Second name for baby?

hermanavelasquez

Before getting married, my DH and I made a list of names for our future children, this list was equally in number of names for boys and girls, in order of birth (Isn't that cheesy? We are just like that)    Our first baby boy name in the list was Patrick (as you can see in my badge), which is the translation of DH name to English. 

But then, I heard a name that I have always liked but never considered/recall during our relationship, which is Nicolás (or Nicholas), besides that I like it, it is my dearest uncle's name.  Then I proposed this name to DH as a second name for the baby (because I do want him to be called as Patrick), he was surprised of my proposal and said that name was not on our list, then I told him why I liked the name, but he just didn't get it and asked why I would like to put a second name to our baby.

 I don't have a second name and my husband has a second name that he never uses (it was only useful for his conversations when meeting my family, because his second name is the same second name for my father and all my father's siblings).  Are you having a second name for your baby?  We call him Patrick since we knew he was a boy. What do you think of Nicholas as second name for Patrick? Does it sounds too long or too formal? Does that match? Do you think it would worth it to convince my husband of this second name?

Do you have a second name? Is that name useful for you?

persephonerose

I am going to assume you mean a middle name. 

In my family and DH's family its typical for children to have a middle name. Most people I know have a middle name, but I think that is pretty common for Americans.  I know some cultures do not use them at all.

I think its really about what you are comfortable with.  Is this going to be your only child? Do you think you might want to use Nicholas in the future if you have another son?

hermanavelasquez

persephonerose said:

I am going to assume you mean a middle name. 

In my family and DH's family its typical for children to have a middle name. Most people I know have a middle name, but I think that is pretty common for Americans.  I know some cultures do not use them at all.

I think its really about what you are comfortable with.  Is this going to be your only child? Do you think you might want to use Nicholas in the future if you have another son?

We plan to have more children, one or two more. It is very common in my culture to have second (middle) names, but they are rarely used. 

hermanavelasquez

Kirby513 said:

Yes, we'll have a middle name for our baby. Both MH and I have middle names, and while we don't use them (except by our parents when we're in trouble haha), they tend to be family names that are  carried on.  

Personally, Patrick Nicolas sounds fine together, but it kind of depends on how long your last name is.   If it's a long or complicated last name, you may not want to use a simpler name as the middle one.  Good luck with your husband.

Good point. My baby's first last name is long, and in Spanish we use two last names, considering this, it would be too much I think. 

Emerald27

I like Patrick Nicholas. It also doesn't bother me that he'll have 2 last names. If you love it, I say use it! If your LO finds it cumbersome later in life, he could always drop his middle name.

BabyBsOven

All the women in my family have middle names that they don't use but the men have used theirs. For example, my grandfather went by his middle name and my father went by the nickname of his middle name (his middle name was James and everyone called him Jim). When the women of my family get married, they drop their middle names and move their maiden name to their middle name (except me, I kept my maiden name). My DD has a middle name (a family name to carry on) and our boys will have middle names (again, family names). What they choose to do with them when they are older is up to them. I think it is all preference. Good luck!