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The First Time

One of the other posts got me thinking about the first time DH and I had no condom, no pull out, no birth control, basically no-holds-barred sex with the intention of making a baby.  It was such a big moment for us, that I don't think I'll ever really forget it.  I went of birth control but we prevented the first cycle saying we would try the next cycle.  After I got AF, we didn't really talk about it so the first time we "got in the mood" I remember thinking mid sex "What is he going to do?  Will he freak out and pull out? Is he going to stop mid sex and get a condom?"  In amongst some moaning and groaning he just says "I'm going to finish" and I said OK.  It was so awkward after haha.  We chilled together for a little, got up, cleaned up and neither one of us said anything.  H was already downstairs when I came down, and I just remember being blissfully happy and feeling totally weird that neither one of us were acknowledging it.  So I grabbed a bottle of wine, poured two classes, handed him one and said "here's to the first steps in starting our family".  He's like "I'm so glad you said something!" Then we laughed at our awkwardness, kissed and went blissfully on to have a ridiculous amount of sex for the next year. 

Sometimes I look back on this moment and it makes me sad to think how naive we were.  But mostly I look back at this memory and smile.  Even though we are were we are today, I felt so close to him that night. I will always choose to remember this night positively.  Am I the only weirdo who remembers this first time?  Anyone else have funny or awkward stories?

Me (29): Hashimoto's, CD3/7DPO bloodwork & ultrasound normal, HSG & SHG(x2) all clear
DH (29): SA Perfect
TTC Since Jan '13, First RE Appt Jan '14
DX: Unspecified Ovarian Dysfunction, Long Cycles
May '13 BFP, C/P 4w3d
Apr '14:  50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #1=BFP,  Natural M/C 6.5wks
Aug '14: 50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #2=BFN
Oct '14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI#3 =BFN
Nov 14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI#4=slow response, bad lining, cancelled
FU with RE, more bloodwork: Anticardiolipin +
Dec 14: 5mg Letrozole+baby aspirin +ovidrel + B2B IUI#4.1=BFFN
Jan '15: 5mg Letrozole +baby aspirin + ovidrel +B2B IUI #5= BFP!! 
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    @ronniesgirl1981 I seriously LOL'ed at your response!

    @murrt A honeymoon baby would have been the best.  Boo to IF

    Me (29): Hashimoto's, CD3/7DPO bloodwork & ultrasound normal, HSG & SHG(x2) all clear
    DH (29): SA Perfect
    TTC Since Jan '13, First RE Appt Jan '14
    DX: Unspecified Ovarian Dysfunction, Long Cycles
    May '13 BFP, C/P 4w3d
    Apr '14:  50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #1=BFP,  Natural M/C 6.5wks
    Aug '14: 50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #2=BFN
    Oct '14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI#3 =BFN
    Nov 14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI#4=slow response, bad lining, cancelled
    FU with RE, more bloodwork: Anticardiolipin +
    Dec 14: 5mg Letrozole+baby aspirin +ovidrel + B2B IUI#4.1=BFFN
    Jan '15: 5mg Letrozole +baby aspirin + ovidrel +B2B IUI #5= BFP!! 
    Beta #1 210  Beta #2 546


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    ky29ky29 member
    Our story was kind of similar to yours. I think we decided to try the next month... But he made the same type of comment the month prior. I remember it.. I wonder if he would though?

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    DX: MFI (4% motility)

    Cycle 13: Natural cycle w/ HSG test = BFP
    Identical twins! 
    Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks

    Cycle 14-16: Natural Cycles = BFN
    Cycle 17: Follistim + Trigger + IUI = BFN
    Cycle 18: Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 19: Follistim + Trigger +IUI#2
    Polyp found: SIS 11/11 - hysteroscopy 11/14
    Cycle 20: Follistim + IUI#2 = BFFN
    Cycle 21: Follistim (adj. dosage) + IUI#3 TI  = BFN
    IUI cancelled due to weather
    Cycle 22: Follistim + IUI#3.1 = BFN

    Cycle 23: treatment break, IVF consult
    Cycle 24 - 26: natural cycle w/ acupuncture + Chinese herbs = BFN
    Cycle 27: Follistim + IUI#4 = BFFN
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    17 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 5dt w/ 2 blasts, 5 frosties

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    Awww. 

    I don't remember the exact first act, but I remember that time around my 30th birthday when were both excited and optimistic. Now at 33, it seems crazy to think we're at this point.

    I'm also so jealous of the millions of other couples who get to *decide* to expand their families when they're ready. Now, those of us on this board get to spend months agonizing and thousands of dollars to achieve the same thing!
    Tried for two years, finally a BFP!
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    I love that you shared this sweet story! 
    We have been talking about starting a family since, what feels like, started dating. We always knew it was 'in the plans' but were blissfully ignorant as well and thought we could do things on our timeline and it'd 'just happen'. I remember that we had had a few very serious discussions about timing and had friends' wedding in may and were also talking about getting our furbaby around that time. We decided to start actively trying after their wedding, joking that we'd have their honeymoon baby for them. [sadface] Up to that point I had 1/2 joked that DH would just have to knock me up when he felt the time was right and I'd just have to deal. To my surprise, he decided to 'jump the gun' a month early. I don't remember if there was anything special otherwise about that day and, off the top of my head, exactly when it was-although i know i have it charted somewhere. He didn't say anything prior to and I was thinking the same as you, only more thinking towards the following month, like "what's he going to do..will i know..will it be odd for him to remember to not pull out..etc" He didn't make much noise, kinda odd for him, and just stopped. I asked him if he was ok and he said "I'm done sweetheart" LMAO. Me: "I thought we were going to start next month??" DH: "I know, but I felt like it was right and now there's not so much pressure"--he gets me :) 
    I will never forget that moment and how funny it is that you can be with someone for so long and be so close but still experience firsts and awkward moments. I also agree with you that I sometimes think of it in regards to the "what ifs" but generally in a good light because it was such a happy and exciting time in our life. 
    Best of luck to you in your journey!
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    Me:26 DH:27
    Married Oct 2011
    NTNP for about a year before actively 
    TTC since April 2013
    Currently testing for infertility cause and hormone imbalance.
    Infertility & ovarian cyst diagnosis: May '14
    B/W: 'good', more ordered to check antibodies & progesterone
    SA: Normal :)
    U/Ss for cyst: who the f knows
    DH's cat scan: showed encapsulated fatty growth; u/s: didn't really show much more
    Breast Specialist: Most likely a large fibroid, but keeping an eye on it, repeat u/s every 6mos 
    HSG: clear tubes, uterus is A-ok
    WHAT'S NEXT: DH's consult with surgeon to discuss next step for growth, either biopsy or surgery~Big discussion with Dr. before any possibility of starting Clomid, since I'll want another u/s before and to be monitored and he doesn't seem into that. I had to force his hand just to order the AMH test so may be looking for another OB
    ~All welcome :) ~
    Cycle 3 of OPK; Cycle 2 (this time around) of Temping

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    This is a great thread! I definitely remember the first time. DH literally threw his arms in the air afterwards (like touchdown sign) and said "we did it!". Lol. I do wish we could get back that initial excitement... kinda wears off when you start talking to doctors about sperm count and fallopian tubes and follicles etc. etc. etc. 

    Me: 27 DH: 35

    TTC #1 Since July 2013

    Started RE Testing July 2014

    2 HSG tests: Right tube is blocked, possible endo.

    TSH elevated, started Synthroid 25 mg daily.

    October, 2014: Femara 5 mg + TI ---> 3 follies on blocked tube side ---> BFN

    November, 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI#1--2 follies (on the good side), 46 mil. motile sperm=BFN

    Nov-Dec 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #2 (1 follie, 76 mil. motile sperm) + Endometrin=BFN

    January, 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #3 (1 follie, 38 mil. motile sperm)=???

    New RE appt. scheduled for 1/14.


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    I still kick myself for our first "TTC" experience - we were long distance and opposite sides of the globe, and the first summer together I was on the patch, but the second summer I'd gone off it. I told him this, but I think something was lost in translation. The instant he "didn't pull out" I went ballistic. I had the deepest regretful feeling in the pit of my stomach, because at that time we hadn't yet decided to get married, and I was still finishing school and honestly felt that my entire life had just been ruined and decided for me in one moment. We went to a couple pharmacies asking about Plan B, because I was trying to figure out if it stops you from ovulating or prevents implantation, and finally I decided I was not comfortable taking it. That was a long scary wait for AF.

    Now, it's hard to believe we are the same two people who went through that. 6 months into marriage, I had a long cycle with massively swollen and sore boobs like never before, so I was sure I must be KU. It was not planned (in fact I'd been temping and timing for pregnancy prevention), but by the time AF actually arrived, we both felt so ready.

    That woke us up to a lot of things, and we started TTC. We BDed every. single. day. the first month, and twice daily in the fertile week. It was insane. It's how we woke up before work. Only the missionary position, and we got skilled at the tip/tilt/tissue/pillow placement maneuver. DH's sexiest newlywed skill was propping my hips for 20 minutes and keeping my feet warm up in the air with no circulation, lol.

    When our belated honeymoon 2 months later also failed to get a BFP, we got pretty dejected and settled in for the next 5 years or so of hopeless TTC, on and off a few times due to Crohn's pain and flares. Such a different experience. :(
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    Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
    MFI (low everything) | Endo Stage 1 & Stenotic Cervix (treated) | PCO
    Married - July 2008 | Started TTC - Jan 2009RE Visit #1 - Mar 2014 
    IUI #1 ICI #1 - June | IUI #1.1 Laparoscopy - Aug
    IUIs #1.2, 2, 3 - Sept, Oct, Nov (Letrozole) - BFNs 
    IUI #4 - Dec (Bravelle) | IUI #5 - Dec/Jan (Bravelle) - 5 follies + TI - BFNs
    IUI #5.1 - Jan (Bravelle) Cancelled 
    Planning to start IVF in March!
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    I have never been any form of contraceptive and with DH we always used the pull out method. When we decided to start trying two years into being married we were really nervous so I told him I didn't have to be then and there so there was no pressure. When it came time to reach for the towel he grabbed my hand and said I love you and we are going to start trying tonight, are you ready? I was mute for a few seconds and then he said I'm going to finish now and all I could do was nod. I never thought that almost three year later I'm sitting here writing this while waiting to go in for my second iui (yesterday was #1). It was great reminiscing that "first" time.

    Me (29), DH (38)

    Oct 2009   - Married
    Aug 2011   - Started TTC
    Jan 2012   - OB Referred to RE
    Feb 2012   - RE Visit #1
    Apr 2012   - HSG (Normal), PCOS - DH SA (low count and low motility)  
    June 2012   - Provera, Clomid, TI - BFN
    July 2012   - IUI #1, Provera, Clomid 50mg, Trigger Injection - BFN
    Aug 12 - Feb 14 - Break
    Feb 2014   - New OB referred to new RE
    Mar 2014   - New RE visit #1
    Apr 2014    - TSH  level elevated, need to retest.
    May 2014   - TSH retested, higher than 1st test. Start on Synthroid. DH SA (Normal)
    June 2014   - Start on DHEA, CO-Q10, New brand of Prenatals
    July 2014   - Cycle came on its own, b/w on CD2, TSH (normal), Femara CD3-CD7, CD14 - u/s + Ovidrel + baby aspirin regimen. IUI #1 B2B on CD15/16 - BFN

    August 2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s CD12, Ovidrel on CD13. IUI #2 B2B on CD 14/CD15 - BFN.

    September  2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s scheduled for CD12

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    I love this story! I actually don't remember, but I know the next morning he asked me if I was pregnant. I was half asleep and said no. He asked me how I knew and I said, "I would have gotten an email."
    So that is the best laugh I have had all day!

    We haven't had that moment of the "first time" cuz we new he was shooting blanks but I can't wait til the SA comes back and I really hope the meds have worked enough we got something to hope with... I can't wait til our first time. that is the best story.
    Me 36 Hypothyroid DH 35 Low T, treatment Clomid
    NTNP 1/2013
    SA Results: nothing to count...
    MFI RE 2/14/2014 Rx Clomid
    TTC 4/26/2014
    6/25/2014 DH Low T 132 Switched to Chorionic Gonadotropin hCG injections 2x wk
    7/15/2014 DH Testosterone check 607!
    8/15/2014 DH new SA 1 MILLION!!!!!!
    11/20/2014 DH new SA 2 Million
    DH continues treatment while moving towards Foster to Adopt


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    I remember all of those year being on birth control with my 2 boyfriends, thinking if I missed a pill it would be the end of the world, all the prevention I took, and even when my husband and I started dating. If I only knew then it would be so hard. You do look back and think how naive you were, its crazy that we spend so much time and effort avoiding such a little miracle but in the end, it takes so much more effort emotionally and physically to make that miracle happen for you.
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    It is so interesting how some of our experiences are so similar, yet very different. :) DH and I had been married 7 years, practicing "pull out" the whole time, by the time we decided we were ready to actually try. I remember it like it was an anniversary, because it was during our first trip together to his home country. His first time back in 10 years. We laughed that we wouldn't go back until we had a niece/nephew to show everyone. Needless to say, 3 years later, and we are still not planning a trip back to Trinidad. When I had my first RE consult (with the RE i eventually fired), he told me that, after 7 years of marriage and no oopses, we should have been concerned. It made me want to cry. I'm so over it, I just want to be a mommy.
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    These are all such great stories! When we got married, we had a general timeline of wanting to start trying around a year-year and half of marriage. Right after our wedding, I was going a little baby crazy, but I knew he wasn't ready yet. 10 months in, he told me that he was ready whenever I was. But then I freaked out a little and wasn't ready to pull the trigger! I told him I wanted to wait another few months. After a couple months went by, I was getting ready to start my new pack of BC and he asked why I wasn't ready. I didn't really have a good answer, because I WAS ready, I was just scared. So, we ditched the BC and had sex about 5 times that weekend (even though we of course wouldn't have conceived that early in my cycle)! It was a great start to the TTC journey. Fun times. :)
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    kmdecoux said:
    So we did the BD and afterward he put his hand on my tummy and asked if it was a baby yet..and then he tried to pick my feet up and tried to "wheelbarrow" me to help gravity out because he is an idiot.
    Aww too cute! I love when DH is super excited about it and does stuff like this!..even the silly stuff like being ocd level concerned about tilting my butt up after and getting me water while i "incubate". Keeps the fun alive and makes me look forward to sharing that journey & gift with him.
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    Me:26 DH:27
    Married Oct 2011
    NTNP for about a year before actively 
    TTC since April 2013
    Currently testing for infertility cause and hormone imbalance.
    Infertility & ovarian cyst diagnosis: May '14
    B/W: 'good', more ordered to check antibodies & progesterone
    SA: Normal :)
    U/Ss for cyst: who the f knows
    DH's cat scan: showed encapsulated fatty growth; u/s: didn't really show much more
    Breast Specialist: Most likely a large fibroid, but keeping an eye on it, repeat u/s every 6mos 
    HSG: clear tubes, uterus is A-ok
    WHAT'S NEXT: DH's consult with surgeon to discuss next step for growth, either biopsy or surgery~Big discussion with Dr. before any possibility of starting Clomid, since I'll want another u/s before and to be monitored and he doesn't seem into that. I had to force his hand just to order the AMH test so may be looking for another OB
    ~All welcome :) ~
    Cycle 3 of OPK; Cycle 2 (this time around) of Temping

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    @bravegrace22 - DH calls it "marinating". LOL

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    Me: 31| DH: 36
    TTC #1 Since 07/2010
    DX: Unexplained Infertility
    TX: 
    IUI #1 on 7/3/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (44 million sperm, 1 dominant follie) = BFN
    IUI #2: on 7/28/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (23 million sperm, 2 dominant follies) = BFN

    IUI #3 on 8/22/2014 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (53 million sperm, 2 dominant follies)= BFP MMC @ 7weeks


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    Haha nice :) gotta love their sense of accomplishment.
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    Me:26 DH:27
    Married Oct 2011
    NTNP for about a year before actively 
    TTC since April 2013
    Currently testing for infertility cause and hormone imbalance.
    Infertility & ovarian cyst diagnosis: May '14
    B/W: 'good', more ordered to check antibodies & progesterone
    SA: Normal :)
    U/Ss for cyst: who the f knows
    DH's cat scan: showed encapsulated fatty growth; u/s: didn't really show much more
    Breast Specialist: Most likely a large fibroid, but keeping an eye on it, repeat u/s every 6mos 
    HSG: clear tubes, uterus is A-ok
    WHAT'S NEXT: DH's consult with surgeon to discuss next step for growth, either biopsy or surgery~Big discussion with Dr. before any possibility of starting Clomid, since I'll want another u/s before and to be monitored and he doesn't seem into that. I had to force his hand just to order the AMH test so may be looking for another OB
    ~All welcome :) ~
    Cycle 3 of OPK; Cycle 2 (this time around) of Temping

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    I ALMOST feel weird and creepy by telling you that your story made me smile...but it did. So I'm saying it. I absolutely love thinking back on my naïve times like that. Or thinking back to when I thought it would be SO easy, and the fact that we actually WAITED a couple of months to start trying because we were SO SURE we'd get pregnant right away, but really wanted it to happen during a certain month. haha. I can still smile and laugh at these times, so that's a good thing I suppose :)

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    March 2008 - DD born - no issues conceiving (surprise). Limited issues during pregnancy/delivery.
    June 2011 - Married DH.
    June 2013 - Diagnosis of Endometriosis and PCOS (approximate).
    December 2013 - First cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    January 2014 - 2nd Cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    February 2014 - 3rd Cycle of Clomid - Positive OPK. BFN
    March 2014 - Took month off to prep for surgery
    April 2014 - Laporoscopy for endo. Unable to remove endo due to too close of proximity to ureter. HSG done as well. Fillopian tubes open.
    May 2014 - 1st round of Femara. Positive OPK. BFN.
    June 2014 - 2nd round of Femara. Moved to RE to have CD10 Follicular U/S. No Follies in left ovary. 5 follies in right. Largest follie 8mm, 1 7mm, 2 3mm, 1 2mm. Positive OPK on day of U/S. BFN. DH has SA done at this time - All results within normal limits.
    July 2014 - 3rd round of Femara. CD10 Follicular U/S. No follies in left ovary. 7 follies in right. 1 20mm, 1 12mm, 1 10mm, 4 <5mm. Scheduled for IUI. Canceled due to low estrogen level of 145. TI this month. Prepping for Injectables next month. BFN.
    August 2014 - CD3 BW Normal. Injectables not happening because of stupid miscommunication about "required injectables class." Taking class this month. No medication. TI for the month. SIS scheduled for 8/7/14. SIS results - "I have a beautiful uterus." Huzzah!
    September 2014 - Cycle cancelled due to stupid AF coming early and making my IUI run in to DH's business trip. Try again next month.
    October 2014 - Injects with IUI cycle. 75U 5 days. Estrogen at 36. Bumped up to 125 for 4 days. Estrogen 105. Bumped up to 225. Ganirelix for 2 days. 4 mature follies. Triggered 10/9. IUI 10/10.
    BFP 10/24/2014. Beta #1 - 178   Beta #2 - 398.   U/S 11/7/14- TWINS!!!!

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    That's awesome :) Similar to LLM100811 I remember the freedom of not having to worry. Gosh, all the years spent trying NOT to get pregnant. It just kills me. But, as soon as we started trying I just knew it was going to take forever to get pregnant. So, while there have been times I thought I was ovulating (never have) and got excited that we might have a chance, primarily I just know it's not happening. Ugh
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    Me: 30 DH: 32
    Married 6/2010
    TTC since Nov 2013 (no BC since Feb 2013)
    DX: Annovulation
    SA: excellent
    HSG: normal
    Treatment: Clomid 50 mg (NR); 100 mg (NR); 150 mg (NR);
    July 2014 200 mg Clomid w/ good response
    7-19-14 Ovidrel trigger w/ scheduled intercourse on 7/19 and 7/20
    7-24-14 pregnancy symptoms started
    7-31-14 pregnancy symptoms increasing
    8-1-14 BFP!!
    8-2-14 BFP!!
    8-3-14 (just to make sure lol) BFP!!
    8-4-14 b/w confirmed!
    8-6-14 b/w still looks good, u/s scheduled for 8/14 and b/w on 8/13


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    I'm loving everyone's stories! 

    Me (29): Hashimoto's, CD3/7DPO bloodwork & ultrasound normal, HSG & SHG(x2) all clear
    DH (29): SA Perfect
    TTC Since Jan '13, First RE Appt Jan '14
    DX: Unspecified Ovarian Dysfunction, Long Cycles
    May '13 BFP, C/P 4w3d
    Apr '14:  50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #1=BFP,  Natural M/C 6.5wks
    Aug '14: 50mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI #2=BFN
    Oct '14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + IUI#3 =BFN
    Nov 14: 100mg clomid + ovidrel + B2B IUI#4=slow response, bad lining, cancelled
    FU with RE, more bloodwork: Anticardiolipin +
    Dec 14: 5mg Letrozole+baby aspirin +ovidrel + B2B IUI#4.1=BFFN
    Jan '15: 5mg Letrozole +baby aspirin + ovidrel +B2B IUI #5= BFP!! 
    Beta #1 210  Beta #2 546


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