FUN QUIZ: How Much of a Gentleman is your SO?

lgsdesigner

I was watching a talk show the other day, and they had a checklist to see how much of a gentleman your man is. Which of these does your guy do for you?

1) Offers you the last bite of food (if you are sharing something)?

2) Opens car doors/store doors for you?

3) Randomly brings you flowers/candy/small things from the store without you asking?

4) Tells you often how much he appreciates you/loves you?

5) Doesn't embarrass you in public with too much swearing, loud talking, or fight picking?

6) Takes care of things around the house (again...without you asking)?

7) Always puts any woman in his life first? (you, his mother, your mother, etc)

8) Has manners? (please, thank you, etc)

9) A true gentleman values more than just your looks. Does he compliment you in other ways than just body-related talk?

10) A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation. Does he like to see you succeed and encourage it?

lgsdesigner

My Answers:

1) Even if he is still hungry, he always offers the last appetizer/bite of food to me. 

2) Always opens doors even if we are just going somewhere informal...like the grocery store! It's cute. : )

3) He will send me flowers to work "just because", and every time he goes to the gas station or the store, he brings me back something little. It means a lot to me.

4) He tells me every day multiple times a day how much he loves and appreciates me.

5) Never embarrasses me. He can be silly, but never out of control.

6) He will clean and do things around the home without me asking. 

7) Yes, he puts me and my DD first. When his mother was still alive, he put her first, too. Very kind to all women.

8) He definitely has manners. Very sweet guy!

9) He actually likes a scar I have on my body telling me it's "unique". He also compliments my professional side, my motherly side and the way I handle finances. 

10) He is very proud of my accomplishments. I am a bit of an overachiever, and my ex-husband was VERY jealous of me and would say hurtful things. Thankfully-- my fiance is the complete opposite. He brags about me all the time!

hooligans4

Lol. My husband is a Neanderthal. After 15 years the sweet gestures went out the window.
He does tell me he loves me. It's isn't often but It is true and heartfelt when he does say it.

lgsdesigner

@hooligans4 - Haha! Hey...at least he is trying. I need to remember my fiance hasn't been married to me for years, yet. A lot can change! This may just be the 'honeymoon phase' of happiness, but you never know.

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lgsdesigner

@JimBobCooter- Awww...that's awesome! He sounds like a great guy.

bumpuser10258960

1) Offers you the last bite of food (if you are sharing something)? Yep. This one he certainly does.

2) Opens car doors/store doors for you? Yep, even when its cold or raining. 

3) Randomly brings you flowers/candy/small things from the store without you asking? He used to do this more often, but he still does randomly.

4) Tells you often how much he appreciates you/loves you? He tells me he loves me constantly. He tells me how much he appreciates me when I've done something for him or helped him work through coping with something. 

5) Doesn't embarrass you in public with too much swearing, loud talking, or fight picking? For the most part, he's ok, but when we are with a group, he can sometimes get cocky or be a bit of an ass. I think its a guy think to try and prove that they are not pu$$y whipped, when they totally are.

6) Takes care of things around the house (again...without you asking)? Yes, sometimes to a fault, but you'll never hear me complain!

7) Always puts any woman in his life first? (you, his mother, your mother, etc) This he certainly does. 

8) Has manners? (please, thank you, etc) Yes, even in an informal setting. 

9) A true gentleman values more than just your looks. Does he compliment you in other ways than just body-related talk? He tells me he is proud of me when I'm working on something and he always talks me up in front of others. 

10) A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation. Does he like to see you succeed and encourage it? He does certainly do this. But then he plays the martyr sometimes by saying "i cant do that" or "i feel horrible because i'm not doing that". 

Overall, my hubby is quite the gentleman. Thanks for sharing this post! I'm going to go over and give my hubby a big smooch!

lgsdesigner

@MamaBear904- This cracked me up: 

"I think its a guy think to try and prove that they are not pu$$y whipped, when they totally are."

HILARIOUS!!! 

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Davie813

Hmmm--what talk show was this?  A bunch of these seem like they're based on some pretty specific ideas about gender, which don't necessarily resonate with/fit/appeal to everyone. (OK, I'm talking about me.  They don't appeal to me.)   Some of the others seem to be setting the "gentleman" bar veeery low indeed--picking fights?  Really?

Anyway:

1) Offers you the last bite of food (if you are sharing something)?  Yes, but I do the same for him.

2) Opens car doors/store doors for you?  No.  Because I really, really hate that.

3) Randomly brings you flowers/candy/small things from the store without you asking? - Occasionally.  I do it occasionally, too.

4) Tells you often how much he appreciates you/loves you? Yes.  I probably say it more, though.

5) Doesn't embarrass you in public with too much swearing, loud talking, or fight picking? Um, no.  Or rather yes.  Yes he doesn't.

6) Takes care of things around the house (again...without you asking)? OK, he could do better with this one.

7) Always puts any woman in his life first? (you, his mother, your mother, etc) Well, he's considerate toward everyone, including women.  Because women, like men, are people.  He respects and listens to women, which to me seems way more important and less...creepy than the original question.

8) Has manners? (please, thank you, etc) Yes.

9) A true gentleman values more than just your looks. Does he compliment you in other ways than just body-related talk? - Yes.

10) A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation. Does he like to see you succeed and encourage it? - Yes.

lgsdesigner

@Davie813- It was on the Today Show. Not that they have the 'best' checklists, and some are silly, but I figured this would be fun.

Sharon&Paul

1) Offers you the last bite of food (if you are sharing something)?
Rarely, we don't really share food.

2) Opens car doors/store doors for you?
This is not me. Whoever is first holds the door for the next person. Does not matter your sex.

3) Randomly brings you flowers/candy/small things from the store without you asking?
No, only during the dating & engagement period.

4) Tells you often how much he appreciates you/loves you?
Frequently

5) Doesn't embarrass you in public with too much swearing, loud talking, or fight picking?
Never

6) Takes care of things around the house (again...without you asking)?
Daily. i work FT, so he takes on more of the childcare and housework

7) Always puts any woman in his life first? (you, his mother, your mother, etc)
Well, he is Italian so his mother thinks she should be first! He respects other in general.

8) Has manners? (please, thank you, etc)
Always

9) A true gentleman values more than just your looks. Does he compliment you in other ways than just body-related talk?
Yes

10) A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation. Does he like to see you succeed and encourage it?
Yes

I agree things change with years of marriage and kids. We are also not your "traditional" couple. We view each other as equals in our relationship.

bumpuser10258960

lgsdesigner said:

@Davie813- It was on the Today Show. Not that they have the 'best' checklists, and some are silly, but I figured this would be fun.

Well, I sure thought it was fun

Davie813

lgsdesigner said:

@Davie813- It was on the Today Show. Not that they have the 'best' checklists, and some are silly, but I figured this would be fun.

Oh yes, I thought it was fun, too!   Sexism (or perceived sexism?) is just one of my things...

Pintobean39

I love this!!

1) Offers you the last bite of food (if you are sharing something)? Yes all the time. Like I really need to eat my food and his last bite. He always gives me his pickle too and he loves pickles.


2) Opens car doors/store doors for you? Yes all the time

3) Randomly brings you flowers/candy/small things from the store without you asking? Yes! My favorite is the bubble gum from his office.

4) Tells you often how much he appreciates you/loves you? Everyday. He leaves me notes on the coffee makes a lot too.

5) Doesn't embarrass you in public with too much swearing, loud talking, or fight picking? Never has

6) Takes care of things around the house (again...without you asking)? Hell no!!! He has ADD and I have to make him list of things to do. He works a lot and long hours so his list are small but I still have to remind him.

7) Always puts any woman in his life first? (you, his mother, your mother, etc). Always.

8) Has manners? (please, thank you, etc). Yes

9) A true gentleman values more than just your looks. Does he compliment you in other ways than just body-related talk? Yes

10) A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation. Does he like to see you succeed and encourage it? Yes. Then again he gets his feeling hurt because I can use the power tools and he can't figure it out.


**** children mentioned****

I have always taught my boys to be gentlemen, open doors, have manners at the table ... Etc. My husband who is their step dad has helped me tremendously In instilling this in them as their father has no manners. My oldest son is almost 21 and just started dating this girl. Her dad loves him and is constantly saying how he's such an awesome young man and the girl said she's never dated a guy that opens a door for her. Of course my son said I thought everyone was suppose to do that. Nothing has made me feel like a prouder mom than hearing people say my boys have manners and especially my oldest being respectful to another girl. I wonder sometimes if chivalry is becoming a thing of the past.

supersarah77

You all have great partners! MH does a lot of these but his table manners leave something to be desired.

danieleandwayne

MH does all these things. He does, however, chew with his mouth open at times-- but we're working on that. His entire family does it (eating with them makes me lose my appetite, truly), so it's 35 years of previous habit that we're trying to undo. 

Sometimes he is too gentlemanly. I want him to give me the smaller piece of meat or dessert sometimes. Just to prove he's human. LOL

marijaa333

Likewise on the table manners! Pointing at things with utensils is what gets to me. But he's such a star across the board that I just hope no one else notices, LOL. 

Otherwise, he couldn't be more supportive and all around lovely.

KirstenAlecia

This is interesting…..

  

1) Offers you the last bite of food (if you are sharing something)?

Yes

2) Opens car doors/store doors for you?

Sometimes. Less so now than in the beginning but sometimes he still does. 

3) Randomly brings you flowers/candy/small things from the store without you asking?

Yes.

4) Tells you often how much he appreciates you/loves you?

No…..almost never. He isn't vocal about affection…however see #3

5) Doesn't embarrass you in public with too much swearing, loud talking, or fight picking?

Nope doesn't embarrass me. 

6) Takes care of things around the house (again...without you asking)?

Occasionally. Im home most of the time so he doesn't really get the chance…..however i do have busy seasons and i have come home to laundry done. He does most of the cooking….I feel like this counts and is a big deal

7) Always puts any woman in his life first? (you, his mother, your mother, etc)

I would say yes mostly

8) Has manners? (please, thank you, etc)

Again….yes mostly.

9) A true gentleman values more than just your looks. Does he compliment you in other ways than just body-related talk?

No….again. Not vocal in affection or praise. 

10) A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation. Does he like to see you succeed and encourage it?

This is hard…….he likes to see me succeed but i struggle getting his backing in doing what needs to be done to achieve success. The kind that is required to run your own business and the sacrificed that come with it are hard to get his support on…..he would ideally see me working at a "job" He is not intimidated by my motivation though…..

mdogan29

Hmm.... my mom calls my DH an emotionless robot... so that should answer a bunch of the questions right there. Of course, he's different when he's around people other than just to 2 of us, but still... he's pretty quiet unless things interest him.

1. last bite of food - rarely
2. opens door - car doors rarely, maybe when I'm not feeling well. But usually opens building doors for me, b/c I'm a wimp! (of course, a lot of doors are automatic now...)
3. bring me surprises w/o asking - rarely, usually it's not of his own volition (example: "oh someone at work gave me this and it reminded me of you, so I'm giving it to you")
4. tells me he loves me - we have the every day love you - love you too, but beyond that, not really.
5. embarrass me in public - never, he's so shy, I probably embarrass him sometimes.
6. takes care around the house - yes, definitely, he gets stuff done, he likes checklists, so he has routines and does most of the daily preparation of getting up & making breakfast, letting dog out, etc. and does yard work and anything else that's too 'hard' for me. And of course, anything I ask him to, he's really good about that, only minor complaints at times. This is huge for me, he's a good provider and willing to help around the house.
7. puts his wife first - errr... not always, I think he thinks he does, but he loves his parents and will drop everything for them, but it's rare they ask for anything.
8. good manners - hmmm.. I'd say all right manners, his parents are pretty laid back, so the kids kind of did whatever they wanted.
9. compliments (other than looks) - not really... unless I ask him... b/c I'm crazy sometimes, so I ask him why he loves me and he usually says stuff other than looks. So that's cool, but I shouldn't have to ask him! :P
10. encouragement - he's pretty particular about the way things are done and doesn't like to take risks, so whenever I want to try something, he gets very nervous about it, ESPECIALLY when it's going to cost $$, he's very strict w/ budget - unless it's something HE wants to buy (he admits that he's selfish and lazy), but once the decision is made, he'll always support me in what I want to do, unless his mom is against it, then he second guesses everything.....

In closing.... he's not the most verbally affectionate, but he likes to hug/hold hands, etc., so I'm all right with that. I married him b/c he's good guy and he's smart... really smart, but has very little common sense, but it's all right, b/c I fill in the gap with that! I'm emotional he's sensible, so we balance each other out well. He's faithful, works hard and is generally a good guy, so I'm fine with my robot!