GTKY - Morbid version

meo34

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc

jellybean529

meo34 said:

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry -- I currently have no SO, but yeah, I probably would.

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying - Nope, I would hope he would. I wouldn't want him to be lonely.

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options - I want to be turned into one of those bio urns

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial? I'm an atheist, so no religious. I'd rather people gather around and drink and celebrate rather than be all sad and crying.

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc - I'm an atheist I do think each person has energy that gets transferred but not in the sense that someone goes to heaven or is reincarnated. I don't claim to have the answer for that

Helenahhandbasket

Dang!

1-Well, if I remarry (going thru with a divorce right now) and that spouse passed away I probably would not re-marry.  Actually, I don't think I will ever get re-married as it is, but stranger things have happened.

2- I would not be upset if my spouse remarried if I passed first, well, because I will be dead, and I won't care?

3- I don't really care/ never thought about it, because again, I will be dead.  Funerals/ memorial services are for the living, so I will let the people I am survived by decide what's best.

4- See response to 3

5- I identify as Atheist currently.

 

dmlk413

- If your SO passed away would you remarry

Not sure.  Maybe?

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying

Yes.  Not because I don't want him to be happy but because I don't think he would marry someone who would raise DD the way I want her to be raised.  So, I can't die until she's an adult.

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options

Traditional

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?

Probably religious.

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc.

No clue though some sort of afterlife would be cool.

hopefulmom81

meo34 said:

- If your SO passed away would you remarry

I might.  It is hard to say.  My gut says, "No.", but if I fell in love with someone maybe?

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying

A little.  I would want him to be happy though, and find someone good for DD.

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options

Traditional burial

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?

Informal celebration

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc

I believe in something like heaven, though I am not super religious

meo34

meo34 said:

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry: No, as per an earlier discussion I don't think I could be lucky enough to have what I have now with DH in one lifetime so I would rather go it alone.  I would get another dog maybe? lol

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying.  That would not bother me.  I would want him to be happy. 

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options .  I am going with cremation all the way.  The whole open casket and burial thing is odd to me.  I am going with urn/vase as my eternal resting place.

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?  I have been to a few and honestly I prefer the stiff impersonal Roman Catholic style.  Way too emotional and personal otherwise which I would rather save for a private setting.  Since I am catholic this works for me.

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc Again with the catholic theme.  I am hoping heaven so as long as I get a last minute confessional in I am in the celar .

Ago

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry. Maybe.  I would only do it if I really loved the person and if they would accept DD as their own.

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying.  A little, but mostly I would want that person to take good care of and love DD.  Otherwise, I would haunt DH and new wife!

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options. DH and I would like a green burial

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?  Religious, but within reason. 

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc  Hoping heaven!

*~Krystin1119~*

meo34 said:

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry No, but I would probably have a widower friend who is just looking for a smiliar companion to go to the movies or dinner with

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying He said that he'd never find anyone like me who would put up with him, his odd relationship with his best friend and his family, plus he thinks DD would be upset if he brought home a new mommy

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options  Traditonal

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial? Relgious

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc I hope heaven, but I do believe in reincarnation/past lives

Shabutie

meo34 said:

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry
Yes

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying
No

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options
I'd like to either donate my body to science, or be buried in a cardboard box with a tree planted on top of me. They could cremate me if they wanted. Anything but a traditional burial

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?
Whatever my family wants to do, doesn't matter to me... as long as it isn't religious

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc
I'm an atheist, so, when I'm dead, I'm dead. I'll live on in the values I've instilled in my daughter

gwendarling

jellybean529 said:

meo34 said:

So, the funeral on the weekend brought this discussion up for myself and DH again.  So in honor of that here are the GTKY

- If your SO passed away would you remarry -- I currently have no SO, but yeah, I probably would.

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying - Nope, I would hope he would. I wouldn't want him to be lonely.

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options - I want to be turned into one of those bio urns

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial? I'm an atheist, so no religious. I'd rather people gather around and drink and celebrate rather than be all sad and crying.

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc - I'm an atheist I do think each person has energy that gets transferred but not in the sense that someone goes to heaven or is reincarnated. I don't claim to have the answer for that

seriously, @jellybean529‌ , sometimes i read your comments and I think they're mine.

TiffanyBerry

I find it humorous this is one of the few GTKY's I do, but here it goes:

- If your SO passed away would you remarry I don't know.  If I did, probably not for a very long time.  If something magically happened, I wouldn't avoid getting married just to avoid it, but I'm not sure I can actively see myself going out there and dating to find a significant other.  I mean, my husband and I got together freshman year in college, and we had never had a boyfriend/girlfriend before that.  Why would I want to try starting over in middle age?!

- If you passed away would you be bothered by the thought of your SO remarrying   No.  Well, only a little, because I'd be all "I wish I weren't dead and you didn't need to find someone else", but I don't know how long it would take him, because he's not the dating/romantic sort either.   But I'd way rather have him remarry someone who makes him happy than be lonely!

- Would you rather have a traditional burial or something different  ie cremation (not sure there are other options Donate body to medicine/science.  Like, enough that I hope there isn't anything left over.  You know, give away all the organs that are fit for giving, then slap me on a table in someone's anatomy class to dissect.  I'm all about reuse. :P

- What type of service would you like - religious? informal memorial?  Wake.  Throw a frickin' party.  Better yet, a hike to some lake and have a party there.  Do not, for the love of anything at all, hold some sort of somber memorial.

- Where do you think your "ultimate" destination is - ie reincarnation/heaven/no where you're an atheist, etc  In the hearts and memories of those I've known.   It's not afterlife but it's not nowhere either.