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How to deal with ex's new gf
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I had DD when i was young and now that BD and i have split up for over a year he is suing me for full custody of our daughter. He hasn't had her over night since she was eight months old, only gets her one day a week now, (so full custody is a shock) she will be three in the fall.
BD is 22 and is dating a girl that is 18 and seems to want to play house. They've been together for 4 months and just moved in together. She's posted all over facebook pictures of my daughter doing hashtags like my love, love her so much, stuff like that. When she's met her twice, and says she's spending the rest of her life with BD and DD. I just met her this last weekend after BD avoiding us meeting, he only introduced us and wouldn't let me talk to her.
She never gave me the time of day, wouldn't look at me or even said hi. He shut the truck door and she remained on her phone and avoided me. Then i asked him if we was going to introduce us and then she said hi and looked at her phone. But she's obsessed with posting stuff about DD all over her social media when she wont even be decent with me. I'm not asking for a conversation because i would be uncomfortable in the situation but she was just very rude.
I know i can't keep DD away from her or change how she acts, I'm just very frustrated watching her play house and use my daughter because she is cute and gets her attention. Does anyone have any tips for helping me cope?
BD is 22 and is dating a girl that is 18 and seems to want to play house. They've been together for 4 months and just moved in together. She's posted all over facebook pictures of my daughter doing hashtags like my love, love her so much, stuff like that. When she's met her twice, and says she's spending the rest of her life with BD and DD. I just met her this last weekend after BD avoiding us meeting, he only introduced us and wouldn't let me talk to her.
She never gave me the time of day, wouldn't look at me or even said hi. He shut the truck door and she remained on her phone and avoided me. Then i asked him if we was going to introduce us and then she said hi and looked at her phone. But she's obsessed with posting stuff about DD all over her social media when she wont even be decent with me. I'm not asking for a conversation because i would be uncomfortable in the situation but she was just very rude.
I know i can't keep DD away from her or change how she acts, I'm just very frustrated watching her play house and use my daughter because she is cute and gets her attention. Does anyone have any tips for helping me cope?
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Re: How to deal with ex's new gf
I'm sure she loves playing house, she'll love it less when she realizes it's a round-the-clock job. Also, I doubt the judge would grant full custody to your BD.
Also, dont feel you have to be besties with the new gf. Its weird and uncomfortable. I try not to be friendly with bs sm. And cs mom now wants to be girl friends and that makes me uncomfortable since we usually just dont talk(ive had one conversation with her in a year and a half.
So dont feel you need to be close knit. All you have to do is give her a nod of acknowledgment
This is tough. That would bother me and I dread the day I have to deal with this. Good luck.
That was my stipulation because I don't want DD to have attachment issues after being introduced to every girl and them coming in and out of her life. BD doesn't understand she's going to be an adult and suffer from issues what happens during this time.
I don't expect for us to even be friends but I just thought she should've been a bit nicer and not so rude, I may have an unrealistic expectation of what it should be because she's pushing herself on my daughter.
And, IMO, that relationship sounds doomed. "Ermagherd! I lerv herm!" After 3mo? And long distance? No, no, honey, that shit doesn't work. You need screen shots of her saying she lives with him. Because he's lying to the courts, and they do not take to that lightly. He definitely won't get full custody if he's lying and you can prove it.
I say be the bigger person and remain classy.
Throwing leaves
Throwing leaves
Haha i want to go visit you! But im broke as a joke! Maybe in a couple years i can!
This chick is a piece of work but I remember being the girlfriend dating a guy who had a baby (and at the time he was a baby like months old). Now, I did take pics of the baby, I did not post it on social media (I knew better). But I was also older than this chick (26 at the time). I know that at first, the mom had issues with letting the guy I was seeing bring his son over to the house (cause we were living together) b/c she said she didnt know me and I might not like kids and harm the baby etc. I kinda understood that and offered to speak with her to calm her concerns but she didnt wanna do that. *shrug*
I mean this is something that as single parents that we will have to do and deal with (if the other parent is involved in the child's life) that we will have to comes to terms that our children will interact with our former spouses/mates new partners. I am not looking forward to that but it is what it is.
By the way i feel like this is an appropriate gif for ops bds gf
And I'm another who dreads what will be coming home with stbxh. I mean clearly his judgment is way off considering how he thought it was ok to be abusive toward me. He will not change. I can only provide the best life possible for my boys and keep open lines if communication, oh and pray!!