update on my mom - long post

skyla13

Thanks so much for all the thoughts and prayers guys.

Today has been a whirlwind of emotions. I wan Just to give some background, my mom has an illness that puts her in pretty much constant pain, especially in her legs and hands. But she has also done a great job managing it with meds and therapy.

Well last night turned out to not be her illness deteriorating...it turns out she overdosed on her medication. Which explained why she was so sick. 

Just writing this makes me want to cry, yell, eat all the things, every emotion I can think of, I'm feeling. I feel so helpless and stunned that she actually had gotten so bad (unbeknownst to us) that she felt like she wanted to end her life. I go between being so angry that should would try this crap and then feeling so so bad for her that she's hurting this much. She's out of the woods physically, but is (thankfully!) still at the hospital. Apparently she has been talking with the mental health department, but in our state, she can leave at any time. The social worker has asked us to hang tight at home while they work with her and hopefully convince her to get treatment.

So...yeah. I just don't know what to do or what to feel. And on top of this, she watched my LO while I worked so I'm out for child care, my sisters are all out of town and I don't really know anyone else to call to watch her (we're in a new house). So I took a personal day, and will probably take the rest of the week, but will have to figure out my job situation -- on top of supporting my dad and trying to keep my crap together.

Thanks for letting me vent. If anyone has any advice I could sure use it.

bkeane619

I'm so sorry

deedee1017

What a difficult situation. I'm so sorry that you and your family are going through this. You have so much to deal with all at once. The only advice I can offer is to take one day and one issue at a time. You won't solve everything all at once. Just take on today and then each day after as it happens. Hopefully, your employer will be understanding and will work with you. We are here for support and if you need to vent. Good luck with everything. Big hugs to you.

lefnc82

I'm so sorry!  I hope that your mom is able to get the help she needs.  Depression is a hard one to watch a family member deal with, all you can do is make sure she knows you are there for her (my dad had suicidal feelings but luckily sought help before he actually tried anything).  Hang tight, I hope things get better for you and your family soon!

vargasgurl

I am so sorry to hear that your dealing with so much   Although I dont have the same situation I know that sometimes we are just put in situations that seem so much more than we can handle. I really hope that you can get your mom the help and support that she needs. Maybe you can find someone to help with your little one. Hang in there and just try to take it one day at a time. Hugs

taylormarie923

I'm truly sorry. Mental health is so hard on the family unit. The only advice I have is to let her know she has your support. In my experience, there is nothing you can do to push her towards seeking treatment, she has to make that choice on her own. I will be thinking of you and your mom and I hope she decides to work with the staff. Big hugs to you.

amber0529

My mother tried that a few years ago. There's not a whole lot you can do, she has to make her decision. For now maybe you can take a personal leave of absence or FMLA?

Herefishy87

I'm sorry. I hope she continues to get the treatment she needs.

Lee81

Wow, that is so much to deal with at once. I'm really sorry to hear you're going through all this. Thoughts and prayers that your mom will get the help she needs and you'll be able to resolve your childcare issues. 

chelseyestelle

I'm so sorry. I hope you get everything figured out.

ballygirl

Wow, that is a lot to deal with. So sorry and I hope your mom gets the help she needs.

bionicb

Oh my gosh, hun im so sorry your family is going through this. Hang in there, I hope she accepts the help she needs.

ajjf1026

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope things get better and I will continue to send T&P to you and your mom/family. Keep your head up, momma. Hugs!!

Phalaenopsis

So sorry. 

txmom13

My thoughts with you and your family. I can't imagine dealing with chronic pain, but I can imagine it's not easy. I don't know where you live, but I would watch your baby for you if you were close to me. Best of luck to you!

cassey910

So sorry you are going through this. Hugs and prayers.

tashad18

I'm sorry that your family is going through this right now. I hope that your mother gets the help that she needs and some relief from the pain. I also hope you can figure out something with your work. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

alylove11

I'm so sorry to hear this!! Many T&P for you, your mom, and your family!

Teresa1489

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this

Shortie24

I'm so sorry. Many T's & P's to you and your family

norbert5

Sending you hugs, it is so hard to watch a parent suffer physically or mentally or both.

I just hope everything works out soon and easily.

jennlin

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with your family.

Kdanson

I'm so sorry.
Thoughts and prayers for your entire family during this difficult time.

SHAWNACPA

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope your mom gets the help and comfort that she needs and you too.

skyla13

Thanks all. Work is being fantastic and letting me take some time off this week and next so I can snuggle my baby and get some options lined up. Mom is doing a bit better, still in the hospital but talking intensely with a social worker. Seems like that is a good first step.

DanceM

Glad you have some positive news in this stressful situation. Thinking of you and your family!