TTA check in 7/9

skategirl128

Welcome to the TTA Check in!! This is for anyone who is TTA (trying to avoid), no matter for how long. The check in will be weekly. If you are new, we are sorry you're here and we hope that your stay is short. We have a variety of wait times so please feel free to join. Post an intro and tell us why you are TTA and for how long. It can be waiting on the 1st AF, waiting months, waiting on labs, recovering from surgery, personal reasons, etc. You are more than welcome to join for any reason why you are TTA. Please let me know if you would like to be added or if your information below is incorrect. As the months come to an end, members will be removed. If your TTA has been extended, please let me know. When you are burning the bench unexpectedly, let me know too! *****************************************************
If I removed you in error, please let me know! ★☆★ TTA List ★☆★
@AggieBeth06 Thanksgiving 2014 @5895WolterA September 2014 @mrskush1014 July/August 2014 @littlecookie August/September 2014
@this+gamer+chick April 2015 @skategirl128 indefinitely for personal reasons
@jennadesigns‌ indefinitely @Soulbyte‌ April 2015
@sunflwra September 2014

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Any updates from the week?
What was the high/low of the week? Any TTA related frustrations? Anything that you're looking forward to this week?
QOTW: favorite movie?
Big hugs ladies! I'm here if you need me anytime

sunflwra

Hi ladies- thanks for the check in @skategirl128!  Work has been insane so I'm trying to do some quick check ins so I don't get totally behind in bumping

I've realized there are way too many checkin boards that apply to me, so forgive me if this is a repeat from June/November/Multiple loss for anyone...

NEW SINCE LAST TIME: We got our karyotyping results in on the 4th and they were normal and it was such a big mess of emotions. It really seemed like that was going to make sense of all of this for us and, even though it wouldn't be an easy road, there would be a specific cause and "fix". So now we know that we'll eventually be referred to a MFM. We are still waiting on the autopsy/baby's chromosomes as well as going in the first week of August to have my entire body's blood drawn for my RPL testing and hopefully EVERYTHING will be back by early September and I'll go meet with the MFM with a diagnosis or for more testing to try to get one and we can make a plan. My OB promises that the MFM she refers to does not take forever to get people in, so she wants to wait until the bloodwork is back to send the referral. I know it makes sense but I'm not good at being patient, so that is my challenge for at least the next 5-6 weeks.

HIGH: On a happier note, I've lost 5lbs in the past 2 weeks and am doing well with keeping on track to lose 15lbs by my vacation in September- woo hoo!!

LOW: only having to wait another few weeks for our next blood work but it is what it is. Oh and I'm just guessing that AF is going to show up for the first time post-loss next week (based on CM and how things went last time), so I'm just hoping it doesn't totally suck cramp-wise and that at least I can start doing some basic charting again!

Have a wonderful week ladies and I'll hopefully check in more this weekend!

Marissa6609

I do not think I ever officially intro'd on this board, so this seems like the approriate time/place. My name is Marissa, and my husband and I just celebrated out 5 year anniversary

Earlier this year I was referred to a RE after TTC for almost 5 years (on/off). After various testing, he put me on fertility meds (follistim +IUI) due to suspected DOR (this is suspected because my AMH test was extremely low - 0.46, but FSH and the other marker was normal). Luckily, I responded well to the meds and got pregnant our first medicated cycle, this past May. In June we discovered that it was ectopic and I needed surgery. Since it was caught early, the doctor saved my tube. 

Now, I am in the process of healing from the surgery, waiting for my first AF (4 weeks post op and my HCG is still 185) so that I can have my HSG done to verify that the impacted tube healed well. After the HSG comes back clear, we are okay to move forward. Until then, I am TTA, trying to eat healther and work out more. I took the ectopic very hard and I am still having a hard time 'finding myself'. I am hoping focusing on a healthy lifestyle will help me heal (physically and emotionally) along with help time fly.   

QOTW: My favorite movie is The Notebook. I am a sucker for chick flicks. Safe Haven, The Holiday, PS I Love you....all so good!

jennadesigns

@marissa6609 Welcome to the board. It seems like the emotional healing takes a lot longer than the physical. I know I still struggle to find myself some days.

@sunflwra It's hard not having any answers, I'm sorry. It makes things feel like they're even more out of your control. I'm glad you've got a referral to a MFM doc - hopefully you can come up with a plan then. Way to go on the weight loss - that's awesome!

AFM:
Any updates from the week?
I managed to get back on the horse, so to speak. I'd been avoiding sex since the D&C ... I was just having a really hard time with it. Fortunately my partner has been really good about not pressuring me. I finally decided to go for it and it was okay. I was worried I'd be super emotional and cry, but I didn't.

What was the high/low of the week?
The high was not using a condom during the sex we did have. While we haven't had a conversation yet about what our plans are for the future ... if we're going to try or not, apparently we're by default doing the NTNP thing. Who knows if this will change the next time. This is how it's always been. He doesn't want to actively try but he doesn't prevent either. Anyway, I was excited - even though it's not close to my O time, it was a little glimmer of hope that I might get to get KU.

Any TTA related frustrations?
I'm a type A person and I really like to be able to plan things ... so the whole not having a conversation about what our plan is kinda drives me crazy. I want to TTC and I'm afraid if I bring the subject up, I'll get a "no" for an answer. So I just don't say anything. This is how it was after our first loss, we were NTNP for some of the months in between and we ended up getting pregnant with this most recent loss.

Anything that you're looking forward to this week?
I'm working a lot of hours this week at work and I like my job and I like working because it keeps my mind off of other things, like my losses. It gives me 8 busy hours a day where I don't have to be planning my life out in my head.

QOTW: favorite movie?
That's a tough one. I really liked the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series of movies (not the US version, but the Swedish ones). I think they're on Netflix.

littlecookie

@sunflwra congrats on the weight loss. I'm sorry that you didn't get answers. Thinking of you these next few weeks.

@marissa6609 I'm sorry for your loss. FX your beta drops quickly and you can get your hsg done. I've been in beta hell since my loss, so definitely understand the frustration with slowly dropping hcg. Good for you for planning to get healthy. I've been trying the same things while I wait.

@jennadesigns I know that the uncertainty has been weighing on you. Hoping you guys continue to move in the right direction.

@skategirl128 how are you? your H?

Nothing new or particularly exciting for me this week. High was probably food on the fourth, lol. 

QOTW: Sliding Doors: Gwenyth Paltrow. One version of her life she makes a train and one version, she misses it. Her life ends up completely different.

skategirl128

@sunflwra‌ good job with the weight loss! I'm sorry you didn't get any answers. So frustrating! Being patient can be so hard! So many squishy hugs!

@Marissa6609‌ I'm sorry you find yourself here but welcome. Fx for dropping betas. Big hugs!!

@jennadesigns‌ getting on the same page with your h is important but I understand your hesitation. Fx you guys can talk it out and you can actively ttc. Big hugs!

@littlecookie‌ hi

Any updates from the week?
SO is doing well on his new course of treatment I'm so happy for his continued good health!

What was the high/low of the week?
High- spending time together
Low- thunderstorms that knocked down several big branches onto our fence and back yard. Nothing major but still a pain!

Any TTA related frustrations?
Just these migraines and spotting. I made an appointment with my ob to discuss.

Anything that you're looking forward to this week?
Not really- kinda a low key summer fun week

QOTW: favorite movie?
The Harry Potter series- I'm a nerd lol! SO and I watch tons of movies so I have a lot that I liked a lot!

Big hugs ladies! I'm here if you need me anytime