If planning this shower wasn't so stressful it would be laughable! I appreciate everyone's input and patience, I just am not sure how to deal with these situations. My co-host and I have started to work on the details for our relative's baby shower, and it turns out we have very different visions. We agree that we want to steer away from some of the standard shower food so that isn't an issue. She wants to really cheap out on certain things that we could do really reasonably anyway - for example, she wants large bottles of soda instead of punch or sparkling juice, bulk white paper napkins instead of simple patterned napkins in a co-ordinating color (we could get these for $1 a package), foam coffee cups, etc. I suggested a childrens book as a guest book - she wants to pull one off her kids bookshelf instead of buying a new one. I am close enough to her to know that she isn't hurting for money so this is confusing and aggravating. As we were going over the list I found myself saying over and over "I'll look after that" because I am not willing to go to all this trouble to have things look cheap and tacky when they can be great for little money.
Without getting into too much detail and remain anonymous, the parents to be are big fans of a certain iconic movie from the 70s/80s and my co-host is adamant that this should be the shower theme. It is completely non- baby related, violent, inappropriate and I would be horrified and embarrassed to have my name on an invitation for an event with this theme. I am not a conservative person, or prudish - I have run this by a couple of people who were shocked that she thinks this is a good idea, but they don't know how to deal with this either. I have suggested other themes, but she keeps saying how great and fun it will be and that it should be something MTB likes. I can't convince her that liking something doesn't make it a good baby shower theme.
I am ready to say that since we have such different ideas and can't agree that I will no longer co-host. I just can't get behind this choice. Am I off-base here? Do you see a solution?