Speaking of pregnant... Updated at bottom

KentuckyKate

Just got a BFP and this is not exactly welcome news. I just quit my full time job with benefits and started back in school, and we signed up for an Obamacare plan with a $12,500 deductible because it was the least expensive and we never get sick. So now I will have to work nights, go to school, take care of Abigail and be pregnant. Not to mention DH travels for work and is only home 3 days a week. I can't even believe this happened. We seriously have only had sex like ten times tops since Abigail was born. Also, I'm still BF and haven't gotten regular periods back, so I have no idea when this happened or when I'm due. So I'm really scared about everything right now. Thanks for being my sounding board.

WasNotWas

You can do it Kate. You will be shocked at how this new LO fits into your life. The change isn't nearly as bad as #1. Vent away!!

Lizzybizzy80

Big hugs to you, this is a great sounding board. Have a good cry, that is a ton on your plate. Sending positive, non-scary thoughts your way.

weddinginthecove

We are here for you for sure. I think you should definitely take your time to feel all the emotions that you need to feel and do not feel one bit bad about feeling that way. Even when good things happen to us they can be completely devastating if they throw a wrench in our life plans. Hopefully once you see a doctor and figure out how far along you are you will be able to put together some plans on how everything else will look from here (health insurance, school, work, etc). 

musicalsilver

Sending lots of good thoughts your way - you can do it lady!  Congratulations for when you're ready for them :-)

Maelara

This baby wasnt planned either and came at a bad time medically for me. I get it. Congratulations are in order though! I'm here if you need to talk.

LaBellaVida

We are twinsies. I think I had sex once in April and that's when I got pregnant apparently. I felt the same as you, but slowly allowing myself to get excited. I still have days of being really upset and questioning if I can even do this right now. ((Hugs))
I know how you feel.

Cricket81

Hugs!! I know it all is totally overwhelming, but you can do it! What an awesome mom your LOs have!

dmlk413

Big hugs and congrats.  Sending good thoughts your way.

kh59

Thinking of you!  Congratulations, and I bet you'll rise to the occasion with all manner of grace and strength.

ColieAnn31

I was in this mind thought when I was pregnant with Grayson. Alex lost his job when I was about 4 months pregnant and I had a rough pregnancy and wasn't able to work from 5 months on. We ended up having to move in with my family. It's not ideal but we are slowly getting back on our feet. It'll all work out for you guys. Just take one day at a time. Hugs for now and congrats (!!!!) when you're ready for them. We are always here for you whenever you need to vent.

cynthia2007

Sending virtual hugs and positive thoughts your way. And congrats when you're ready

KentuckyKate

Thank you all for your kind words. I'm doing exactly what was suggested and am trying to get the logistics worked out piece by piece. My husband has been with his company 10 years but is technically an independent contractor. He explained our situation to his boss and asked about getting on their insurance plan. They were going to cover him next year anyway, so hopefully they will go ahead and pick him up now. If they say no, at least we will be covered by delivery time, even if we have to pay through the nose for prenatal care.

I know what I need to do to get my ducks in a row as far as school is concerned too, so overall I'm feeling much better about everything. I still would take it back if I could, but at the same time I'm a little bit excited for the future with 2U2. So thanks again for your support, J13.

Monkeybutt80

Fingers crossed that your husband's work will get your family on their plan.
Try not to stress, and we are here for you ! Congrats!!!

LunarMagick79

Have you tried to reevaluate your obamacare plan? I believe pregnancy would qualify as a life change situation and the baby would count as another person in your household to possibly get some different financial breaks.

Congrats - and remember that everything happens for a reason.

KentuckyKate

Thanks, @LunarMagick79‌, I looked into that and a pregnancy doesn't qualify me for a special enrollment period, it's just when the baby is born. So unfortunately I won't be able to change my plan until open enrollment, which is in November, and the changes wouldn't take place until 2015, which is when we'd be covered anyway. So I'm stuck with the cash price of the appointments until then, unless either I go back to work or Dh's company covers us.

LaBellaVida

Not sure about your finances, but would it be possible to get on state assistance for medical, temporarily?

Also, did you ever go to the Dr. And get a dating ultrasound yet?

KentuckyKate

It's not a pride thing but we don't qualify for any assistance here. DH has a nice income which is why I was able to quit my job on the first place, but it's also not like we have $12,000 freed up and laying around.

cafecreme

You might think it's a sucky situation- but in all honesty, theirs just never a good time to have a 1st or a 2nd. You will get through the rough part. I just recently found out I was pregnant, I'm a SAHM and we're in a 2 bedroom apartment. Less than ideal, but we can all find support in each other. I'm here if you need to talk!

Edited: forgot to mention I changed my sn- formerly Beary+Ghastly. I was fed up with people not being able to tag me.