Ear Piercing

alohamel

Has anyone gotten their DD's ears pierced? I'm thinking about doing it but Im not sure..what are your thoughts/opinions/experiences?

MamaFantastic

It doesn't bother me all that much to see other babies with pierced ears. It's a "to each her own" decision in my opinion.

I will definitely not be piercing my baby's ears, though. We can decide that together when she is in elementary or middle school.

edoliesmom

KendraColeslaw said:

I'm not against it, but I don't necessarily agree with it, for a couple reasons. Getting a hole punched into your body is not a choice to be made by other people - it should be a decision your LO comes to later in life and kind of a fun rite of passage in their young years. My memory of getting my ears pierced is a great childhood memory. Also, for as much ear-grabbing as my baby does, I wouldn't want to risk infection.

Couldn't have said it better myself! My thoughts exactly. Just like make-up, tattoos, clothing (within reason), I think it's a choice they should get to decide on their own at an appropriate age.

eireyes

I get that it can be a cultural thing for some people, so I'm in the to each his own camp. Our pedi's office will actually do the ear piercing, so if we ever have a girl that wants to get her ears pierced, we'd go there to get it done. but only when she's old enough to start asking.

Our current LO? DH says if Aiden ever pierces his ear(s) he'll rip the earrings out... :P

RedDawnsRevenge

Got Ryver's done at 8weeks. People still think she's a boy!

Nijay714

Got my DD's ears pierced a week after she turned 2 months which was the earliest I could get them done, would've done it at the hospital when she was born if they offered it.. She got her ears pierced at her doctor's office, she cried for a minute, and that's it.. The most important thing if you do it is to follow the cleaning instructions..

Avion22

I don't think I would ever pierce a newborn's ears, but to each her own.  I don't judge when I see baby girls with earrings.  I mostly wonder how in the world they keep the baby from tugging on the studs, and how (as the kids get older) they deal with rough-and-tumble play where the earrings could get caught on things.  But I'm sure people must manage, because it's pretty popular.  

AmberLiz99

I won't for dd, and my husbands family thinks I'm crazy. They saw her last week for the first time and were asking why they weren't done yet and when she would be getting them.

The way I see it, I don't have the right to alter her body, so why would I presume to make that decision for her. I didn't choose to get my ears pierced till I was 22, so I don't necessarily think it's just something everyone has done so why not do it now. I don't judge others choices, but those are my reasons for waiting.

MIL and SIL think I'm psycho

MissHSoonToBeMrsS

I'm curious as to why parents do it. Not being snarky at all; I'm just honestly wondering. I've never had a little girl!

Manda+panda

DH wants them done. I had my ears pierced on my first birthday. Not only do I want her to be able to decide that for herself, I think she's perfect the way she is. Plus, she had severe tongue and lip tie and had them cut. I can't imagine anything else being done to her to cause pain. Those were necessary and I felt awful.

But, I won't judge anyone who does it. To each their own.

Kyllarae

I'm not piercing Eden's mainly because I don't think it's my choice to make. My mom actually cried when i told her I wouldn't be doing it. I will allow her to get them pierced when/ if she asks. I had mine done at 3 months old, got the second hole at 6 years old, and my third at 13. Also if I pierced Edie's I'd be afraid of not being able to keep them clean enough. I don't side eye the people that do it though.

littlesocks

I had mine pierced at 6 weeks. I'm not against it. I actually think it's pretty but I'm more excited to wait and get to bring my DD as a birthday present when she wants them. That'll be more fun to look forward to!
I can already picture it. We'll have a mommy-daughter day and we'll get our nails painted and her ears pierced and when she gets home her daddy will tell her how beautiful she looks and she'll beam and my heart will melt!
I'm having a really sappy day. I'm working and I miss her!

rtv3

Yup, I'll wait till she can ask for them. No judging of people who do them earlier, my cousin pierced her little girl's at a few months old and she looks adorable. It's just not for me.

UnofficiallyLO

Pre baby I would've pierced DD ears but I had a boy so I didn't have to make that decision. I would probably feel differently now as pp mentioned then she could ask for them later & have the childhood memory (tho I just recall crying after mine). However, I think circ'ing my DS is a little different. By the time he'd be old enough to wish we had done it, I can't imagine it would be an easy fix!

misskristina21

We haven't, but DD1 is almost 4 and has been asking for "pretties for my ears". DH wants to wait another year, and do it for her 5th birthday, but we are on the fence about now or then.

I think they look cute on babies, but it's not my style.

nicole mackenzie

Hmmm. I've seen it on a one year old and she was very pretty, but not doing it for my dd, especially this young.

Ill admit I do judge other people for doing it.
It's selfish to put your daughter through it without her consent because you want her to be prettier. Dd is perfect the way she is.

I didn't get my ears pierced until I was 20. I wasn't allowed until I was 16. I think that was an unrealistic rule.

If she wants it done younger ill let her.

danagmauro

I think it's adorable and will do it soon. I had mine done as a newborn and love it when I see my baby pics.

lokimau

Had my DD done at 7 weeks and have not had any issues at all. They healed well and they look absolutely adorable. She has sparkly cz studs

olenkapdx

I think pierced ears are a little tacky looking on a baby.  UO?

ashcole28

My mother had mine pierced as an infant and I'm glad she did. I don't wear them now very much but when I started picking them out myself I didn'thave to worry about them they were already hhealed and I never had to worry about them growing over plus I think it's cute. SO is very firm on not having DD's pierced until she can choose. I'm not protesting his decision it's really no biggie to me.

knotty-girl

olenkapdx said:

I think pierced ears are a little tacky looking on a baby.  UO?

I was so going to say this, but I thought I'd wait until OU. Since you said it I'm going to have to agree.

LaNorte

I remember so clearly the day I got my ears pierced (I was 9) and spending the entire day with my mom and going out to lunch at the fancy restaurant next to the art museum, and it was the best. That's really the only reason I think people should wait - because it can be an awesome experience to share later on when she'll actually remember it.

RedDawnsRevenge

LaNorte said:

I remember so clearly the day I got my ears pierced (I was 9) and spending the entire day with my mom and going out to lunch at the fancy restaurant next to the art museum, and it was the best. That's really the only reason I think people should wait - because it can be an awesome experience to share later on when she'll actually remember it.

Never got that joyful experience. I wish my parents had done mine as a baby. That's why I did my girls as babies. If when they get older they want another piercing we can do it. I have 8 in my ears, it's not like you can only do it once.

edoliesmom

nicole mackenzie said:

Hmmm. I've seen it on a one year old and she was very pretty, but not doing it for my dd, especially this young.

Ill admit I do judge other people for doing it.
It's selfish to put your daughter through it without her consent because you want her to be prettier. Dd is perfect the way she is.

I didn't get my ears pierced until I was 20. I wasn't allowed until I was 16. I think that was an unrealistic rule.

If she wants it done younger ill let her.

I wasn't allowed until I was 13, and I've just always said that that's when I would wait to give my daughter the opportunity. Now that she's here and I've been reading this thread, I think I'll wait until she can actually take care of them on her own (understands the decision and how much dedication it takes to care for and clean them), and not necessarily at a particular age. I didn't take care of mine so they closed, and I had to get them repierced at 15.

Calla123

I had mine done as a baby and thought I would do have it done with DD1 as a baby. We even got diamond earrings for her from a family member. I remember standing outside the ear piercing place and looking at my baby thinking "How can I justify that I did this? Because I thought it looked cute? Because I wanted them to heal young before she got older? What if she never would have got them otherwise?" So ultimately I chose not to get them. We also are not doing it for DD2. Now that DD1 is 3 she loves dress up and earrings....I found these temporary tattoo earrings and she loves having them on

chichi589

If I had a girl I would definitely do it. Coming from working at a daycare the babies that got their ears pierced young did so much better then the 3 & up kids who can't take their hands off of them and cause infection. To each his own. Until I read this I never considered it a way to make a child better looking it's just an accessory like a giant flower headband is..

RedDawnsRevenge

So for people who said they would not pierce, if you have/had a son would/did you circumcise? I have pierced both my girls ears but had they been born male I would not have circumcised. I'm only asking since I have heard them compared often.

kseccomb17

Welp DD has her ears pierced and DS is circumcised. I guess I ruined them both forever to make them "look better" at a young age.

lcr23

Calla123 said:

I had mine done as a baby and thought I would do have it done with DD1 as a baby. We even got diamond earrings for her from a family member. I remember standing outside the ear piercing place and looking at my baby thinking "How can I justify that I did this? Because I thought it looked cute? Because I wanted them to heal young before she got older? What if she never would have got them otherwise?" So ultimately I chose not to get them. We also are not doing it for DD2. Now that DD1 is 3 she loves dress up and earrings....I found these temporary tattoo earrings and she loves having them on

This. DDs cry face breaks my heart so I'm not sure I can put her through that intentionally. I always thought I would do them young but now I'm not so sure. Her diamond earrings will have to wait.

speechie517

I'm not a fan of pierced ears on babies, but B will be able to get hers pierced when she's able to ask.

Nijay714

Honestly it's not that big of a deal to me, Jade cried for a minute if that and if she doesn't like them when she's older then she can always take them out.. But after reading why some of you ladies are waiting, I think it's cute and will be a nice memory.. FYI I didn't pierce them to make her look prettier, she beautiful either way.. And I don't think they're trashy which is all that matters when it comes to MY child

knotty-girl

AprilMay9 said:

Well who can you count on for an offensive opinion if you can't turn to me? I think it looks gross and is super trashy.

LOL.

I honestly had completely forgotten that pierced ears on a baby girl was something people do until this thread popped up.  I feel like the last time I saw pierced ears on a baby was in the 80's.  And it was always a white-trash-teen-mom-with-blue-eyeliner-and-Tonya-Harding-bangs type who did that to their baby.  And the baby's name was surely Misty Dawn, or the like...

MissHSoonToBeMrsS

chichi589 said:

If I had a girl I would definitely do it. Coming from working at a daycare the babies that got their ears pierced young did so much better then the 3 & up kids who can't take their hands off of them and cause infection. To each his own. Until I read this I never considered it a way to make a child better looking it's just an accessory like a giant flower headband is..

I have to disagree here...a giant flower headband is nowhere close to the same as pierced ears. 

Rrrrrachel

Who wants one more thing to take care of??

RedDawnsRevenge

Totally naming the next girl I have Misty Dawn. Lol

knotty-girl

RedDawnsRevenge said:

Totally naming the next girl I have Misty Dawn. Lol

After I typed that I was like, shit, what if that's RedDawnsRevenge's real name?

RedDawnsRevenge

knotty-girl said:

RedDawnsRevenge said:

Totally naming the next girl I have Misty Dawn. Lol

After I typed that I was like, shit, what if that's RedDawnsRevenge's real name?

No, my names Paige. My dad named me after a really hot but stupid chick he dated before my mom. She died of a contagious disease she contracted from not washing her hands. Lol. All I could do was look at my dad and blink while he told me this.

nicole mackenzie

RedDawnsRevenge said:

So for people who said they would not pierce, if you have/had a son would/did you circumcise? I have pierced both my girls ears but had they been born male I would not have circumcised. I'm only asking since I have heard them compared often.

My DH and I would not have curcumsized either but it's not the same thing.

The foreskin can't grow back and I think it's more painful.

Earrings are an accessory and the ears will return to normal ( unless you gauged them

RedDawnsRevenge

KendraColeslaw said:

I used to call it trashy too, but piercing can be cultural and actually customary, so I'd kinda feel like a bitch if I called one of my Hispanic friends or relatives trashy just because they were passing down a tradition.

Yes. Big Portuguese community here. I actually don't know anyone who has a little girl who doesn't have them done.

MamaFantastic

Kendra is right and AprilMay is funny

edoliesmom

nicole mackenzie said:

RedDawnsRevenge said:

So for people who said they would not pierce, if you have/had a son would/did you circumcise? I have pierced both my girls ears but had they been born male I would not have circumcised. I'm only asking since I have heard them compared often.

My DH and I would not have curcumsized either but it's not the same thing.

The foreskin can't grow back and I think it's more painful.

Earrings are an accessory and the ears will return to normal ( unless you gauged them

Not that it's visible or hindering any kind of ability in any way, but I don't understand why people are saying it will go back to normal when it actually won't. There would always be scar tissue in the lobe.