tcc after loss.

selmasowavy

Im here for support after my miscarriage this April, so far i been through 2 forums and which I been insulted and attacked. All I want is some comfort and support and hopeful make friends. I been on other forums before without any problems and made friends and hopefully I can make some friends here too.

justMaike

I'm sorry for your loss and hope you'll find this to be a better fitting place. Welcome.

FitMom3510

Sorry for your loss. Check out the newbie blog at the top and it can help avoid a lot of future problems the board. Best of luck with your journey!

selmasowavy

thank you so much!

selmasowavy

thanks so much, I been a member for a couple of months however I never was on the tcc after a loss forum until today and it didn't go very well.

Pinkrose1012

I am so sorry for your loss as pp said check out the newbie blog. Welcome and GL! 

spiltmilkz

I am sorry for your loss, I am currently going through one right now and all the feelings are normal and it can feel good to have the support of others in this time.
That being said, like encchanted said, the TTCAL board was guiding you and letting you know what was appropriate and inappropriate there. The same thing will happen on this board when someone makes a mistake.

selmasowavy

I didn't even see the newbie blog I thought it was a regular discussion. Lol idk why but the word newbie is annoying.

selmasowavy

I'm sorry going through it

MiraK03

@selmasowavy‌ first off sorry for your loss.

So I went over too TTC after a loss and read your thread. Those ladies were not rude but trying to give you helpful info about their community. So I'm sorry that you took it as rudeness.

However, Welcome to the TTC board. Please make sure that you read the newbie intro thread at the top that says READ THIS it has a ton of useful information! Also tracking your temp Is a great way to see when you ovulate. Fertility friend is a great tool to help track this.

finally, welcome here and good luck to you

ETA: words are difficult at the moment

selmasowavy

Well I mean its fine to tell me to write in paragraphs but don't say my writing gives you a headache especially if your a mod. I don't know why people haven't seen that.

selmasowavy

and thanks...

MiraK03

selmasowavy said:

Well I mean its fine to tell me to write in paragraphs but don't say my writing gives you a headache especially if your a mod. I don't know why people haven't seen that.

Im sure people saw that but it wasn't exactly rude in my opinion. Your 1st post was quite difficult to read. (also sorry if my quote boxes doesn't look right... I'm mobile)

luvbunny

I'm so sorry for your loss. There are, in fact, some women on this board who have also had previous losses and are TTC. With that said, I too read your OP in TTCAL and they ladies we're NOT being rude or disrespectful (for the most part). Perhaps your guard is up or your perceiving it differently then they intend?

selmasowavy

I don't care about grammar. Its not about them giving me advice it's the way they told me. 

luvbunny

That type of selfish attitude won't get you far on ANY board. 

selmasowavy

This website is full of horrible people.

MiraK03

selmasowavy said:

I don't care about grammar. Its not about them giving me advice it's the way they told me. 

Ummmm..... they told you the same way anyone else would have told you. I'm confused on what your looking for exactly. Everyone seemed very sorry for your loss and gave you insightful information.

Now your going to two other boards to complain about them... not cool considering how tight TB community is with one another.

KingLED

selmasowavy said:

This website is full of horrible people.

Isn't it amazing!

selmasowavy

I should be getting support not crying in front of my laptop because women who are suppose to be going through the same as me shouldn't be bashing me. I'm planning on deleting my account because this is making me feel worse.

mlebates

selmasowavy said:

Im here for support after my miscarriage this April, so far i been through 2 forums and which I been insulted and attacked. All I want is some comfort and support and hopeful make friends. I been on other forums before without any problems and made friends and hopefully I can make some friends here too.

Just in case.

Also OP just putting it out there that calling out other boards for being "mean" will cause others to go to said board, and form their own opinion about how things went on that board. FFR just intro yourself, and be done.

I'm gonna call this a big fat muddy mud puddle. All this was intended to do was cause drama.

selmasowavy

on top of everything I was diagnose with stomach cancer.

KingLED

selmasowavy said:

I should be getting support not crying in front of my laptop because women who are suppose to be going through the same as me shouldn't be bashing me. I'm planning on deleting my account because this is making me feel worse.

Yeah. No. Just no.

selmasowavy said:

on top of everything I was diagnose with stomach cancer.

Oh?

mlebates

selmasowavy said:

on top of everything I was diagnose with stomach cancer.

Wait you're diagnosed with stomach cancer, and you're STILL TTC?? You know that can increase your chances of the cancer spreading and getting worse right?

MiraK03

I'm gonna call this a big fat muddy mud puddle. All this was intended to do was cause drama.


This^ also not sure how my quote box is going to look so sorry in advance.

FitMom3510

So when someone gives you advice to the questions that you asked that makes them horrible people? Also giving you advice on grammar and making your questions easier to read doesn't make people horrible especially when it's on a message board that you talk to other people with writing... We are a community and here to help others but going board to board bashing the previous one isn't going to help your situation.

I would suggest either stopping your negativity and take the advice and maybe apologize and start over or make a whole new SN because the history that follows this one is not good. 

Best of luck! 

mlebates

I want to support you, I REALLY REALLY do. But I think you need to have a sit down chat with your oncologist, and your OB.

luvbunny

OK... besides the MUD that I believe is happening right now, I'm going to give you some solid, heartfelt advice. While TB can be a great source of support and camaraderie, you have to also have a thick skin sometimes and respect the community/bond that the women already have. 

It truly sounds like your really struggling. If you were diagnosed with stomach cancer, gastritis, GERD, and recently MCed... I'd reconsider TTC at this point and instead look for IRL support in the form of friends/family or counseling. 

I wish you the best.

selmasowavy

Is this what you guys do? bash somebody when they feel insulted do you see the amount of people attacking me. I been through so much I'm 21 and been diagnose last month with stomach cancer and miscarried.

ImJessesGirl

luvbunny said:

OK... besides the MUD that I believe is happening right now, I'm going to give you some solid, heartfelt advice. While TB can be a great source of support and camaraderie, you have to also have a thick skin sometimes and respect the community/bond that the women already have. 

It truly sounds like your really struggling. If you were diagnosed with stomach cancer, gastritis, GERD, and recently MCed... I'd reconsider TTC at this point and instead look for IRL support in the form of friends/family or counseling. 

I wish you the best.

Especially since you're only 21, OP, I ditto everything @luvbunny said. You're young!! You have plenty of time to deal with your current medical issues and then ttc!

DaikokuJess

selmasowavy said:

Is this what you guys do? bash somebody when they feel insulted do you see the amount of people attacking me.

What we do is return the level of kindness and respect that we get.  The people here have tried to help you understand how to be a positive part of this community.
Going through loss and illness is hard, as many here can relate.  My heart breaks for those who are going through it.  However, you can not "bash" those who question you for your approach to joining a community like this one.

selmasowavy

I'm going ttc I don't care if I die because of it, just to hold my child in my arms for awhile, thats what I want. DO you know my fucking life?! Are you my doctor?!

mlebates

selmasowavy said:

Is this what you guys do? bash somebody when they feel insulted do you see the amount of people attacking me. I been through so much I'm 21 and been diagnose last month with stomach cancer and miscarried.

No one here is being rude. They are giving you sound advice.
THIS


Is not what we do.

luvbunny

Don't ask for our advice then if you don't want to hear opposing viewpoints. And speaking of "RUDE PEOPLE"- cursing doesn't make you a sweetheart.

Cythe

selmasowavy said:

I'm going ttc I don't care if I die because of it, just to hold my child in my arms for awhile, thats what I want. DO you know my fucking life?! Are you my doctor?!

Huh. I wonder why she claims to have gotten attacked. With this stellar attitude, its completely shocking to me. Its probably time to step away from the bump tonight.

FitMom3510

OP what exactly were you looking for/expecting? If you run into the same issue on every board maybe it's not us that is the problem...

selmasowavy

I wish none of you become mothers.

KingLED

selmasowavy said:

Im here for support after my miscarriage this April, so far i been through 2 forums and which I been insulted and attacked. All I want is some comfort and support and hopeful make friends. I been on other forums before without any problems and made friends and hopefully I can make some friends here too.

selmasowavy said:

I'm going ttc I don't care if I die because of it, just to hold my child in my arms for awhile, thats what I want. DO you know my fucking life?! Are you my doctor?!

This is totally logical and reasonable. 

FitMom3510

selmasowavy said:

I wish none of you become mothers.

Do you also feel bad for our hubby's and family and also our pets?

DaikokuJess

selmasowavy said:

I wish none of you become mothers.

So you weren't here to get support after all...

spiltmilkz

You are right. We don't know your life and we are not your dr. I think it's time to step away from the computer and get advice from those who do know your life and your dr.