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LittlePeanut180

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I'm still a newbie here, but I can tell you this post is going to cause conflict. There are 2 posts at the top of this board that you should read, one of them has a link to a blog with a lot of information on how to post here.

We have no way of telling if you're getting AF or if you're KU. If you do get AF, post an intro that tells us a little about yourself and you will be welcomed. But, this board is a community, not your personal Google. If you get a positive PG test move over to PGAL, they will be glad to have you.

ETA: I'm sorry for your loss and if you sick around, I hope you find comfort and support on this board.

MrsKush1014

I'm sorry for your loss, but we have no way of knowing the answers to your questions.  Please take the time to read the TTCAL blog.  

BethKate2

LittlePeanut180 said:

Hmm... I have been temping, but didn't really "start correctly doing it" until June 30th. I was using the thermometer incorrectly and wasn't waiting to hear the 3 long beeps. Anyways, my temp has been the following

Monday - June 30th - 98.6

Tuesday - July 1st - 98.1

Wednesday - July 2nd -98.4

Thursday - July 3rd - 98.8

Im sorry about the negative connotation. Im new at this whole terminology and such. Just trying to figure things out.  

What is LP - Luteal Phase? Im not sure I know what Luteal Phase even means.

Your luteal phase is the time between ovulation and the start of your next cycle.

I'm going to echo what @mlal78 and @Yorkielove83 have said. Read the blog that's linked at the top of the page. It'll give you a lot of info. None of us can tell you when (or if) you ovulated, when to expect your period, or if you're KU.

rslh10

wait...wait...is TTCAL being punked right now? Where's Ashton Kutcher?!

blackbird818

LittlePeanut180 said:

The first day of my last period was June 7th. I have been taking ovulation tests and got 3 positives on June 23rd, 24th and 25th (I believe that means I ovulated on Cycle Day 17-19). Please confirm is this is correct. Anyways, if I count 28 days from the start of my period, I should be getting my period on Friday, July 4th (tomorrow). My husband and I had plenty of sex before, during and after ovulation. I have had cramps, bloating, feeling of full, heartburn (on a few days), and lower back pain every day since June 23rd (my ovulation start date). I took a pregnancy test this morning, and got a BFN. I am stressing about getting a BFN but am wondering why I have had all of these symptoms during the past 2 weeks. Anytime I eat, my belly fills up like a balloon. It has since then subsided, but now I still have back pain and some twitches in my lower abdomen. It sort of feels like Aunt Flow is coming . I need some major advice. Am I supposed to get my period tomorrow? Is getting a BFN today mean I am not pregnant? Im nervous as I had a miscarriage in April of this year. Why am I having all of these symptoms (I have never had these that far in advance of my period nor did I ever have ovulation pain) if I got a BFP? What do the twitches and pulling feel like? I have little sharp needlelike pinches, but nothing to cry about. Anybody with any advice is super helpful! Pray for me please!

QFP...just in case

Lalalady54

LittlePeanut180 said:

Hmm... I have been temping, but didn't really "start correctly doing it" until June 30th. I was using the thermometer incorrectly and wasn't waiting to hear the 3 long beeps. Anyways, my temp has been the following

Monday - June 30th - 98.6

Tuesday - July 1st - 98.1

Wednesday - July 2nd -98.4

Thursday - July 3rd - 98.8

Im sorry about the negative connotation. Im new at this whole terminology and such. Just trying to figure things out.  

What is LP - Luteal Phase? Im not sure I know what Luteal Phase even means.

You might also want to get a basal body temperature thermometer, it tells your temp in hundredths not just tenths, so you will have more accurate temps. Mine tend to be somewhere between 97.33-97.40 until I ovulate at which point it goes up to 97.8-98.22, it will just help you be more accurate in temping. I also agree with all PP about using FF to track your temps and make sure you are taking them at the same time everyday. 

LittlePeanut180

OK. I edited my original post. Gosh, I didn't even know I could do that. This website is sometimes confusing, so I am learning as I go. Honestly,I had no intentions to step on anyone's toes and no I am not using this as my own personal "google". My mother and sister aren't close with me and I have no girlfriends to chat with about this. Just looking for some advice from non critical people. I read other posts and people were so nice and positive and supportive. I didn't know that my post was going to "cause conflict". Almost makes me not want to use this website to share my experiences or ask for advice. It's tough enough as it is. Im sorry to offend anyone.

I agree with you mlal78 as my temps cannot be used for this cycle. I will keep recording and hope I get things together for my next cycle. Thanks for being so understanding.

LittlePeanut180

Thanks so much for the advice. I will continue to temp. I have a very old thermometer that my mom gave me years ago and I just started using it. It looks like a regular thermometer. It says its an ovulation thermometer on the box. I hope its still good. So, if I follow my temps, that is my best indicator of ovulation? It doesn't matter if I take ovulation kit tests?

MrsKush1014

Not critical, just protective of ourselves and others.  It takes time to understand the board and we have had a lot of people come in here and trample on us - I don't think you're going to do that, but your initial post raised some eyebrows I'm sure.  

Again, I'm sorry for your loss and welcome to the board.

BethKate2

LittlePeanut180 said:

Thanks so much for the advice. I will continue to temp. I have a very old thermometer that my mom gave me years ago and I just started using it. It looks like a regular thermometer. It says its an ovulation thermometer on the box. I hope its still good. So, if I follow my temps, that is my best indicator of ovulation? It doesn't matter if I take ovulation kit tests?

OPKs tell you when your body is gearing up to O.

Your temp will confirm that you have ovulated by a sustained temp rise after you ovulate. You can click on the ticker in my siggy to see my charts. It might give you more of an idea of what we're talking about.

LittlePeanut180

Well, I read the first post on this board (thanks to the recommendation earlier) and I am now on the same page. If I was going through a loss also, do you think that I would intentionally post something to hurt someone else? Actually, nevermind. I guess there might be some people out there who would. Anyways, the first post on this board talks about PGAL? Do you think this is somewhere that I should post instead? What the heck is PGAL? I feel so computer illiterate

BethKate2

LittlePeanut180 said:

Well, I read the first post on this board (thanks to the recommendation earlier) and I am now on the same page. If I was going through a loss also, do you think that I would intentionally post something to hurt someone else? Actually, nevermind. I guess there might be some people out there who would. Anyways, the first post on this board talks about PGAL? Do you think this is somewhere that I should post instead? What the heck is PGAL? I feel so computer illiterate

PgAL is the Pregnant after a Loss board. No need for you to post there unless you get a BFP.

MrsKush1014

LittlePeanut180 said:

Well, I read the first post on this board (thanks to the recommendation earlier) and I am now on the same page. If I was going through a loss also, do you think that I would intentionally post something to hurt someone else? Actually, nevermind. I guess there might be some people out there who would. Anyways, the first post on this board talks about PGAL? Do you think this is somewhere that I should post instead? What the heck is PGAL? I feel so computer illiterate

PGAL is Pregnant After a Loss.  Temping and ovulation questions are perfectly ok here. 

LittlePeanut180

OK. Thanks everyone. I'm in tears now. I was in such shock that people were thinking that I was saying something to hurt others, but now that we have that cleared up, Im so thankful that you all are being so nice and are explaining things to me. Looks like I have a lot of work to do and temping is a really great way to track cycles and such. I will work on getting Fertility Friend also.

Thank you thank you thank you

MrsKush1014

I find this to be extremely helpful.

https://ttcalblog.wordpress.com/about/ttcal-acronyms/

LittlePeanut180

Thanks MrsKush1014. I printed that list and will refer to it!

meredithcarole

Don't cry about the post, this is not the end of the world.  I am very sorry for your loss.  There is a lot of knowledge on this board.  We don't speculate on BFP because we don't know.  Everyone's bodies are totally different post-miscarriage.  It takes some time to "normalize."  Try not to stress over it.  Why don't you tell us a little about your loss and who your are so we can get to know you.  You are more than welcome to join us, but if you do get a BFP tomorrow go and intro on the PGAL board as that will be where you belong at that point.  If you are not KU, you belong here.  

LittlePeanut180

Do any of you recommend that I "pay" for the Fertility Friend? Or will the free version suffice?

BethKate2

LittlePeanut180 said:

Do any of you recommend that I "pay" for the Fertility Friend? Or will the free version suffice?

You'll get 30 days of the VIP free when you sign up. At the end of that time, you can decide if you want to pay to keep VIP. The free version is fine, though.

[Deleted User]

There's no need to cry. No one is accusing you of intentionally trying to hurt others on the board. Just telling you how things work here and where you can find helpful tools and information.

Like others have already said FF is a great charting website and app. You're already taking the steps (temping and using opks) so you'll probably pick up on FF pretty easily. The tutorials are great for learning about the different phases of your cycle and how to use the site.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

Edit: spelling, mobile is hard.

Poppy715

rslh10 said:

wait...wait...is TTCAL being punked right now? Where's Ashton Kutcher?!

This is small beans. You haven't seen anything yet!

LittlePeanut180

BethKate2

LittlePeanut180 said:

Wrong time to be posting a question??

Wrong picture to use???

Sersiously??? There are way too many rules and regulations for me in this community that it is making my head spin. Thanks to everyone for their advice and support, however I will no longer be using this website. Maybe this website just isn't for me, but it made me feel worse by asking a simple question.

Please note that I also endured a very physically painful and emotional miscarriage but not once did I comment on pictures that are part of anyone's replies or wording that was used.

Good luck to everyone trying to conceive and I am sorry for your losses.

Ok, well, clearly this isn't the board for you.

Poppy715

LittlePeanut180 said:

Please note that I also endured a very physically painful and emotional miscarriage but not once did I comment on pictures that are part of anyone's replies or wording that was used.

You don't think all of us endured a painful loss? This isn't the way the board works. If yo uwould calm down and read the thread you can see ladies here are trying to help you. No need to overreact or Dirty Delete. You've already been quoted. The damage is done. Just take a deep breath and read the responses, they are helpful and you will learn a lot lurking.

blackbird818

I do appreciate OP changing the title to more than a period.
=D>

Poppy715

blackbird818 said:

I do appreciate OP changing the title to more than a period.
=D>

Isn't that weird how that's always the go-to? DDing? Better put just a . since I can't totally delete. Dumb!
:-q

blackbird818

Poppy715 said:

blackbird818 said:

I do appreciate OP changing the title to more than a period.
=D>

Isn't that weird how that's always the go-to? DDing? Better put just a . since I can't totally delete. Dumb!
:-q

I agree. Very odd that that's the default.

LittlePeanut180

Wow. Practice what you preach ladies. Attack the people that had no clue about acronyms, or certain pictures, or certain wording. Feel free to continue to mock and ridicule if it helps you sleep at night to pick on someone who was just looking for advice, Remember, not once did I pick any of you out and make fun of you. Nor do I choose to even make bad comments AFTER the fact that you chose to throw the first stone. And if I knew how to delete a post, I would. But I don't own a computer at home and I am borrowing someone's to help me out through this trying time.  Its called Karma. What goes around comes around. I hope you are all happy.

MrsKush1014

LittlePeanut180 said:

Wow. Practice what you preach ladies. Attack the people that had no clue about acronyms, or certain pictures, or certain wording. Feel free to continue to mock and ridicule if it helps you sleep at night to pick on someone who was just looking for advice, Remember, not once did I pick any of you out and make fun of you. Nor do I choose to even make bad comments AFTER the fact that you chose to throw the first stone. And if I knew how to delete a post, I would. But I don't own a computer at home and I am borrowing someone's to help me out through this trying time.  Its called Karma. What goes around comes around. I hope you are all happy.

One of the first things you see when you come on this board is **READ THIS BEFORE POSTING HERE**, which if you read it you would have a clue about wording.  No one here attacked you, we were trying to guide you.  We can't tell you if you are pregnant, which was one of of your "simple" questions.  And no, we're NOT happy.  We're all in the same boat you are, hurting after a loss and hoping for a rainbow.  Which is exactly why we protect ourselves from getting hurt further. 

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Poppy715

I don't know what we're yelling about.

Poppy715

snegde said:

LittlePeanut180 said:

Wow. Practice what you preach ladies. Attack the people that had no clue about acronyms, or certain pictures, or certain wording. Feel free to continue to mock and ridicule if it helps you sleep at night to pick on someone who was just looking for advice, Remember, not once did I pick any of you out and make fun of you. Nor do I choose to even make bad comments AFTER the fact that you chose to throw the first stone. And if I knew how to delete a post, I would. But I don't own a computer at home and I am borrowing someone's to help me out through this trying time.  Its called Karma. What goes around comes around. I hope you are all happy.

People were helpful. Do you not see that? I'm not mocking you at all. I get irrational when I have PMS too.

The craziest I've ever felt in life was post loss. That 3-5 week period after I was coming off the drugs, dealing with my emotions and had boobs hard as granite. I feel like a complete monster lunatic. Seriously. I was like a crazy person. It was awful and is lash out at DH, cry uncontrollably and eat. Things are difficult when your body is adjusting give yourself some time.

blackbird818

LittlePeanut180 said:

Wow. Practice what you preach ladies. Attack the people that had no clue about acronyms, or certain pictures, or certain wording. Feel free to continue to mock and ridicule if it helps you sleep at night to pick on someone who was just looking for advice, Remember, not once did I pick any of you out and make fun of you. Nor do I choose to even make bad comments AFTER the fact that you chose to throw the first stone. And if I knew how to delete a post, I would. But I don't own a computer at home and I am borrowing someone's to help me out through this trying time.  Its called Karma. What goes around comes around. I hope you are all happy.

QFP bc OP loves to DD


\m/


BTW

BethKate2

LittlePeanut180 said:

Wow. Practice what you preach ladies. Attack the people that had no clue about acronyms, or certain pictures, or certain wording. Feel free to continue to mock and ridicule if it helps you sleep at night to pick on someone who was just looking for advice, Remember, not once did I pick any of you out and make fun of you. Nor do I choose to even make bad comments AFTER the fact that you chose to throw the first stone. And if I knew how to delete a post, I would. But I don't own a computer at home and I am borrowing someone's to help me out through this trying time.  Its called Karma. What goes around comes around. I hope you are all happy.

No one threw the first stone. You were given great advice, and people were helpful. You were told that it is frowned upon to intro here during your LP because you could be pregnant (you seemed to think you might be in your OP), and obviously aren't planning on becoming part of our community if that's the case. No one insulted you or mocked you at that point. You chose to lash out for no reason.

rslh10

snegde said:

I think it was all good stuff and I completely agree but some of it had already been covered and she had already expressed how confused she was since it was her first time using the Internet and that she was trying and she apologized and she was clearly overwhelmed. So I guess I'm not sure it was necessary to go there just yet especially since she is in no way shape or form PMSing but is clearly knocked up but that's just my opinion. I completely agree with what you said and OP totally went a little crazy on us but sometimes I think newbies try and then we don't really give them time to figure things out.

) ) i just LOL'ed so hard.