is crying it out successful at 14 months?

layuh

My daughter is 14 months today and we have just become accustomed to waking with her at night. She wakes 1 to 2 times at night and generally wants mommy to cuddle her and sometimes wants the bottle. Many nights I sleep with her in the couch. She absolutely refuses to go in her crib awake so I put her in once she is asleep. I want her to learn to soothe herself but my attempts at letting her CIO have not worked because I pick her up after 15 minutes. I feel like I am ready to try again but just wanted to get other mom's input.

Thanks.

ashiscute

Of course it is.  The reason it hasn't been so far is because you haven't been consistent.  Have you read any sleep training books?  It's best to go into this with a fixed plan that both parents are on board with.  It makes it easier to stick to it if you have a plan IMO.  

I read Ferber's Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems and found it very helpful in learning about sleep patterns and crutches.  Good luck.  

BigPoppa22

We have been SOOO frustrated lately!  We read Ferber and did CIO at 5 months and it worked quite well for about 4-5 months.  He would fall asleep in his crib very easily, and then wake at 5-6 am for a morning bottle, after which I would put him in bed with my wife for the rest of the morning.  Then he has some sort of sleep regression and would fall asleep in his bed but wake up 1-2 times in the middle of the night. He would just need to be comforted for a minute and then back to sleep.

Things went really downhill after 12 months.  He wouldn't go right back to sleep in the middle of the night and I would have to let him CIO for 5-10 minutes.  My wife has zero tolerance for CIO in the middle of the night, so depending on who woke up and got out of bed, he would either CIO (me) or more often, come back into our bed at 2-3 am.  Then he started cutting molars 5-6 weeks ago and has one fully in now and 3 that are just starting to break through the skin.  He still goes right to sleep in his crib, but now he wakes up between 1:30 and 3 and will NOT go back to sleep in his crib.  He cries really sad and desperately now.  My wife won't let me do CIO much at all.  One night she went out for a girl's night out, so I was able to fully try to let him CIO, and he cried so hard (even though I went in every 5 minutes) that he threw up all over his crib.

So for 6 weeks, he has been basically taking his first 2 sleep cycles in his crib and then crying and coming to our bed.  I am praying that this is just because of the molars and in another 3-4 weeks he will start getting better.

On an related side note, last night he reached a bit of an auspicious milestone.  He woke up at 1:30 crying, and I guess my wife and I slept through it for 5 minutes so he was really screaming loud.  We woke up and I rushed to the room and flung open the door and he was standing there, at the doorway.   Escaped the crib for the first time.  Really scared the crap out of me because you don't expect a person right at the door like that.  So I yelled out OMG! and that scared my wife so we ended up all 3 of us in the bed with the baby asleep between us and both of our heart's pounding through our chests.  Good times.

MrsStanger

We did CIO but had gotten her accustomed to a routine first! We are strict on bath, bottle, book, and then bed. The first week i would go on walks after i put her down and DH would listen to make sure the crying was never a pain cry. We only keep blankies and animals in the crib. We've been so successful that if she starts to get cranky all we have to ask is if she is ready to go nite nite. she will find the closest blanky and cuddle with it. In extreme situations she will cuddle in front of her room door.

ANYWAYS if one of you can put up with the crying its best to leave that person in charge. If 15minutes is all that you are comfortable with for CIO then whomever goes in needs to NOT pick LO up. We would just put a pacifier in her mouth, lay her back down, and restart her music. Its to the point now she will only wake up if in pain (fever/teething).

Good luck and always remember you are the only one that knows whats best for your LO.

ambmama

We did Ferber at around 11 months. DS had been a great sleeper and then after having to spend 4 nights with my parents (my H and I were both away on business) and teething, he started sleeping terribly. I googled and found the schedule and stuck to it strictly. By night 3 he went to sleep with only whimpers and sttn. We had a few regressions but I would use 5-10-15 intervals and he would always be asleep. He's now almost 19 months and sttn every night unless he's extremely sick. Good luck!

anna.ce

We started at about 7 months and we modified it. We use a video monitor that helps a lot so I have that peace of mind. It can get expensive but worth it for us. It's kinda hard to say bc everyone's babies/situation is different but conistency is important. Also keep in mind that there are sleep regressions too. We also use the Ferber method but again, we modified it so that we all are comfortable. I wish u well