "gross." For someone who went through the grossness of pregnancy, labor and delivery, to be grossed out by BFing seems very immature.
But I kept my feelings to myself. At the end of the day I don't care how anybody feeds their kid.

PoppySeedWindsor

Teresa1896 said:

I have a friend who had no medical issues or "reasons" not to bf; she just thought it was "gross." For someone who went through the grossness of pregnancy, labor and delivery, to be grossed out by BFing seems very immature. But I kept my feelings to myself. At the end of the day I don't care how anybody feeds their kid.

I kind of sort of get this. I don't mind when she's nursing, but I have a really hard time expressing and pumping because seeing (and hearing) milk come out of me makes me really nauseated.

My sister didn't BF because she 'didn't find it fun' and 'wanted to drink.' Oy. I also kept my mouth shut.

lokimau

I just spent two weeks on vacation at my moms trying to find an apartment in Florida while DH had to stay and Georgia. I got back yesterday and lost it. I super cleaned the apartment before I left and it was absolutely disgusting. Greasy pots in pans piled in the kitchen since. Pistachio shells on the carpet on the living room. Completely full catbox (the cat was shitting on the floor next to it) dirty clothes all over the bedroom floor. Nasty leftover in the fridge. I was livid pissed. Yes he worked the whole time but that is no excuse to live in a shithole.
I screamed and started a big fight about it but honestly I actually like cleaning and even if he has kept it partially clean, I still would have redone it when I got home.

tamaraaaa

Way off current topic but it's never stopped me before....

I watch Don't Be Tardy and I think we are totally like Kim and Kroy. I don't wear wigs, but some of the stuff she says and the way they joke is totally us. When she was giving birth, it could have been us completely... I said some of the same stuff word for word. I feel like I should be taking a good look at my life/choices after this, but eh.

SoulTermination

Cecilbear said:

Yes! At four days old, DD landed in the ER bc she was dehydrated. Her doctor tried to bully and shame me into FF. At that point I was hating BF-ing so much I was ready to quit. If it weren't for my mom insisting the hospital send down the most wonderful lactation consultant in the world, I'd have given up right then and there. I really don't care what other mothers and families choose to do, but I'm really grateful for my mom swooping in at that moment in the er when I was totally vulnerable. Almost three months in, I really love BF-ing and think it's so convenient!

This reminds me of the head LC the hospital when A was born. A was in danger of losing too much weight because my milk hadn't come in yet and her pedi said we should supplement with formula. When DH mentioned that to one of the student nurses who was getting ready to give A her Hep vaccine, the LC shot him a death glare and DH was all deer-in-the-headlights, lol.

mamahann

eme520 said:

The "gross" thing is really interesting. I worked in a NICU on both the west coast and now on the east coast. When I met with the head of lactation here, who is a very well known researcher in the field, she about had a heart attack when I asked if they counsel women on hand expression/compression during pumping. Her response is that the women here think boobs are "gross" and "don't do that". Clearly, not all women, but in general the culture here thinks that way.

That is really interesting! I'll say that I was the last of 5 friends to have a baby. I'm the only one who is breast feeding and the only one who didn't have a c-section. It's made me curious if either of those are a regional thing, age thing or just my group of friends.

hpanabaker

I also find it rude when people see me bottle feeding LO and say "oh, you're not breastfeeding?".  Like I'm a horrible mother, so then I feel the need to explain myself for something that is none of their business.

My FFFC: I took my LO shopping at the LCBO (Liquor Store)...it felt weird.

MrsZ0811

SoulTermination said:

I doubt this one will stay flame-free, but I need to get it off my chest: Half the time (or more >.>) when DH gets home from work I act super tired so he'll take A and spend the time getting her to sleep because frankly, after an entire day of looking after her alone... I just don't want to anymore. Poor guy's looking pretty exhausted (though I'm not exactly at Sonic the Hedgehog levels of energy, either).

No flames here. I had straigh up told DH when he walked in the door that he had to take the baby and the only time I planned on holding her that evening was when he was using the bathroom. I am such a cuddle person and even I get "touched out" from holding her all day. Caring for a baby is a ton of work!

Serenla

MamaFantastic said:

mamahann said:

DD is almost 17 weeks and I have yet to nurse in public. 

The NE A14 meetup tomorrow will probably be the first time I do it and I'm pretty anxious about it  

I can almost guarantee you all will see my boobs tomorrow too. I'll go first if it makes you feel better!

My boob will be flying out as well, it's going to be a boobathon.

hordol

DS made his first trip to the liquor store at like, 5 days old. I've never worried about what people think so whatever, they can judge my parenting all they want. DH worries about that though so it kind of makes me laugh when he gets all weird about it (and when he gets weird about me nip without a cover. Lol)

Emily041285

After a long week of a needy, sleep regressed baby and needy, demanding employees I'm "working from home" today. I have zero plans to shower and won't open my laptop if I don't have to.

Serenla

eme520 said:

The "gross" thing is really interesting. I worked in a NICU on both the west coast and now on the east coast. When I met with the head of lactation here, who is a very well known researcher in the field, she about had a heart attack when I asked if they counsel women on hand expression/compression during pumping. Her response is that the women here think boobs are "gross" and "don't do that". Clearly, not all women, but in general the culture here thinks that way.

I can't wrap my head around that, but then again I have no shame and I walk around my house with out a shirt on and the Windows wide open. Maybe I'm just weird.

I guess that is my confession, it drives DH nuts that the windows are open and I have nothing on from the waste up. I just don't care, the baby is blocking most of the view anyway.

hordol

Serenla said:

eme520 said:

The "gross" thing is really interesting. I worked in a NICU on both the west coast and now on the east coast. When I met with the head of lactation here, who is a very well known researcher in the field, she about had a heart attack when I asked if they counsel women on hand expression/compression during pumping. Her response is that the women here think boobs are "gross" and "don't do that". Clearly, not all women, but in general the culture here thinks that way.

I can't wrap my head around that, but then again I have no shame and I walk around my house with out a shirt on and the Windows wide open. Maybe I'm just weird.

I guess that is my confession, it drives DH nuts that the windows are open and I have nothing on from the waste up. I just don't care, the baby is blocking most of the view anyway.

I do this too, and DH also thinks it's a bigger deal than I do haha.

Rrrrrachel

I'm just getting out of bed.

bacorrea

I don't understand bedtime questions. DD goes to sleep whenever she is tired. Sometimes she STTN (5hrs) sometimes she wants to eat a couple of times. We have zero routine, I just follow her cues. It seems to work for us.

Rrrrrachel

I'm a big breastfeeding advocate. I wish everyone would at least try it and ideally do it for at least six months. However, it us a really complicated thing for a lot of women for a lot of reasons, some of which I'm sure I've never even thought of. And sometimes "I just don't want to" "it's not for me" or "it's gross" are used to cover up other reasons the woman might not feel comfortable admitting. Ultimately it's none of my business and I think it's rude to ask.

smushi

I thought my phone was vibrating.  Turns out I was sitting on the monkey teether...

hordol

My fffc is pretty lame, but I always have to gloss over any post where someone is talking about how much milk they pumped because I always get irrationally jealous.