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TTC After a Loss
BoraBoraBaby
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Intro (loss mentioned)
BoraBoraBaby
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Hello there 
Having some cramping. Am I pregnant? Totally effing with you all.
I'm hoping to find a good comfy spot here for a (hopefully short) bit. I belonged to the July 14 BMB and really bonded with those ladies. My baby girl Madeleine was born at 36 weeks on June 5th and lived for 4 days with Trisomy 18. We learned of her diagnosis in Feb, and while it was the most devastating news, we have really been waiting since then for an opportunity to try again.
Since her passing I've joined the loss board. It's helpful to converse with people who are also grieving, but I need something to look forward to. I miss the happy/snarky posts. I want to be able to feel excitement and to feel a sense of normalcy. I think my involvement in the TTCAL board will really help.
Before Madeleine, we had an early miscarriage then a chemical pregnancy. My midwife has been through all of it with me and wants me to discuss testing/prevention options with the OB before trying. I have my 6 week post partem appt with my midwife tomorrow, and I'm hoping she'll clear us to TTC if we are comfortable. The genetic counselor told us that we wouldn't need to do any further testing with this diagnosis, so I don't know what my OB would recommend. It'll be interesting to hear.
Anyway, I'm very sorry you are all here because I know all too well how heartbreaking loss is, and the cloud it casts over future pregnancies for some of us. Hoping to get to know you as we hope for our future healthy and uneventful pregnancies!
Having some cramping. Am I pregnant? Totally effing with you all.
I'm hoping to find a good comfy spot here for a (hopefully short) bit. I belonged to the July 14 BMB and really bonded with those ladies. My baby girl Madeleine was born at 36 weeks on June 5th and lived for 4 days with Trisomy 18. We learned of her diagnosis in Feb, and while it was the most devastating news, we have really been waiting since then for an opportunity to try again.
Since her passing I've joined the loss board. It's helpful to converse with people who are also grieving, but I need something to look forward to. I miss the happy/snarky posts. I want to be able to feel excitement and to feel a sense of normalcy. I think my involvement in the TTCAL board will really help.
Before Madeleine, we had an early miscarriage then a chemical pregnancy. My midwife has been through all of it with me and wants me to discuss testing/prevention options with the OB before trying. I have my 6 week post partem appt with my midwife tomorrow, and I'm hoping she'll clear us to TTC if we are comfortable. The genetic counselor told us that we wouldn't need to do any further testing with this diagnosis, so I don't know what my OB would recommend. It'll be interesting to hear.
Anyway, I'm very sorry you are all here because I know all too well how heartbreaking loss is, and the cloud it casts over future pregnancies for some of us. Hoping to get to know you as we hope for our future healthy and uneventful pregnancies!
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Welcome to the board- I'm sorry for your losses. The Loss board ladies are wonderful but I totally understand needing a place that helps you to look forward too. I hope you find that here.
If you don't mind me asking, what testing has been done for your losses so far? Since many early miscarriages are thought to be chromosomal and your sweet Madeleine was as well, I wasn't sure if they'd already done any testing to see if there were any medical factors to be addressed before TTC again?
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
TTC #1 since November 2013
BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14
BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14
BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15
January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing
@eliida Hugs fellow T18 mama!
Thanks all, I'm looking forward to getting to know you all.
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
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Not much help I'm afraid, just wanted to be sure that your medical team was taking everything into consideration, which it sounds like they are. I had a fluke loss as well followed by another loss that is still TBD, so I definitely understand the wonder of if there is a connection. Good luck with your OB appointment and getting the all clear!
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal
5 IUIs = BFN
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Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
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DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
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BFP# 1 7/7/12 Beautiful DD born still at 36 weeks 5 days on 3/2/13
Diagnosed with PCOS in 2005. Started Metformin July 2013
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Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011, TTC since May 2013
BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013
BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014
Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal.
Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC! Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case. Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal. Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities. Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!
BFP #3 December 11, 2014! Beta #1 14DPO = 122.4 Beta #2 17DPO = 296.8 Please stick little one and be our Rainbow!
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Edited: spelling is hard sometimes
TTC since 2012
BFP#1~ EDD: 06/21/2014 ~ TFMR --Holoprosencephaly
Said goodbye on 2/10/2014 at 21 weeks. We miss our baby girl "J"
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We are having a lot of testing done, however, everyone's situation is different. Both of my losses were in 2nd tri and we'd had a genetic test done for typical prenatal chromosomal abnormalities and they were found to be at miniscule risk, so based on those factors, my OB recommended various tests. We've done karyotyping on both my husband and I, I had blood drawn in the hospital for some tests to go along with autopsy and I will be going back in a few weeks to have blood drawn for an in depth thrombolytic (clotting) test. Once we get all of those results, I will be referred to a MFM (high risk OB) for any additional tests they may deem necessary, to make a plan for TTC and if I get pregnant again.
As I mentioned though, everyone's case is different. 2nd/3rd tri losses are more rare and having had a successful pregnancy just a couple of years before that made them even more curious. While the first was found to be a cord accident and determined a fluke, having a second 2nd tri loss sent red flags to my OB and she felt that there was too much risk for something happening again if we didn't look into it. We want to have as much information as possible to help us make our next decision.
You have to be your own advocate, no matter what, so you could always get a second opinion if you're unsure depending on what your OB says tomorrow. Just depends on what you feel most comfortable with.
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
9/2010 SA=Normal 9/10 HSG Dx Both tubes dilated; Rx bilateral salpingectomy & IVF; 9/2010-12/2012 Financial break
1/2013 Bilateral Salpingectomy 5/2013 Recent SA shows borderline morphology
5/2013 IVF w/ ICSI #1 6/25/13 ER=11R 9M 9F 6/28/13 3dt of 2 embies (8B & 6A-); no frosties: BFN
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BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
Me (34); DH (35)
BFP 11/25/13; Heard strong heartbeats for 3 weeks; Natural MC (1/15/14)
BFP 11/11/14 EDD 07/21/15 hoping for our rainbow!