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This check-in is for Friday, July 4, 2014.  
Happy 4th of July to all of our American friends and belated Happy Canada Day to our friends to the north!
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This is a check-in designed for us that are AMA (35+) and dealing with that added challenge in our TTCAL journeys. Please feel free to share your insights, vents, thoughts, and anything else. Mostly this check-in is to remind all of us that we are not alone and to offer support to each other. Check in every other  Friday. New members: Post an introduction and your current TTC status and I will add you to the list! Welcome :-) Current members: Post your updates, link to your chart, upcoming appointments, and if you get a BFP, please PM me! If you get a BFP and do not PM me,  I will not post your BFP in the check-in.
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buggirl72
clh4444
dajhughes
gscoville
HeyMrsPotter
HoldingOutHope
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katib77
kboydbowman

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meredithcarole
O2girl
rubysi
RustyGirl3
sunflwra
Tablefor5
tlc35
VesperLynch
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@katib77 -  So many ((((hugs)))).  I know the direction your journey is taking you but please know that you are welcome to stay a part of our check-in for as long as you want.  

@RustyGirl3 - (((((Hugs)))) for the BFNs. How are you doing on the no caffeine?

@HoldingOutHope - How are you doing?

@tlc35 - Happy belated birthday!  It looks like O is still holding off for you. FX!

@Tablefor5 - Did you get a +OPK and get your progesterone checked yet?

@O2girl - I was lurking on IF and saw your comment about your first RE not updating your chart with your FET! WTF! I would be so mad!  How much longer are you on lupron suppression?

@meredithcarole - I was sorry to see AF showed up :(   Any updates on a new restaurant?

@mlal78 - when are you going to start testing with OPKs? I’m optimistic about an early O for you :)

@rubysi - How are you doing on this medicated cycle?

@yellowcat10 - How are you doing? You start IUIs this cycle?

@VesperLynch - Did you get your flooring ordered? Did you ever get a +OPK?


@sunflwra - How did your appointment go? Were you able to get a referral to an RE?









To anyone who missed last week’s check-in: how are you?


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  • My update -

    Moving is crazy!  We spent the first night in our new house on Saturday. Unfortunately, we had no hot water until Wednesday. The hot water heater was not on because, someone (me), did not have the gas turned on in our name because someone (me) did not realize that we bought a house with a gas hot water heater.  Why did we have to wait until Wednesday to get the gas turned on? The gas people here are rude assholes. Seriously. Apparently, it's a well known fact. 

    We survived. And, I got to finally take a hot shower in our house today!  We got our new stove and our dishwasher and dryer installed yesterday and should get our refrigerator on Saturday. We love the house and we are slowly getting everything put away where we want it.

    On the TTCAL front - I had some weird spotting start on CD13 that lasted for 7 days and was not my normal spotting. I ended up updating my chart to show it as a start of a new cycle because it seemed more like a light AF then anything else. That makes for a 14 day cycle.  With the move, I stopped temping and have zero desire to start again.  I don't know what my body is doing and, at this point, charting is not giving me any answers. That makes two extremely short  cycles out of the last three, with two of them appearing out of no where. My remaining ovary is old and tired and I think it is giving up on doing it's job.

    I'm in a funk and don't see much to be hopeful about on the TTC front.

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  • Thanks Bug, while I'm easing away slowly I still checkbin daily (if not as often or as long) so I'll be hanging around here a littke while longer. Glad you're getting into the new digs, but sorry about the cold showers.

    Mlal - sorry I never used wondfros but I hope they're not all wonky.

    AFM - today I hung out with my bff visiting from GA and her two lo's. First words out of daughters mouth? "Do you have kids?" I see this girl once a year but she's only 5 so I'm proud of myself for remaining cheerful throughout my entire afternoon with them. But yeah, finding this first month knowing we're now cf forever a bit bitter but overall not too bad. Almost no crying after the beta day. Go me.

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  • Hi ladies. Sorry you all seem to be having less than stellar weeks :( Bug, I am glad you finally got a hot shower! Sounds like the new house is coming together well. @mlal78‌ I will straight up admit that I have yet to figure out what (beyond something you pee on) a wondfo is - so I am of no help whatsoever. @katib77‌ ((hugs)). AFM - yeah, AF showed, but I really wasn't surprised. I was a bit disappointed, but I knew our timing wasn't great and I was still (mentally and emotionally) testing the waters being off the bench. I do have a renewed sense of purpose with it this month, though. My BFF is now NTNP (sort of - pull out method as her H is not 100% on board yet since they just bought a house) and there is a small (read: petty) part of me that is going to be really pissed if she gets KU before I do. Not the healthiest of attitudes, but there it is. I am still waiting to hear on a new restaurant. Honestly, it could take months. Meanwhile, I am totally over the boys' club atmosphere with my boss and coworkers. They are all very duplicitous. So there's my life in a nut shell.
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  • mlal78 said:

    Huge (((hugs)))) Bugg, I am sorry for the house kerfuffles, and the short cycles.


    @mlal78 - when are you going to start testing with OPKs? I’m optimistic about an early O for you


    I tested today with a wondfo. I can't say that I am super happy with them. I was not convinced last cycle of true positives (though it seemed to match up with FF O date). Todays test was a blatant negative, but the control line was choppy, and not even a solid colour. I don't know how much faith I can put in these. Someone please tell me different, because I have about 40 of them to use up!

    I ended up switching to digis as my primary because it took away the guess at whether the wondfo was positive or not - and I'm not willing to cut down my water consumption to make sure I have a good, concentrated per. It came down to whether I was willing to spend up to $35 a month on them if I needed to test for 20 days. I was for ease and peace of mind. And heck, it was my only "hobby" for awhile.

    As far as wondfos, the OPKs have generally been better than the HPTs for not having wonky bad ones (which is what it sounds like you had). I very rarely got a true positive with wondfos but the almost positive would line up with my shift so it was not an issue.

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  • katib77 said:

    Thanks Bug, while I'm easing away slowly I still checkbin daily (if not as often or as long) so I'll be hanging around here a littke while longer. Glad you're getting into the new digs, but sorry about the cold showers.

    Mlal - sorry I never used wondfros but I hope they're not all wonky.

    AFM - today I hung out with my bff visiting from GA and her two lo's. First words out of daughters mouth? "Do you have kids?" I see this girl once a year but she's only 5 so I'm proud of myself for remaining cheerful throughout my entire afternoon with them. But yeah, finding this first month knowing we're now cf forever a bit bitter but overall not too bad. Almost no crying after the beta day. Go me.

    I wish I could give you a huge ((((hug)))).

    The day that I found out my one and only IVF did not work, I remember standing in the backyard and watching a sunset. I remember there was a pretty little bird that was singing. I thought about how much beauty there was in the world and how many good things where in my life. I also reminded myself that I married my husband - not our unborn children.

    My then husband had agreed to only one IVF and was dead set against adoption. With that negative, I knew we were done. It is an incredibly hard, bitter pill to swallow.

    My best advice is to refocus on you and your husband. Bring everything back to the two of you. Make plans that you could not make while TTC - and they can be outrageous. I like plans that involve world travel to kick-ass destinations. Whatever those plans are, make sure the two of you are listening to each other and continue to communicate. Love each other with all of your beings.

    I know you have talked about getting your career back. Do that if it is something you want to do.

    Live your life. XO Kati. CFNBC is so incredibly hard. I spent 8 years coming to terms with that. There is a lot of grief processing in that journey but you can come to peace with it.

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  • Happy Independence Day ladies. @buggirl72‌ - you really have a way with words; they resonate with me. Thank you. At this age and time spent TTC, I constantly wonder if CF will be my journey. It used to panic me; now I have come to terms with it. I'm moving to IVF. I met with a new RE and will baseline next cycle. I feel more confident in this practice.
    @mlal78‌ - hope you O soon. I also use digi OPT; I'm sure I'd never get the hang of the Wondfos
    @katib77‌ - no words; just big hugs
    @meredithcarole‌ - sorry you're dealing with the boys club at work. I also have to deal with that crap. I've developed a pretty mean evil eye/dead pan stare that unsettles them when they're on my last nerve.
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  • @buggirl72‌  I am glad things are starting to come together with the house, we just started looking this week.  I agree Lesliem0901 you really put into words a lot of what I have been thinking about lately.  @katib77 I am sorry you have to deal with all of this ((HUGS)).

    @mlal78‌ I use wondfo and never have a problem.  Some months the test line is not quite as dark as the baseline, but that is likely due to the time of day and concentration of hormones.  There are a few bad batches out there.  If you google it you can fine out.  I have also used clinic guard (I think that is the name) which are sometimes cheaper and I found more reliable but the stripes are thinner so harder to read sometimes.

    @meredithcarole‌ sorry you have to deal with all the nonsense at work and bfns, hope things improve soon.

    Lesliem0901 good luck with the move to IVF.

    AFM this is our last cycle before IUIs.  Our timing was good but I also was pretty lax about checking o since going to Africa and coming back.  I have had a lot of organizing and unpacking to do at home and work, plus looking for houses so I have had some good distractions.  My husband is more optimistic than me at this point. 
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    Hello ladies!!!
    @buggirl72‌
    Thanks for the checkin lady! Also, yay for hot water.....and that sounds like something I would do ;)
    ((((Hugs))))

    @katib77‌
    (((((Hugs))))) I so wish there were words :(
    @meredithcarole‌
    I'm sorry AF showed her ugly face :(
    ((((Hugs))))
    @Lesliem0901‌
    Best of luck with your IVF appt.

    AFM:
    @buggirl72‌
    I haven't started the Lupron yet because they have been waiting until my beta dropped to zero and I had an actual AF before starting the Lupron. As for the chart issue with the old RE.... :::bangs head on table::: honestly I am shocked at the whole lack of charting.... So many things were missing from the chart that literally the list of included material is smaller than the list of excluded material, and that scares me. But I have a new RE who I have nothing but faith in.

    Also..... AF finally arrived!!! I've never been so happy to get my AF in my life! Now I can get started on the Lupron and move towards TTC again!! :D

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    5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
    5/3/14 ~ D&C
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  • tlc35tlc35 member
    I'm sorry for all the crappy news here.  It seems like there have been a lot of new losses and "coming back".
    I am hopeful that I won't O until next week.  I also used wondfos and they worked pretty well for me last cycle, but i have heard of people getting a crappy one that doesn't work well now and again.  Monday I am finally leaving after being away for work for nearly 3 weeks.
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    @VesperLynch‌
    I'm not exactly sure..... My RE said to call him when I have an actual period..... But of course my AF arrived this morning and I don't think this qualifies as a reason to leave a message with the message center they use.... So I'm at a loss :-<

    ETA: I'm so ridiculously in LOVE with your floors!! :x
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    DX:  Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant

    DH: 34
    MFI due to Testicular Cancer

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    10 little polar bears
    FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN :(
    FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
    Beta 1= 276
    Beta 2= 662
    4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
    5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
    5/3/14 ~ D&C
    FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
    October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
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  • Hi ladies!

    Bug- I'm excited for your new house goodness, there's something nice about getting everything settled. I'm so sorry for the short, wonky cycles- I hope things normalize or you get some answers soon.

    mlal- I've mainly used Wondfos for my OPKs and always had good results from them. The last few cycles, I'd confirm with a Clearblue digital OPK just to make sure and they were always in line. Good luck!

    katib77 - we're glad you're here :)  Sounds like you did a great job with your friend and her kids which had to be so hard, especially with everything being so fresh.  Big hugs to you!

    meredithcarole - sorry for AF showing up but sounds like you've got a good attitude about next cycle. I can completely understand feeling like you do about your friend, I'm sure a lot of people would feel the same and at least you can vent honestly about it here, right?

    O2girl - yay for AF!!!

    tlc35 - fingers crossed for O to hold off for you!

    HoldingOutHope-  I'm sorry you are in such a tough place hon. Uncertainty is a bitch and I hope you get some answers that put you in a good place to decide how best to move forward. Hopefully the RE will do that for you.

    VesperLynch- I used to always O on CD 18/19, it was my normal and then it totally changed after my first pregnancy. The wait game sucks but you can do it!!

    AFM-  you'll see my mixed emotions post from today with an update. My appointment went well with my OB.  Our plan was to wait a little longer on the referral based on the results of the chromosomal testing.  If it was abnormal, we would be referred to a genetic counselor/RE.  Since I don't have issue getting pregnant or through first trimester, she feels the better referral for me would be to a MFM.  I'm going to call my OB on Monday and see if I can go ahead and get the MFM referral or if she wants me to wait until I go for my thrombolytic testing in 4 weeks.  Not sure if it makes sense to have those results first and start with the MFM from there or not, so we'll see what my OB says.

    Seems like just a lot of sucky crap going on right now for everyone and i'm so sorry for that. Big hugs all around ladies.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

  • Hi ladies. Sorry you all seem to be having less than stellar weeks :( Bug, I am glad you finally got a hot shower! Sounds like the new house is coming together well. *snip* AFM - yeah, AF showed, but I really wasn't surprised. I was a bit disappointed, but I knew our timing wasn't great and I was still (mentally and emotionally) testing the waters being off the bench. I do have a renewed sense of purpose with it this month, though. My BFF is now NTNP (sort of - pull out method as her H is not 100% on board yet since they just bought a house) and there is a small (read: petty) part of me that is going to be really pissed if she gets KU before I do. Not the healthiest of attitudes, but there it is. I am still waiting to hear on a new restaurant. Honestly, it could take months. Meanwhile, I am totally over the boys' club atmosphere with my boss and coworkers. They are all very duplicitous. So there's my life in a nut shell.
    I'm glad that you have a renewed sense of purpose with this month. I don't think it is petty if you get upset that your BFF gets KU before you. It is hard for anyone that is TTC for awhile to not get upset when someone, especially someone not really trying, gets KU quickly and doubly hard when you are on the TTCAL side of the fence. (((Hugs))).

    Hang in there on the restaurant and I'm sorry about your boss and coworkers.

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  • Happy Independence Day ladies. @buggirl72‌ - you really have a way with words; they resonate with me. Thank you. At this age and time spent TTC, I constantly wonder if CF will be my journey. It used to panic me; now I have come to terms with it. I'm moving to IVF. I met with a new RE and will baseline next cycle. I feel more confident in this practice. *snip*
     I'm excited that you have an RE you like and that you are moving forward with IVF! I'm also glad you have come to terms with the possibility of CF being your future. Many ((((hugs)))) and everything crossed for your IVF journey.

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  • *snip*

    AFM this is our last cycle before IUIs.  Our timing was good but I also was pretty lax about checking o since going to Africa and coming back.  I have had a lot of organizing and unpacking to do at home and work, plus looking for houses so I have had some good distractions.  My husband is more optimistic than me at this point. 
    FX that your good timing pays off.  Have fun with the house hunting!

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  • O2girl said:
    *snip*
    AFM: @buggirl72‌ I haven't started the Lupron yet because they have been waiting until my beta dropped to zero and I had an actual AF before starting the Lupron. As for the chart issue with the old RE.... :::bangs head on table::: honestly I am shocked at the whole lack of charting.... So many things were missing from the chart that literally the list of included material is smaller than the list of excluded material, and that scares me. But I have a new RE who I have nothing but faith in. Also..... AF finally arrived!!! I've never been so happy to get my AF in my life! Now I can get started on the Lupron and move towards TTC again!! :D (((((Hugs))))) to everyone who needs one.
    That's right! I'm so glad AF showed and you can get started on the Lupron!

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  • sunflwra said:

    Hi ladies!

    Bug- I'm excited for your new house goodness, there's something nice about getting everything settled. I'm so sorry for the short, wonky cycles- I hope things normalize or you get some answers soon.

    mlal- I've mainly used Wondfos for my OPKs and always had good results from them. The last few cycles, I'd confirm with a Clearblue digital OPK just to make sure and they were always in line. Good luck!

    katib77 - we're glad you're here :)  Sounds like you did a great job with your friend and her kids which had to be so hard, especially with everything being so fresh.  Big hugs to you!

    meredithcarole - sorry for AF showing up but sounds like you've got a good attitude about next cycle. I can completely understand feeling like you do about your friend, I'm sure a lot of people would feel the same and at least you can vent honestly about it here, right?

    O2girl - yay for AF!!!

    tlc35 - fingers crossed for O to hold off for you!

    HoldingOutHope-  I'm sorry you are in such a tough place hon. Uncertainty is a bitch and I hope you get some answers that put you in a good place to decide how best to move forward. Hopefully the RE will do that for you.

    VesperLynch- I used to always O on CD 18/19, it was my normal and then it totally changed after my first pregnancy. The wait game sucks but you can do it!!

    AFM-  you'll see my mixed emotions post from today with an update. My appointment went well with my OB.  Our plan was to wait a little longer on the referral based on the results of the chromosomal testing.  If it was abnormal, we would be referred to a genetic counselor/RE.  Since I don't have issue getting pregnant or through first trimester, she feels the better referral for me would be to a MFM.  I'm going to call my OB on Monday and see if I can go ahead and get the MFM referral or if she wants me to wait until I go for my thrombolytic testing in 4 weeks.  Not sure if it makes sense to have those results first and start with the MFM from there or not, so we'll see what my OB says.

    Seems like just a lot of sucky crap going on right now for everyone and i'm so sorry for that. Big hugs all around ladies.

    Big ((((hugs))))).  I really felt better after my consult with an MFM.  It was nice to know we had a solid game plan in place for how we would deal with a pg that might make it to the second trimester.

    I think having all of your test results in place makes sense.  I'm not sure how long the wait will be on that appointment so maybe go ahead and see if you can get it scheduled but put it far enough out to make sure it is after your test results are in?

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  • tlc35 said:
    I'm sorry for all the crappy news here.  It seems like there have been a lot of new losses and "coming back".
    I am hopeful that I won't O until next week.  I also used wondfos and they worked pretty well for me last cycle, but i have heard of people getting a crappy one that doesn't work well now and again.  Monday I am finally leaving after being away for work for nearly 3 weeks.
    Three weeks is a long time to be gone! FX that O holds off a few more days for you. 

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  • Good morning and so many huge ((((hugs)))) to you, Bug. I'm glad you at least have hot showers on demand now.

    I am also in a funk. I had my post-op yesterday and my OB informed me that she needed to wait another 4 weeks to start my b/w. She likes to give it a good 6 weeks post-loss. Anyway, we see the RE on July 15 so I'll just do all the b/w through them. If my RPL and genetic testing gives us no answers, then I plan to go up to NYC to consult with Dr. Braverman (Reproductive Immunology). MH and I have decided that we will only give this one more try, and we will only be ready to give it a try if we have a plan that is based on a diagnosis. If we get an "unexplained" Dx, I am just not willing to do this again. My body has made it clear that it can't grow an embryo and I need to know why.

    In the meantime, I am just trying to come to terms with the fact that I may have to go through the process of grieving and accepting a life of CFNBC...again. I am feeling bitter toward the world, quite honestly, and just having a tough time. I feel awful because I don't feel that I'm able to be very supportive here right now. :(

    @mlal78 ~ I feel ya on the wodfo OPKs. I am not a big fan, either. I have experienced many a crappy control line. But I hate the ClearBlue digis even more and gave up on them long ago. Ugh.

    @katib77 ~ Big (((hugs))), lady. There are just no words.

    @meredithcarole ~ I understand your feelings about your friend completely. That is rough. With this last loss, one of my BFFs and I were trying at the same time, we actually O'd on the same day and had the same EDD. Of course, she is still progressing wonderfully in her pg while I experienced loss #3. While I am very happy for her and the fact that she will have LO #2, it is so emotionally hard on me for so many reasons. We were also pg at the same time with her LO #1 and I went through my first loss then, not long before her shower. I couldn't even bring myself to stay at her shower. I showed up to drop off gifts and stayed for maybe 5 minutes. It makes me feel like such an awful friend.

    @lesliem0901 ~ (((Hugs))) I hope IVF does the trick for you, I really do.

    @yellowcat10 ~ I'm glad you have some good distractions this month, but hopefully you won't even have to do an IUI cycle.

    @o2girl ~ Yay for AF!!! :D And for moving to a good RE.

    @tlc35 ~ So glad that you finally get to go home! Yay! And I hope O waits!
    So many ((((hugs)))).  Nobody should have to go through the process of accepting being CFNBC twice. It is such a hard cruel process and it is just twisted to find acceptance and then be given hope to only find yourself back at the beginning again. More ((((hugs)))).

    I hope you get a clear diagnosis on what is going on and that it is something fixable.  It is possible that it may come down to "old" eggs - which then becomes a numbers game on how many losses you are willing to endure unless IVF with pgd is an option.

    The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
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  • Thanks so much for the check-in, Bug, and hugest (((hugs))) for you. What a sucky cycle. Thank you, though, for sharing your move story; it made me laugh ("someone" did it :))  )


    *snip*



    I finally got a +OPK on CD 18--first on the digi and then on the cheapie OPK. A long cycle for sure. It was nice that they both agreed and that makes me feel confident in our timing. Now we'll just have to play the wait game.

    Yes, flooring came in! It's a gorgeous cork floor, and we're curious and excited, because we've never had it, plus it's the first time we'll be installing flooring, so who will lose it first when stuff goes wrong? My money is on DH ;-) . (See, I'm rambling.) Anyway, here's a website pic of the flooring:
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    Happy holiday weekend, and more ((hugs)).

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    That flooring will be beautiful! I love sustainable products that look good also.

    FX for you and I'm glad you are happy with your timing.

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  • buggirl72 said:
    Big ((((hugs))))).  I really felt better after my consult with an MFM.  It was nice to know we had a solid game plan in place for how we would deal with a pg that might make it to the second trimester.

    I think having all of your test results in place makes sense.  I'm not sure how long the wait will be on that appointment so maybe go ahead and see if you can get it scheduled but put it far enough out to make sure it is after your test results are in?

    Thanks for this.  I was thinking it may take a while to get an appointment as well.  I'm guessing that if my OB sends my blood testing off at the beginning of August from my appointment, we'd have the results back in about 2-3 weeks, so I could schedule an appointment for the end of August/early September and hopefully the autopsy results would be back by then too.  My OB recommends waiting 3 months to TTC no matter what, so we'd still be able to meet with the MFM and begin any additional testing they may want and not be too far off from that 3 month waiting timeframe.  I just want to make sure we're being as productive as we can with this down time and hopefully coming up with some sort of answer or, like you said, at least having a good plan in place with the MFM should I get pregnant again.  I appreciate the insight and support :)

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

  • @buggirl72‌ thank you for the check in :)
    It's been pretty busy on here this weekend. I've been in and out reading when I can between cooking out and cleaning up :)
    I want to offer (((hugs))) to those that need them and high fives to those who are having a great week.

    AFM: My cycle is one giant question mark. I have no clue what it's doing. I had my progesterone blood draw on Thursday and will get a call back next week. For days I have felt like AF would be showing up at any time. Now I just wait. Blah

    My chart link for anyone wanting to peek
    https://fertilityfriend.com/home/4405a3
  • Tablefor5 said:
    @buggirl72‌ thank you for the check in :) It's been pretty busy on here this weekend. I've been in and out reading when I can between cooking out and cleaning up :) I want to offer (((hugs))) to those that need them and high fives to those who are having a great week. AFM: My cycle is one giant question mark. I have no clue what it's doing. I had my progesterone blood draw on Thursday and will get a call back next week. For days I have felt like AF would be showing up at any time. Now I just wait. Blah My chart link for anyone wanting to peek https://fertilityfriend.com/home/4405a3
    Right now, your chart looks a/o to me. I'm curious to see what your progesterone test shows.

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  • buggirl72 said:


    Tablefor5 said:

    @buggirl72‌ thank you for the check in :)
    It's been pretty busy on here this weekend. I've been in and out reading when I can between cooking out and cleaning up :)
    I want to offer (((hugs))) to those that need them and high fives to those who are having a great week.

    AFM: My cycle is one giant question mark. I have no clue what it's doing. I had my progesterone blood draw on Thursday and will get a call back next week. For days I have felt like AF would be showing up at any time. Now I just wait. Blah

    My chart link for anyone wanting to peek
    https://fertilityfriend.com/home/4405a3

    Right now, your chart looks a/o to me. I'm curious to see what your progesterone test shows.


    I agree Bug. The last few months looked pretty good chart wise. I'm wondering if it's been a progesterone issue the whole time. I am interested to see the results also.
    I'm just glad I have a plan for next cycle, it's keeping me from melting into a puddle of tears.

  • Tablefor5 said:
    Tablefor5 said:
    @buggirl72‌ thank you for the check in :) It's been pretty busy on here this weekend. I've been in and out reading when I can between cooking out and cleaning up :) I want to offer (((hugs))) to those that need them and high fives to those who are having a great week. AFM: My cycle is one giant question mark. I have no clue what it's doing. I had my progesterone blood draw on Thursday and will get a call back next week. For days I have felt like AF would be showing up at any time. Now I just wait. Blah My chart link for anyone wanting to peek https://fertilityfriend.com/home/4405a3
    Right now, your chart looks a/o to me. I'm curious to see what your progesterone test shows.
    I agree Bug. The last few months looked pretty good chart wise. I'm wondering if it's been a progesterone issue the whole time. I am interested to see the results also. I'm just glad I have a plan for next cycle, it's keeping me from melting into a puddle of tears.
    Big ((((hugs)))).  Plans are good. Remember that you are doing everything you can do.

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  • rubysirubysi member
    Well hello everyone,

    I have been having difficulties returning to the grid since my vacation with nature.

    @buggirl72 thank you for the check in. I am sorry about the TTC funk, sometimes our bodies just suck. Do you love your new home now you have hot water?

    @mlal78 other than reading the lines the wondfo worked fine for me. They seem to work better in the evenings. I usually test after work.

    @katib77 good job keeping your chin up after that question. ((HUGS))

    meredithcarole I have had those jealous feelings over the years as I watched my friends and family have child after child. It is just an honest feeling I think we all have.

    Lesliem0901 I am glad you have a plan and a RE you have confidence in.

    yellowcat10 I love distractions. FX this cycle.

    O2girl Yay for AF!

    tlc35 I have been sad for the returning friends too.

    HoldingOutHope Take the time you need to grieve and heal. I hope that there will be some answers for you, in the near future. So many hugs...>:D<

    VesperLynch FX this cycle and that no one loses their sh*t installing your beautiful flooring.

    sunflwra I hope the testing will get you some answers.

    Tablefor5 :-? I am scratching my head at your chart too. It could be extra long or anovulatory.

    AFM: My week has seemed to be nonstop. Work was busy because of the holiday and refrigeration going down in the store. House guests/holiday/fireworks fun. We went to the you pick yesterday and got 15lbs of raspberries and marionberries, I am about to get my jam on. 

    TTC: I was a little disappointed to get my last AF but what is new. I think I am dpo 1 today. I could never get my act together to temp this month (sometimes I just need a break), but I got a positive opk yesterday. I have very few symptoms with Femara so this cycle is going fine, just increased O pains. 

    Hugs for everyone!



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