New to 3T (child mentioned)

pumaprnc7

Hello everyone, and sorry that we all have this difficult battle to fight.

I am 36, however I've been having trouble since I turned 23. I was diagnosed with PCOS at that time. My first marriage was a failure due to my infertility and other issues.

I'm now remarried, my DH is 29, and very supportive and wonderful. We've been together now for seven years, trying to conceive four of those seven. With zero luck!

A year ago we gave up and decided to become foster parents. Then this spring we decided to start trying with assistance.

This past year has been A roller coaster of emotions, and as of Friday we have decided to stop fostering...it's heart breaking. We are losing our beloved Foster daughter, after thinking we were going to get to adopt. We are also on our 4th cycle if chlomid, and I'm not certain if I O. I used a OPK, and I had two lines but the first was very light.

I've had blood work done and my DH had his sperm tested. He has no issues, the issue is with my PCOS. I'm for a loss of what to do next. I have a difficult week ahead and done know if I'm in a 2ww or if my cycle failed and will have to wait for the next step. I plan to contact Dr. today and find out what to do next.

BethKate2

Welcome to the board.

If the test line on the OPK was light, it was negative. The test line needs to be the same color or darker than the control for it to be positive.

Also, OPKs aren't always accurate with clomid. As others on here will tell you, I'm sure, your doctor should be monitoring you with ultrasounds so there should be no question when/if you ovulated. Clomid can cause cysts to form on your ovaries and it can thin the lining of your uterus. You shouldn't be blindly taking it without knowing exactly what it's doing to your body.

I'm assuming the doctor you're seeing is your OB...? If so, you should consider working with an RE. They specialize in helping people to become pregnant.

BunnyBerry

Congratulations on your marriage!!

So sorry you are not able to adopt your foster daughter. I can't imagine how painful it would be.

If you're taking Clomid, it's quite dangerous not to get ultrasound monitoring in the cycle. It's absolutely necessary to know if/when you O, in order to make sure your treatment is effective, and most importantly, to find out if you have too many follicles and need to prevent pregnancy and higher order multiples!

An OPK often has a second light line, but unlike an HCG pregnancy test, an OPK is only positive if the test line is at least as dark as the other line.

Please, please ask for ultrasound monitoring. It's especially necessary with Clomid because the med can cause multiple false positive OPKs, and also mess with temperatures so it's hard to confirm ovulation.

It can also thin your uterine lining, making implantation impossible, and only ultrasound can detect the problem so it can be remedied.

It can also cause residual cysts which can prevent ovulation, burst, harm your ovaries, put you in the hospital.

It's not recommended to do more than 6 cycles of Clomid because of health concerns, so it's good to get an HSG and prove your tubes are clear and sperm can meet egg, and your ute is clear and an embryo can implant.

I recommend seeing an RE, because they will be able to take care of your reproductive health, take all steps possible to protect you from dangerous higher-order multiples while maximizing your chances for pregnancy, and they will always be aware of how your body is responding to a med, what changes should be made for the next cycle, whether you have O'ed or not, etc.

pumaprnc7

I am monitored and aware of chlomid side effects. I believe we are moving on to IUI next. You are correct in that I am seeing an OB. My DH insurance does not cover RE, so I'm currently seeking different employment that offers the insurance to cover RE.

BethKate2

Edlotz01 said:

I am monitored and aware of chlomid side effects. I believe we are moving on to IUI next. You are correct in that I am seeing an OB. My DH insurance does not cover RE, so I'm currently seeking different employment that offers the insurance to cover RE.

Then why are you unsure if you're ovulating?

lebradford

First of all, welcome. I'm really sorry for what you've been though.

As far as your Clomid cycles, if you don't know if/when you're ovulating, you're not having proper monitoring done. Other people have and will give you a more detailed answer, but the summary is, getting monitoring will be so much better for your health, the health of your future babies, and will probably get you pregnant faster. Please see a RE. I understand that they can be expensive. Most of us are paying OOP for treatment.

pumaprnc7

I haven't gone in to Dr this week I have to call today. It does sound like I'm not getting monitored like I need to be though, from all the posts I've been reading

AnnaClaire256

BethKate2 said:

Edlotz01 said:

I am monitored and aware of chlomid side effects. I believe we are moving on to IUI next. You are correct in that I am seeing an OB. My DH insurance does not cover RE, so I'm currently seeking different employment that offers the insurance to cover RE.

Then why are you unsure if you're ovulating?


This. If you were being properly monitored (CD 3 baseline u/s and bw, mid cycle follicle scan, bw 7dpo) you would know exactly when/if you were ovulating. Most OBs do not offer this kind of monitoring...that's why seeing an RE is so important.

Pintobean39

Everyone has given good advice just wanted to say welcome and good luck!

pumaprnc7

The more I've read on here, I've learned that my OBs idea of monitoring is not true monitoring, and I will need to seek an RE. Clearly, I have lots to learn.

masterofallcheese

Welcome. I am sorry for the recent heartbreak surrounding your foster daughter. Glad you are considering the move to an RE. Obviously it is more expensive but it is worth it.

juneroses

Welcome - I'm so sorry to hear about your foster daughter. Good luck to you in your journey forward!

emmuffy

So sorry about your foster daughter. Good luck in setting up your treatment and monitoring plan.

TTCBabyJ

So sorry about your foster daughter. My DH and I provide emergency foster services and it is heartbreaking enough to see the kids leave after a weekend, I can't even imagine your pain.