Sexual desire embarrassing question,

JulesET

Since having dd I have ZERO sex drive. I have absolutely no desire to have sex and have no feelings whatsoever of desire. I don't know what to do. We have done it maybe 5-7 times since DD was born and I did not enjoy it at all. I'm so embarrassed to ask anyone and DH has absolutely no understanding. I don't feel like I can open up to him about it. He gets upset and feels rejected and then I get upset and it is just a nasty cycle. Since dd was born I just feel constantly stressed and overwhelmed and feel lik I am drowning and know this is a factor. I just don't know what to do. We don't have family to watch the kids for a weekend gateway or even overnight and honestly we can't afford to go away and by the time the kids go to bed I'm done for the way and just want to go to bed. I'm honestly worried that this is starting to affect or marriage.

grimesk12

I've had no sex drive since Mira was born. The OB told me that breastfeeding/hormones can cause it. Since I weaned Mira to nursing only 1x/day I find myself actually getting turned on. However I haven't had an orgasm and sex without pain which I feel may be related to the IUD. DH and I have talked about the issue bc he was feeling rejected and thought it had to do with him. I didn't want him to think I wasn't attracted to him anymore. I am still attracted to him and I find myself more in the mood when he does things for me like Bella mentioned. So now my plan is to get the IUD out and see how if anything changes. If not then I'm thinking of going to a sex therapist.

JulesET

Thanks everyone. I am really going to try to sit down and talk with DH again. I feel like if he could just understand that it is not him it would help a lot and be a big step in the right direction. Hopefully he will understand and we can decide what next steps will be.

ashleynaka

I have had no desire since having Chloe, but I also still nurse. It took me an embarrassing 6+ months to even attempt to try to DTD. I did however communicate with my H that it was not him, but it is still a touchy subject nonetheless. I hope that it's the bf that is keeping my libido away, but only time will tell. I too have my annual soon, so I will inquire about checking my hormone levels. I can cry at the most stupid things. Good luck to you and I just wanted to share that you are not alone! :-)