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annoying coworkers

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Some of my coworkers, mostly the older ladies say this, but anytime I complain about anything i.e. sneezing too much My coworkers always feel the need to pipe up and say, "maybe you're pregnant!" Then I'll tell them, "no, i'm bleeding as we speak" and then they'll always respond with, "that doesn't mean anything." It drives me bonkers. I wish people would stop. Then they'll ask, "are you pregnant?" and then I say no, I'm not and if I was I wouldn't tell you until i'm at least 12 weeks or until it's become too difficult to hide. I wish they would stop, but they also get really sensitive, so I have to walk a fine line. ugh!
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  • CytheCythe member
    I like you Ellen Paige ( @bibliothecary‌ ). Definitely fork them.
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  • PinkSpartyPinkSparty member
    Cythe said:
    I try to make it a point to not tell coworkers when I'm bleeding.
    I make a point to keep track of my cube mates cycle. It helps me and everyone around us to know when she's going to go off the deep end and when we need to avoid her. You would be amazed how much some people share at work. I try to keep quiet about that sort of stuff, but it's my only line of defense when they keep pushing the fact that they think I'm pregnant and I know full well that I'm not.  
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  • myatalamyatala member
    bibliothecary said:

    14whitney said:

    bibliothecary said:

    I work with almost all women, and it had never cruised my mind to chart for them. Perhaps I should inquire as to their CM.

    For sure. Just follow them to the bathroom with an OPK as well.
    I'm sure a hand thrusting an opk under the stall would be appreciated. " INQUIRING MINDS WANT TO KNOW!"
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  • PinkSpartyPinkSparty member
    I was only joking about tracking my cubemates cycle! OMG! I always know when she starts because she always tells me! When you work with someone in a tiny cubicle for 4 + years and 40 hours a week... you can learn a lot about the other person. 
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  • PinkSpartyPinkSparty member
    WhoCanItBeNow said:
    KatzKiss said:
    A lot of ladies around here have this issue. @WhoCanItBeNow‌ made a good suggestion in one of these threads-tell HR. It is completely inappropriate for them to ask you this. Essentially, they are asking you about your sex life at work.
    This. You can lay things on the line with them first if that may go over better. "I appreciate your concern, but my sex life and the contents of my uterus are not a proper topic of discussion for a work place. When I am pregnant AND when I am ready to tell people, I will let you know. Until then, all the obnoxious comments about me possibly being pregnant over inane things like sneezing need to stop. If they happen again, I will take it to **insert boss/HR/whatever**."


    It's difficult though going down that road by threatening them, but I could always tell our HR person privately and she would issue a warning to everyone in the office. 
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  • PinkSpartyPinkSparty member
    edited July 2014
    Joy2611 said: EllyD14 said: PinkSparty said:   It's difficult though going down that road by threatening them, but I could always tell our HR person privately and she would issue a warning to everyone in the office.  It's not a threat. And if you skip the not-threat and go straight to HR, unless there are a lot of people being asked this, they're all going to know it's you anyways. Why not just stand up for yourself? YES.  I agree with, @EllyD14.  It feels incredibly juvenile and passive aggressive for HR to issue a warning to the whole office.  I mean - really? Tell them - directly - to zip it.  If they don't, then you tell them - directly - that if they don't stop asking, you'll go to HR.  Only then would I even broach this with HR.  Come one - deal with the issue like an adult.
    Those are really good points. Honestly I get nervous at work because it's not unlike some women     at my office to become vindictive or hold grudges over stupid things. I try to avoid confrontation as much as possible. I'm honestly scared of what they might do. 
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  • KingLEDKingLED member
    edited July 2014
    fuzzylogic said:
    PinkSparty said:
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    Those are really good points. Honestly I get nervous at work because it's not unlike some women at my office to become vindictive or hold grudges over stupid things. I try to avoid confrontation as much as possible. I'm honestly scared of what they might do. 
    Like what, get themselves fired for doing something really, really stupid? Like daring to mention pregnancy again to you, or another co-worker, after you've gone to HR about it? This is why HR exists in companies -- to protect employees from bullshit like this.

    If you came here to just whine, you're in the wrong place. These ladies like to fix things.
    ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I love how you say "these ladies" like you're not one of them. lol 
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