For those that are team green

SummerB0607

How do you do it??!! I have no idea how you manage to wait so long but I admire you ladies for it. I find out in a week and the wait is killing me. Also has anyone set out to be team green and then caved and found out earlier?

wildflower75

I LOVE being Team Green!
The anticipation of hearing the doctor say "it's a_____" in the moment of giving birth is awesome!
Also I'm so happy I was team green for my first because now I don't have to worry about getting things for this baby, everything we had for DD's first few months was neutral.
I have 3 friends that were told the wrong sex and they had all blue or pink everything and had to return a bunch of stuff and repaint etc... I like that all of our things (nursery decor etc) are bright primary colors that can be used for boy and girl.
I also feel that this takes the burden off of talking about names (with other people) and it also takes the burden off of what others "wish" we were having... once the baby is here everyone is soo exited no matter what the sex is but otherwise we would probably hear some opinions I'd rather not deal with!
I also love having this surprise.. not many true surprises in life!
In this day and age of technology etc... it's nice to be able to choose to do something like they used to do back in the day... My co-worker tells the story of her mother giving birth and not knowing she was carrying twins!! That's awesome! Life happens!
I'll know soon enough...pregnancy won't last always...

JamieK1882

I'm Team Green and staying strong.

I totally understand wanting to find out and yes it's hard not knowing, but for me it's kinda fun too. I like hearing everyone guessing about what I'm going to have using the old wive's tales.

It will also be motivation during labor and I can't wait to find out during that moment when the doctor says "It's a  ______!"

I also feel like this is one of the big surprises you can have in life and I'm just excited to be surprised.

Also, and though this is just a bonus and NOT the main reason I'm remaining Team Green, I don't want a lot of gender-specific things at my shower. Hopefully I'll have another LO someday, and I want most things neutral colors and I don't want a lot of clothes.

tugglek23

wildflower75 said:

I LOVE being Team Green!
The anticipation of hearing the doctor say "it's a_____" in the moment of giving birth is awesome!
Also I'm so happy I was team green for my first because now I don't have to worry about getting things for this baby, everything we had for DD's first few months was neutral.
I have 3 friends that were told the wrong sex and they had all blue or pink everything and had to return a bunch of stuff and repaint etc... I like that all of our things (nursery decor etc) are bright primary colors that can be used for boy and girl.
I also feel that this takes the burden off of talking about names (with other people) and it also takes the burden off of what others "wish" we were having... once the baby is here everyone is soo exited no matter what the sex is but otherwise we would probably hear some opinions I'd rather not deal with!
I also love having this surprise.. not many true surprises in life!
In this day and age of technology etc... it's nice to be able to choose to do something like they used to do back in the day... My co-worker tells the story of her mother giving birth and not knowing she was carrying twins!! That's awesome! Life happens!
I'll know soon enough...pregnancy won't last always...

Everything in this. I am so excited for DH to tell me what our baby is and to go to the lobby to tell our family. My heart melts just thinking about it. Such a special moment for him.

rox825

My reasoning is maybe a little different, but it took us 2.5 years to become pregnant with our (hopefully) take home baby, so we figured waiting another 4 months to find out the sex is like a drop in the bucket, no big deal    I just don't feel pressed to know, IF is such a waiting game so I've definitely learned to be patient.  Also the other things PP's mentioned, like the surprise factor, motivation during labor, getting gender neutral stuff just in case we end up lucky enough to have another child, etc.  It's turning out to be pretty fun!  

I used to feel totally differently about it though, pre-IF I always thought I would *have* to know, so I understand that too!  My perspective has just changed over the years.

Autumnsnow

wildflower75 said:

I LOVE being Team Green!
The anticipation of hearing the doctor say "it's a_____" in the moment of giving birth is awesome!
Also I'm so happy I was team green for my first because now I don't have to worry about getting things for this baby, everything we had for DD's first few months was neutral.
I have 3 friends that were told the wrong sex and they had all blue or pink everything and had to return a bunch of stuff and repaint etc... I like that all of our things (nursery decor etc) are bright primary colors that can be used for boy and girl.
I also feel that this takes the burden off of talking about names (with other people) and it also takes the burden off of what others "wish" we were having... once the baby is here everyone is soo exited no matter what the sex is but otherwise we would probably hear some opinions I'd rather not deal with!
I also love having this surprise.. not many true surprises in life!
In this day and age of technology etc... it's nice to be able to choose to do something like they used to do back in the day... My co-worker tells the story of her mother giving birth and not knowing she was carrying twins!! That's awesome! Life happens!
I'll know soon enough...pregnancy won't last always...

This part exactly and I totally agree with the PP's about not being able to wait until the doctor says "It's a ______.  I love the fact that DH gets to be the one to tell everyone what our little munchkin will be.

Trust me it was kinda hard not to try and take a peak when getting the A/S but to me in the end it's all worth it.  I also love seeing the shocked expressions when we tell people that we aren't finding out.  Some are even baffled lol.

JamieK1882, at my friend's baby shower she knew she was having a girl and I think I can't count on one hand the # of items that weren't pink or purple.  That's just too much.

rox825

Autumnsnow said:

 I also love seeing the shocked expressions when we tell people that we aren't finding out.  Some are even baffled lol.

This has been fun too, people are so surprised that we don't want to know!

HappyToBeHere

We were firm on not finding out, but YES, while sitting in the waiting room waiting for the a/s, DH and I were both like "do we just find out?!".  But we stayed strong, and I'm so so so so so glad!  I just went through and "wish listed" a bunch of stuff and it is WAY MORE FUN when it's not all pink vs. blue (I hate pink ).  I stuck with greys/whites/cool neutrals for the basics that we absolutely need for when baby is born, and plan on doing more "gender specific" clothes shopping after LO's arrival . 

I'm excited for the surprise on delivery day, and genuinely don't have a preference; I will just be so thrilled to hold whatever little bundle of joy comes out on that day .

Autumnsnow

rox825 acutally that is another reason why we wanted to be team green...after TTC for almost 2.5 yrs we went through another almost 2 yrs of fertility (iui's & ivf's)..we figured since the actually "fun and surprise" of finding out your pregnant was kinda was taken away we wanted at least part of it be a surprise for us

sweetbabyrahe

I agree with all pp said. The moment in the delivery room when we found out with DS and hearing my husband get to share the news with everyone made the waiting all worth it. That is why we want to be team green again. Also, it gave me a lot of motivation during labor and I think when you find out when the baby arrives there is little chance for disappointment because the baby is here and I fell instantly in love.

HappyToBeHere

sweetbabyrahe said:

I agree with all pp said. The moment in the delivery room when we found out with DS and hearing my husband get to share the news with everyone made the waiting all worth it. That is why we want to be team green again. Also, it gave me a lot of motivation during labor and I think when you find out when the baby arrives there is little chance for disappointment because the baby is here and I fell instantly in love.

This.

terberell

rox825 said:

My reasoning is maybe a little different, but it took us 2.5 years to become pregnant with our (hopefully) take home baby, so we figured waiting another 4 months to find out the sex is like a drop in the bucket, no big deal    I just don't feel pressed to know, IF is such a waiting game so I've definitely learned to be patient.  Also the other things PP's mentioned, like the surprise factor, motivation during labor, getting gender neutral stuff just in case we end up lucky enough to have another child, etc.  It's turning out to be pretty fun!  

I used to feel totally differently about it though, pre-IF I always thought I would *have* to know, so I understand that too!  My perspective has just changed over the years.

THIS for me! 

After 6 years and multiple losses, DH and I are old pros at the waiting game. I definitely thought that I would want to find out the sex but he was set in waiting from the very beginning and I am completely on board with that now too. Our anatomy scan is next week but we are both holding strong for that big surprise on delivery day. 

Autumnsnow

HisGirlFriday929 one of my friends actually said "have fun with all the yellow and green clothes you're gonna get"... I went right back with "oh cuz a ton of blue or pink will be better"???  

brooklyngirl18

i was team green. my doctor/hospital has an online system where they post all the test results and while i knew the sex would be in the report, once it was sent to me i couldn't stop myself from looking. once i knew the information was just a click away it made waiting unbearable.

freetobekristin

You all have such noble & sweet reasons!  We also tried to conceive for over two years & were shocked/overjoyed to find out I'm pregnant so we decided to "keep waiting" to find out the sex.  We both agreed & I enjoy the daydreams about having a son or a daughter, but I've since changed my mind.  I've been trying to talk Andy into finding out & just not telling anyone else, but no go.  We had the A/S two weeks ago & the babe's legs were crossed the entire time (even while jumping - so cute!) so they couldn't have told us anyway.  My dr told me to come in if I change my mind & they'll do a quick peek.  I wish he wouldn't have told me that!

CPM13

I agree with everything everyone else said! I LOVE being team green. It's great motivation. I will be happy regardless of sex but would LOVE a boy. I know if I found out it is two more girls now I would be sad for a second but if I found out when they are born I would never have that sadness. Just happiness that they are here! Plus some days finding out is the only reason I look forward to giving birth! Twins. Egads. I get overwhelmed of three kids under two every time I think about it. 

I also agree with wanting gender neutral colors. I have friends with a ton of pink or blue who then find out their next baby is the other sex. Then they need to buy all new stuff! No thank you!

MmmPopcorn

We're happily team green. Both H and the ILs are also very excited about not finding out the sex of the baby before the birth. My parents pretend they don't care, but when they're talking to my brothers when I'm not there, they're very vocal about wanting me to find out. I appreciate that they're diplomatic when I'm around.

I really want to meet my baby before making a bunch of decisions about how s/he will be. Names? Yeah, right. We'll come to the hospital with a list of names and then probably pick something off the list. Gender? We can't possibly know that yet, so I'm unsure about only having "gender-specific" clothing. I don't even want to commit to a nursery theme because I'm irrationally afraid that my kid in his/her magical baby mind will hate it. For as much as an obsessive planner as I am, I'm trying to take it easy and accept what comes since parenthood is only going to be a long series of plans gone awry.

pennyandandy

What everyone else said. We were team green with DS, and I am so much less stressed this time because everything is neutral, and I don't have to worry about getting much of anything. I have two nieces, and my sister found out the sex and registered for girl stuff. At her showers she got all pink frilly crap and very little actually useful stuff. That pretty much sold me, on top of everything else. DH loved telling everyone the sex and name last time, he can't wait to do it again!

AliDagg

Team green here too!  We still haven't had our a/s so it is hard seeing all the posts of people finding out and not having part of me want to know too but like many PP's said that suprise at the moment of birth is awesome (we were team green with DD too)!

lil_shocker

We are both firmly team green and that helps a ton. I am sure that if both aren't excited about waiting that it is harder. When we had my son, my husband was so excited to tell me to "meet ____" and seeing that excitement on his face makes it all worth it. Plus in labor you are dying to find out so it helped motivate me to push when I really didn't want to. Because pushing stinks and it's hard.

I like speculating what it is. It gives us plenty to talk about and it has helped to reduce the fighting about names. We narrow it down to a couple mutual choices for each and then we decide who will choose the boy name and the girl name.

carmelissa

Love this thread. We are team green for many of the reasons PPs have stated, our biggest being the delivery room surprise. However, my a/s is next week and I've been wavering really hard - especially when we had to pick out nursery paint colors (everything screamed boy).

This thread has renewed my strength in waiting...it will be hard, but totally worth it.

HappyToBeHere

I'm also irrationally excited to write down all the results of OWTs and then go over them after LO is born.

My parents don't want to know either (which has made it easier).  FIL doesn't mind not knowing, and I didn't think MIL minded until I randomly ran into her co-worker who said "you're driving *insertMILname* CRAZY with not finding out!  Why don't you just bring her into the ultrasound and let her find out?!"

Um...................................nope. 

Lesliea79

I am all for the suprise! It's def hard, but I refuse to cave! I even make sure everyone at my drs office is aware that we don't want to know. I had to convince DH that we will not find out for first one. I told him to imagine walking into the waiting room to tell our families what we have had, that was it, he was sold.

runningmama14

It hasn't been a hard thing for me.  DH is so firmly Team Green, I would have a fight on my hands if I wanted to know.  If he wanted to know, I would be okay with finding out.  I guess I'm just going along on this, which is fine.  There are very few things in life I don't have a strong opinion on, might as well be on something that really matters to DH!

I had read a few blogs where they talked about letting the parents discover the sex after birth instead of the doctor announcing it to them.  After seeing it mentioned here too, it sounds like a neat idea.  I'll ask DH what he wants on that though.  Like I said, his deal

SummerB0607

I love all the reasons you ladies are giving. I am just SO impatient...and so is my boyfriend. On another note...Walmarts choices for gender neutral clothing leaves a lot to be desired. I was going to go ahead and pick up a few gender neutral outfits even though we will be finding out. I guess I will go somewhere else or just wait

Carebella

@summerb0607  I've found the best bet for neutral clothes is searching the boys side.  I haven't looked at Walmart so I'm not sure how much cheaper their clothes are than Carters, but I feel like I've scored some really good deals at the outlet and online.  Also, used clothing stores can be a great way to go!

lil_shocker

Stores generally don't stock much for neutral clothing because you generally purchase more if you know, so they tend to encourage finding out.

I did buy one girl outfit and one boy outfit that I really liked and that helped to curb se of the shopping woes.

GHMomRN

I'm team green. I loved having my husband tell me we just had another boy! Was such a surprise. I do love all girl colors & headbands but I do have this feeling it's another boy which I'm okay with. I would LOVE to know but we are only pregnant for such a short time I think it's worth the wait. Now since my boys are older & understand, we talk about names together & what they gender they want it's too fun. They don't even want to know

rox825

lil_shocker said:

Stores generally don't stock much for neutral clothing because you generally purchase more if you know, so they tend to encourage finding out.

I did buy one girl outfit and one boy outfit that I really liked and that helped to curb se of the shopping woes.

I've found a lot of cute gender neutral stuff on amazon! It's definitely easier to find online vs. in store.

lil_shocker

I didn't even think about ordering clothes on Amazon! Don't know why it never occurred to me...but I think I may check that out.

kikimeemee

Delayed gratification. Some of us are good at it. :-)

ElinJ

I'll pretty much second everything everyone else said, especially about there being so few surprises like this in life.

And, like others have said, it certainly was nice to get stuff, and not clothes as gifts. Everyone I know who found out got at least twice as much clothes as I did compared to useful things. And people who had girls got mostly clothes it seemed!

But, just as a warning to people who have it planned to have their husband announce to them what the baby is in the delivery room, births don't always go according to plan!! I had a wonderful birth, but as the situation would have it, after I finally pushed baby out, I had a DIRECT line of sight and saw the business hanging as they lifted my son up. My husband was back at my shoulder, and up slightly, so he didn't see what I saw. I looked up at him and said "It's a boy!?" Not really TELLING him, but more so confirming "Did you see what I saw!?" Turns out he didn't see what I saw… So I ruined the plan! haha!!  But it's such a fun story to tell! Much funner than "And then mommy cut the cake/opened the box/popped the balloon" etc.

And I love having people back off from the "Do you have a name picked out?" conversation. This way I can keep our choices private! As well, as we can be sure the name fits kiddo when we meet him/her before announcing it to everyone. (People who find out the sex but don't reveal the name can too. I just think it's easier to tell people you're keeping the name a secret because you don't know the sex.)

Richardsmom_817

I think the only thing keeping me sane are two things...a)  I found out w/ my other 3 children, so this is totally out of my character..this is our last baby & b)  I know it will be well worth the wait!!!  I plan on getting a few neutral things for maybe the first week & then as soon as we find out if it's pink or blue, let the shopping begin!!!!  I love gender specific clothing so I'm not buying much that is gender neutral.

fykslk13

From the moment I got that BFP I was strong team green. I needed to convince my DH that team green was the way to go. Now that my A/S is a week away we both decides that we NEED to know. Were still sticking with our original neural nursery idea and registering for gender neutral things, but if I get one more duck or yellow onesie I might scream. I hope you stay strong but if you don't you won't be the only one here who had a change of heart. :-)

carafern

We are not really team green. We found out but are keeping it secret. I feel like our reasons are pretty selfish -- not wanting all the gendered stuff, or opinions -- in comparison to all of yours. Now I kind of wish we'd been fully team green so I don't have to feel mean telling people that we know and aren't telling.