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Update in Thread: H just left us
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I think I've told you ladies my h and I have gone through ups and downs, but the past 3 months had actually been good outside of h going out a bit more than I would like. Well that all ended today. I got up with DS and let h sleep in. He came down at 11 and immediately turned on loud rap music. I told him it was too loud and it was almost time for DS to take his nap. He freaked out, called me a b*tch, and said he couldn't take it anymore and was leaving. He went upstairs, packed his stuff and headed to ny (where he is from). He told me multiple times that he hated me and tons of other cruel things that I don't want to repeat. Thankfully he didn't fight me over DS, but here I am alone and I think it's for good this time. I plan to take DS to the zoo when he gets up just to have a good remainder of the day and hopefully he will forget h yelling at me. I just could use some t&p's as I start to navigate how I'm going to move forward.
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
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Re: Update in Thread: H just left us
You are a great mom! To think of your LO's needs in a time like this must be very difficult; I am sure you have a thousand things you need to do instead of going to the zoo, so good for you.
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BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
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Hi everyone - a quick update.
H came back last night and didn't say anything at all - he made a steak (random) and fell asleep on the couch. Lovely. I decided that I needed to calm down before I made things worse so I just left him alone and plan to talk to him today.
I've decided that IF he feels like he wants to try to make things work, he has to agree to couples counseling or I am done. As some of you mentioned, he does have some issues - he's on multiple anxiety medicines that really are in place to keep mood swings/anger in check. He will go from happy to freaking out extremely easily, and when he does, he says really awful things. I don't think the current meds are the right solution and am going to mention that I think he needs to either talk to his doctor again or find a new doctor. I'm also going to agree to go to therapy alone - mostly to figure out how to deal with all of this!
I'm fully confident that I can go at this alone if needed; I have a great job and have family that I could move closer to - but at the end of the day H is a good dad to DS, CAN be a good H when he wants to be, and we have #2 on the way. I feel like I owe it to the family to give it one more shot, especially if it's something that can be dealt with.
Thank you all SO much for your support! It meant so much to come home and see everything last night.
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
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