I am way too impatient >:(

WishUponAChild

We have talked about what we do during our TWW but what do you do in between AF and your O day to keep your mind off waiting to try again? I feel completely powerless, at least during the TWW I have something to hope for.  I have read about what happens to some of us during the IUI and IVF prep so I bet your TWW almost feels like a little Vacay for your Vag….

I am type A and feel at ease with I am focused on something, so just waiting to O is worse than the TWW for me.  

WishUponAChild

BTW if I ever say something stupid I am sorry. I don't mean to insult or hurt someone. I really appreciate the community here and this is the only place I can actually ask these questions. So thank you!

catlover790

I agree the waiting to O is very nerve-wracking. I am worrying will i O? How many follies will I have? Etc. Anyway, I am trying to keep busy with things around the house, reading, reorganizing some rooms, visiting friends, cooking nice dinners. I'm also spending time researching a lot of things related to IF and costs so I know what to expect. I find it's hard not to think about though! For me the best activities are where my mind is occupied like reading or watching a movie. if I'm focused on the plot I'm not thinking about it!

bravegrace22

Since we were told to really TI, like nothing at all after AF ends to first +opk, I feel worse for DH lol, but I think doing opk has actually helped keep me focused and waiting for that positive is exciting. Plus, I think of it as time to do things I won't have the brain for once i'm in the TWW cause all bets are off then  

WishUponAChild

I have been thinking about reorganizing the whole house then have a garage sale! If I start to read a good book then I can't put it down... like I might have an actual problem.... I love to host parties but it is hard to get people involved sometimes.

steen9713

I'm the same I'm very impatient too. It's a frustrating cycle. And it doesn't help that AF really messes with my emotions. So I try to keep busy at work and. When I'm home I clean -ALOT. Doesn't help that I have OCD too best of luck let me know of you find anything better that helps keep your mind off of it.

CarSaidYes

I always bake, mani and pedi, facials, massages. I do things I enjoy doing when budget allows. I try not to talk about it or think about it for that matter.

WishUponAChild

CarSaidYes said:

I always bake, mani and pedi, facials, massages. I do things I enjoy doing when budget allows. I try not to talk about it or think about it for that matter.

I wish I could stop thinking about it. It is like all I can think of. I think in part it is because before treatment there was zero chance we would get pregnant, not there is at least a snow balls chance in hell and so I just want to try but with there only being 1 to 3 days a month that actually makes is possible, I feel like the other 28 days are wasted time.

WishUponAChild

I am so glad I am not the only one!

@viola27 good luck on your new house!

BunnyBerry

I have kind of the opposite feeling from you, actually. I feel like the first part of a cycle is more active on my part, thinking of timing intercourse and IUI, temping, making sure to BD so he has properly fresh sperm, and basically just enjoying that all the possibilities are ahead of me. I think it also helps that the hormones at that stage put me in a better mood to enjoy BDing, and I'm less bloated before O so clothes fit better and I just feel better. Once I O, I feel really fatalistic that either I'm pregnant or I'm not. That wait is so awful that I just enjoy being in the follicular phase when the chance comes.

juneroses

I think waiting sucks, too. I tend to get, um, 'intense' about things sometimes, and having no control over this doesn't help.  I bump, and learned quilting.

WishUponAChild

Sometimes I wonder if I would really be this much of a control freak if my life wasn't so out of my control.

KimL725

As someone who has been off birth control for a year and still haven't ovulated, I have perfected the art of waiting.  A good book is a must, wine, house projects, plan a vacation, adopt a pet, try new recipes, visit friends.  Basically just enjoy what you can.  If not you will go crazy, and regret wasting so much time not really living life.

WishUponAChild

Fightersince83 said:

DH & I usually start to HIO around CD7 until just before AF is expected. From the charting I have done it looks like I'm a late O'er but he doesn't need to know that We have fun in the process and "warm up" for the big fertile days. It helps to reconnect us I think because all this TTC/loss/IF business sucks balls. ETA: we BD every other day during that time.

what does HIO mean?

catlover790

WishUponAChild said:

Fightersince83 said:

DH & I usually start to HIO around CD7 until just before AF is expected. From the charting I have done it looks like I'm a late O'er but he doesn't need to know that We have fun in the process and "warm up" for the big fertile days. It helps to reconnect us I think because all this TTC/loss/IF business sucks balls. ETA: we BD every other day during that time.

what does HIO mean?

Hump it out =sex!