How far apart are your children?

VicinoSeven

How far apart are your babies? We just had #1 and I was just thinking about how close I want our children to be.....if we have more. What's your experience? Did you have them too close? Wish you had them closer? Thanks in advance!

ToastieSimons

2 years almost exactly.  i love it now, but the 9 months i was pregnant was tough and DS1's first year was tough.  now they're 4 and 2 and are such good friends.

tattooedtragedy

6.5 years. DD1 was a happy accident and we wanted to wait until we were more financially settled and she was in school before trying for #2. I wouldn't have minded if it were closer to 4 years apart but it took a little bit for #2.

Posted too soon. We really like our age difference. DD1 is super helpful and not having 2 in diapers was great.

ks3pink

DD is 6.5 years older than my twins. Having twins the age gap is great because she can pretty much do for herself at this point. The negative of that is her feeling like they get all the attention from everyone.

FrickandFrack

3 years and 3 months. I love the spacing because DS1 is very helpful, loving and playful with DS2.

jorkz821

About 2.5 years apart. We were aiming for closer to 18 months - 2 years but it took a bit longer for DS. I like the age gap so far, except for the dc costs as PP said.

theseaword

20 months. I'm very happy so far, although it's expensive with two in daycare full time.

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lisaren

My first is 17 the second is 15 the third is 8 and the youngest is 6.

It's like having two separate families almost in my situation.

Spin313

Three years, to the week.

Personally I love the age spread. DS started preschool when DD was six months old, so I got individual time with each. They play fairly nicely together, although DD does pick up a lot of "bad" things that DS picks up at school (ie: taunting, potty talk).

ShakeyJakey

If this cycle is successful it will be 2 years and some change. Ideally I want my first to be 2-4 years old, but I can see advantages of waiting longer.

Lolapop29

10 years.  It's really nice, DS1 is extremely helpful with his brother.  Of course this wasn't exactly planned, I had a divorce in between children.  

I want one more, but I'm struggling with it because it's not a good idea for us right now financially.  We might just stop.  Thinking about being done with babies gives me the sads.  

MrsT0514

When this baby is born, our kids will be pretty much exactly 2 yrs apart (within a few weeks, expected). My brother and I were 2 yrs apart and my mom said we were always close when we were little, so I knew I always wanted mine close together.

Of course, we'll see how it goes once baby #2 is actually here, lol. Im sure it'll have its share of difficulties, but in the end, its what we want.

Mags748

3.5 years. I went to nursing school in between, so they probably would have been closer in age if I hadn't. I have found lots of positives and very few negatives. Less time with both in daycare, I had plenty of time to focus on just DS through the infant and toddler years, time to feel like myself again amd get sleep before having another, DS was old enough to understand what was going on and he was not jealous. They would likely be into more of the same things at the same time if they were closer in age but they play well together for the most part and have a great bond. They hug each other and say "I love you" often.

aforst

DS1 and DS2 are about 2.5 years apart. I like that age gap. They like to play with each other and are pretty good friends. DS2 and DD are about 3.5 years apart (DD and DS1 are 6 years apart). I'm glad we waited a little longer to have #3. Going from 2 to 3 kids has been harder than I thought it would be. DS1 is pretty self sufficient now and that helps a lot

SpaceGirlSpiff

DS and baby 2.0 will be almost 3.5 years apart and that seems like it'll be good... We'll see ... But he's much more independent now than he was while younger, and with how high energy he is, having a second sooner than this would have been a nightmare ..... I'm thinking this little bit wider age gap will be doable (I hope)... Still hard but doable.... But it's not TOO far apart in age either. This will be our last kid too.

Maebb

I am 13 weeks pregnant, and they'll be 25.5 months apart if this one arrives around his / her due date. It's ok so far except that I'm exhausted, and I can't just get home from work and take a nap like I could before we had kids. We do have some things to think about, like...do we want to try to potty train DS before this baby comes? Will he be ready? Do we want to move him to a toddler bed (would he stay in it?), or should we get a second crib? I'm sure we'll figure something out, but those wouldn't be questions so much if they were more like 3 or 4 years apart.

colliebabe

They will be 3 years 2 months apart. I'll let you know how it's going around Christmas time!

But seriously - I like that DD will be a little more independent with this spacing, but at the same time I keep hearing what assholes 3 year olds are so I may be nuts for adding a newborn into the equation during that time.

acesup

2 years 4 months. I really like our gap. DD and DS play great together. DD was a very good helper when DS was born, but that is her personality. It worked well for our family but every family is different.

shadypines

DD is 2 years old

DS1 15 yrs old and DS2 6yrs old

NCMichelle

14 months....  it's pure chaos the majority of the time!

babyf86

My LO is 9 months old and I'm 6 months pregnant. So mine will be exactly a year apart, possibly to the day! I'm assuming pure chaos for the next few years of my life!

shadypines

triplea598 said:

ShadyPines920 said:

DD is 2 years old

DS1 15 yrs old and DS2 6yrs old

How do you like these age gaps? Since DH and I are young, we've also considered the possibility of having another in 10 years. I don't know if we will want to wait that long, but I'm just curious

When DS2 was born it was like starting ALL over again.

I like it.

ShakeyJakey

ShadyPines920 said:

triplea598 said:

ShadyPines920 said:

DD is 2 years old

DS1 15 yrs old and DS2 6yrs old

How do you like these age gaps? Since DH and I are young, we've also considered the possibility of having another in 10 years. I don't know if we will want to wait that long, but I'm just curious

When DS2 was born it was like starting ALL over again.

I like it.

SOs brother is 6 years older and his sister is 10 years younger. She was a surprise.

I think 10 year diff is the most I would actually try for another, even though we're young too. They're such a big difference between 10 and 20, I feel like they wouldn't be close. (I know some siblings that far apart are close, this is just what I imagine

NotSharknado

11 years.

jensriot

humptydance said:

Two years four months exactly. Now that they are three and five it's fun because they play together. Well, when they're not fighting.

C and L are two years and four months apart. L and A are two years and four months apart as well. The separation is great. The older kid seemed to really get it when talking about new baby and they are close enough to play together really well.

LadyXaverian

When this one comes, DD will be a little over 2 months shy of turning 4.

LC122

Ours are 21.5 months apart. We like it. We might have opted toward closer to 2 but it has worked out great so far.

I have a brother who is 29 months older than me and a half-sister who is 12 years older than me. There were times when we liked the age gap with my sister (she could be the cool older sister who could drive and was in college when we were still young), but as we've gotten older, we've realized we experienced very different childhoods and remember things drastically different. And she resented having to babysit my brother and me at times. Oh well.

curlylocks3

23 minutes
I don't know if we will end up trying to have a third but I don't think I we are even considering a transfer until they are 2...probably more like 4-5!

thebanich

16.5  months.   #-o

I love that they are close together now but the first few months were terrifying.

lildevil968

6 years. DS was not planned, but if he was, I would have chosen to have them closer. Going from a 6 year old to a newborn again was very hard on all 3 of us.

bumpuser260585

3 1/2 years. So far it has been okay. It is nice that DS1 is potty trained and can help with throwing away diapers. Sometimes he wants to be too helpful and isn't always gentle with the baby. He also gets a little jealous at times.

bumpuser260585

MelsaX said:

@PineappleLeviosa‌ I'm glad that you said it gets easier. It's just overwhelming right now. I'm not good with the infant stage anyway.

The infant stage is by far my least favorite. I feel guilty sometimes wishing ds2 was older since he is our last baby, but I do not like this age at all.

2goingon3

19 months between DD and DS. It had it's challenges....like no tandem naps, potty training and BFing at the same time, but if I could go back, I'd do it exactly the same all over again! They'll be one grade apart in school, they play really well together, they can do the same activities right now, it's great.
We're now PG with #3, and there'll be a gap of 4 years between DS and new baby.

JennaRaek

babyf86 said:

My LO is 9 months old and I'm 6 months pregnant. So mine will be exactly a year apart, possibly to the day! I'm assuming pure chaos for the next few years of my life!

Pretty much this. DS is just over 6 months and I'm due 12/16. 2U1. DS was born on NYE so they'll be less than a year apart. I believe there will be a decent amount of wine in my life the next few years!   @-)

Oh. And I'm lurking from Jan14 and Dec14! (That even looks silly). Hope to participate here a little more too!