Struggling to find positivity in the statistics

lazfam1120

I everyone, I just got off the phone with my RE office. I'm currently CD29 and about 13DPO. This cycle I was on 50mg Clomid (for 3rd time) and also did Ovidrel trigger on CD14. They told me I could check for BFP on 7/2 (today). I did take a test today, and it's negative. I called the office to find out what my options are this weekend if I get my period, since I'll be away for the 4th and won't be around for ultrasound monitoring. The convo with the nurse turned into a discussion about my options from here, if I want to continue with Clomid or try something else, etc., and she had to throw in there that 10% of women with secondary infertility will get pregnant again. She said it in a positive way, but I am struggling to see the light at the end of a 10% tunnel! Anyone else feeling like that?

ScarletBegonia79

i don't think that is accurate. statistics are so hard to nail down, they are usually pretty off. there are so many variables. my doctor said that doing IUI and clomid takes our chances of conceiving again from 5% per month back up to the normal 25%, so things like that can skew the numbers. just from the time that i have been visiting this board more i think way more than 10% of the contributors have gotten pregnant again.

i don't know anyone else IRL struggling with secondary IF though. i don't know how common it is. most of my friends and family don't believe that it is a real thing; they figure if you had one, you can have another, no problem.  

Frenchteachermama

I'm struggling too. My RE told me the 10% number and until my BFN today I thought I would defy the odds. I'm responding well to the meds and DH's samples have been off the charts. I'm starting to wonder if I'll ever be in the 10%

lazfam1120

ScarletBegonia79 said:

i don't think that is accurate. statistics are so hard to nail down, they are usually pretty off. there are so many variables. my doctor said that doing IUI and clomid takes our chances of conceiving again from 5% per month back up to the normal 25%, so things like that can skew the numbers. just from the time that i have been visiting this board more i think way more than 10% of the contributors have gotten pregnant again.

i don't know anyone else IRL struggling with secondary IF though. i don't know how common it is. most of my friends and family don't believe that it is a real thing; they figure if you had one, you can have another, no problem.  

That's the worst! I get the "but you've done it once, so you'll be fine" comments a lot. I don't know anyone else personally who has been diagnosed, so I don't have much to go by. I just know that all you ladies understand how frustrated and physically/emotionally draining it can be. Especially since I had hoped to have 3 children, and seem to be having so much trouble with # 2.

lazfam1120

Frenchteachermama said:

I'm struggling too. My RE told me the 10% number and until my BFN today I thought I would defy the odds. I'm responding well to the meds and DH's samples have been off the charts. I'm starting to wonder if I'll ever be in the 10%

I tested and got BFN today too, but haven't gotten AF yet. Based on cycle length, right now is too early anyway. The nurse also told me that people in similar situations have the best results from IVF. I think I got a botched nurse. She may be correct, but some of the things she was saying are sticking in my head uncomfortably. The RE office that I go to was great about laying out all the options, but then basically left it up to DH by saying we are in the drivers seat and can do anything we want, or whatever combination. That's great and all, but I feel like at this stage, they are the professionals that see this all the time, and I want someone to tell me what to do next! Just make it work damnit!