Quick question....hope I'm in the right place to ask

pinkglitterfly

Hi ladies. Long story short I found out at my 9 wk apt that we had lost the baby. I had a D&C on 6/27. My dr said that we should wait a cycle to try again. He also said the I wouldn't ovulate anytime soon as it was to close to the D&C. Last week I was supposed to have af but the dr said there was no way, but I know my body. Well I took a opk test yesterday and got a neg. Took one this morning with fmu and got a high reading. With this result my cycle is right on schedule. I'm so
Confused because of what the dr said.
My question is who waited for their first full cycle to ttc again?

megbmeg

I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm not sure I understand your question.

ETA: we did wait for a cycle after our first loss and for two after our second. We figured my body and our hearts needed a chance to heal.

ETA #2: I understand a bit better now after reading other responses. I'd advise waiting for the next cycle. I know it is hard to wait after loss, and it feels like getting pregnant ASAP is the only possible thing that will help. At the same time, it is really important to be kind to your body and listen to your dr's advice. Hang in there!!

KMW08

pinkglitterfly said:

Hi ladies. Long story short I found out at my 9 wk apt that we had lost the baby. I had a D&C on 6/27. My dr said that we should wait a cycle to try again. He also said the I wouldn't ovulate anytime soon as it was to close to the D&C. Last week I was supposed to have af but the dr said there was no way, but I know my body. Well I took a opk test yesterday and got a neg. Took on this morning with fmu and got a high reading. My question is who waited for their first full cycle to ttc again?

You won't find anybody here who will tell you to go against your doctors orders. Since your doctor advised waiting 1cycle, wait 1 cycle.

If you really are ovulating right now, is waiting 20-30days for your next ovulation that big of a deal? NO. Wait.

How much guilt would you feel if you didn't wait, got pg and had another miscarriage? Would you blame yourself for not waiting? Give your body time to heal. D&C's can be really rough on your uterine lining. You want a nice thick lining for implantation.

DenaMaree

I had a D&C on April 8th and we were actually told to wait two cycles and I didn't think twice about listening to our RE's recommendation! From what I was told it's my understanding it's incredibly important to have that first AF in order to clean out any left over debris from the procedure. I bled for fourteen days post D&C so thought for sure I would have completely cleaned out. When my first cycle post D&C did come (for me it was nearly three  months post D&C) there was a ton of debris that was still flushed out. Our RE's recommendation to have a second cycle before we TTC was it would give our lining a chance to truly build back up! I completely agree with the other lady's, definitely follow your medical professionals advice!! Best of Luck!

carlsonbaby2014

@pinkglitterfly - so sorry for your loss.  I was advised to wait one cycle after my D&C and I followed that knowing the importance behind it.  You need to give your body time to rebuild the lining in your uterus.  There are other reasons, too.  Sometimes D&Cs are not successful at removing all of the tissue and some can be retained.  Waiting one full cycle is a good indication, with minimal invasion, that the D&C was successful and that your body is recovering well.  There are a lot of reasons why we're told to wait and I highly encourage you to heed your Doctor's advice.  

In addition to the physical reasons, I was glad to have an emotional reprieve as well, to allow myself the time I needed to grieve my first loss.  I didn't think I wanted that at first, but it ended up being the best thing for me.

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I'm very sorry for your loss. 

AF came almost exactly a month after my D&C like clockwork, so I think it's very possible your cycle is on schedule. That being said, please listen to your doctor about waiting. I know how hard that can be when all you want to do is jump back on the horse and try to replace what you've lost. But trust me, you need at least that cycle in between to heal both physically and emotionally. ((Hugs)) to you.

KJsbabe

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a normal cycle following my D&C. I ovulated and got at AF at my normal times. It's entirely possible you are having a normal cycle, but every woman is different and every loss is different. I do agree with the other ladies that you should wait the recommended one cycle before trying again. It's important for both physical and emotional healing.

chicagojackie

Wait as PP have said. We got pregnant with this baby the second cycle after mc. There is plenty of time. Let yourself recover.

Eliz77

As PPs have stated, your Dr knows best. After my 1st loss, which was a MMC with D&C, my Dr said to "wait one normal cycle." I remember feeling impatient and eager to try ASAP, and thought having to wait for "dating purposes" (read it online) seemed pointless. But then I asked my Dr more questions and read more online, and realized a D&C is pretty traumatic on the body and that made me wait two cycles (when my 1st AF was not my "normal.") 

I will add this...we got pregnant on the 2nd month trying after D&C. That ended as an EP. I had two different RE's theorize that since my HSG and SHG were clear, it was possible my uterus was a hostile environment, so the embryo implanted elsewhere. Obviously, I can't prove that, but it did give me pause. 

I am very sorry for your loss. Good luck to you ((HUGS))

Samuelismomma

Just gonna tell you my experience Hun! I was told to wait one cycle with my first and I m/c my second. I was told one cycle again we listened to ob and again blighted ovum:( . I went to re and after 3 rd loss he told me he advices all women to wait 3 months. We listened and now so far so good with no intervention. I say listen to your dr, and give your body and hormones time to regulate! Good luck. I'm sorry about your loss:(

pinkglitterfly

Thanks for everyone's insight!