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paigeed

Hello everyone,
I'm new to the board but have been lurking for awhile. I'm 24 and DH is 26. We have been married for just over a year. I'm a teacher and he's a farmer/rancher. We are just thinking about starting a family but not ready to TTC yet. Maybe next spring we will feel more ready. I'm having baby fever and have been since February. We are financially stable, but I think DH is still a bit scared about some aspects of becoming a parent. I look forward to talking to you all.

Does anyone else have a nervous partner not ready for a baby yet?

hkate17

My husband is the same way. We plan on TTC next spring/summer. I'm new here too but so glad to have people to talk to. (:

paigeed

I think it takes men a little while longer to warm up to the idea. I'm still super nervous as well but ready and excited for the time to come.

Tara0604

My husband didn't want to have a baby until we were married at least 2 years (we started trying and if our son wasn't early, that would've happened).

My husband doesn't want to start trying to number two year, which is a little frustrating. I think he's nervous

michelehoney13

Hello @paigeed and welcome! We too aren't TTC until next year. He'll warm up in time. We coincidentally have been hanging out alot more with couples who are trying or who have kids so I think that helps DH relax and get more excited. And just think- we have more time to play around on pinterest baby boards and ovia  =D>

paigeed

Since our wedding 3 of the 5 people
In our wedding party who didn't have kids are pregnant. I know it's not a reason to have kids just to jump on the bandwagon but it's hard to feel like we are going to be left behind.

I want kids for us. Because I'm ready to be a mom. Sometimes when I'm around those close friends now I find myself having a bit of jealousy and wishing I could be going through it all too. I don't want our relationships to change once they all have popped.

michelehoney13

My DH and I are planned a little ahead of our close friends (God-willing) but I can understand how that feels. Try to celebrate their excitement and use it as a learning experience too! I've heard so many horrible stories about a certain hospital here that I deliberately am meeting a new OB that doesn't deliver there. Your true friendships shouldn't change!

kayteebayb

Hi and welcome! I'm totally the nervous partner in my relationship. My husband just convinced me that we are ready for #2. I'm of course on board, but still a bit nervous to potentially have 2. I was like that with #1 too so I can kind of relate to your husband.

urbancountrymommy

Hey there, and welcome! My hubby has been the nervous one for years!! Finally the bio clock got to me and we had a few very to the point conversations about how much time we have to keep putting it off. It turned out he really did want them too, but he had been so scared of it (I had a feeling!) and the "to the point conversations" didn't help. What helped was having "date night" conversations where only positive/fun baby talk was allowed (no diapers, bills, etc). We played around on Pinterest looking for baby stuff (he found Nintento nurseries and infant Cardinals jerseys). From then on he really started feeling comfortable and opening up. Then the conversations got more balanced with health insurance, budgets and planning. Maybe that will help! GL!

MrsZolin