Hey folks, looking for a little feedback here. I'm 9 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend and I are relocating from Boston to the midwest. We've decided to move a few months after the baby comes. My concern is the nursery. I've been doing a lot of reading that building a nursery is a critical foundation/ building block for moms for when the baby comes. Unfortunately with a move in the near future, we can't get too crazy with the cute wall decor, paint, fancy furniture, etc. It's probably going to be the basic stuff like a small cradle, a changing table, and a dresser. Once we move into our new home I can make up the nursery the way I intend to. BUT like I said, I always read that it's a critical point DURING PREGNANCY, not after. Do you think this will impact me on an emotional level? Or is it fluffed up and over exaggerated? Any thoughts?
Re: Relocating after birth and can't have fancy nursery. Cons?
DS didn't have his own room until he was 2. The first two years of his life he spent sleeping in our bed (so no crib, mobile, or nursery bedding/colors), and the changing table was against the wall in our room. I don't think anyone suffered emotionally from not having a nursery.
...in fact, it's a weight off because it's one less thing (and one less enormous thing, I might add) to do before baby arrives!
My only suggestion us to go ahead and pick out a recliner/glider...you will use the hell out of it the first few months. I begrudgingly got the Kelsey from BRU and it's been amazing. I can't believe I thought I would get by without one.
Another thing you can do is go ahead and get your ideas together...and make any DIYs now...while you have time . Most art/mobilesetc are easy to pack!
I think you'll be just fine without painting and doing a bunch of decor. You'll have more fun with that stuff once you know you'll be able to enjoy it long term. I agree that you'll be able to place things where you know you'll need/want them once you get into a groove with LO.
Pregnant women tend to want to nest but there is absolutely nothing in that that could be considered 'critical' as in what, your health and the existence f your baby depend on this?? Lol!
Most likely your child will sleep in your room in a bassinet or rnp for a while. This is the silliest thing to stress about when pregnant.... I have an aversion to 'nursery themes' and pimped out nurseries with super cutesy, coordinated schemes so we never really did much that way. I'm conviced I am not the only one. Nobody will tell me I am not fully a mother because I never got into the 'designing a nursery' frenzy...
Not having a nursery is totally fine. When DS was born, we were in a small rental house and there was no room we could use for a nursery. So we set up the crib, changing table and dresser in our room, and we didn't decorate. I was sad for about 5 seconds that I didn't have a nursery to decorate, but I got over it. The little babies don't appreciate the nursery theme - they just want love and affection and food.
We moved to a bigger house when DS was 9 months, and we painted DS' room in bright colors, but we still haven't gotten around to decorating it over a year later. He doesn't care - within a year, I'll decorate it with stuff he's into (cars, elmo, whatever), but it's a low priority.
DS born 6/2013
We had a nursery with my first, but didn't use it until he was 6+ months, when we moved him into his crib (which he was only in for the first 4-5 hours of sleep each night). We mostly used the nursery for storage and for clothing. This time around, we live in a small, 2-bedroom apartment so baby will be with us for the foreseeable future. The only thing that I am not liking is trying to figure out where to put the baby clothes, since we don't have room for another dresser and our dresser is full. Other than that, I am not missing the nursery at all. One less room to clean and prepare
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