How do you get past it?

CantoDeAmor259

I have two wonderful boys we had a miscarriage very soon after finding out in feb. It was a difficult pregnancy to actually diagnose, my levels were soo low so it took over a week to get it confirmed.

Well we found out we are pg again last month (about 3 weeks ago) and I'm closing in on week 7. I had an immediate confirmation of pg and my beta was at 58, pretty typical for having just found out.

I'm just freaking out that we will have another mc. I find it very difficult to find any joy/attachment right now to this lo. I've been having pretty hard core nausea and other pg symptoms. My soreness in my chest comes and goes in strength. Been having some cramping in my back the whole pg so far. I find if I'm drinking enough water that this gets better

Advice? Am I going to be able to enjoy this? It's so frustrating. We have the first ultrasound one the 18 of July.

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Congratulations and welcome! Be prepared for the first trimester being a difficult time for you worry-wise, but you'll find this board to be a really excellent source of advice and support in the upcoming weeks. It's hard, but so worth it to be here! Good luck at your first ultrasound

sgio7485

It's hard but I think it does get a tiny bit more manageable. For me, from the time I found out until my loss milestone (10w3d) were the hardest. Find a mantra that works for you and try to breathe. For me, it was that my previous pregnancy does not influence the outcome of this pregnancy. ((Hugs)) - it's hard!

megbmeg

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the fears you're feeling now. If you have to keep things at arm's length for a little while, that's okay, even though I know that that can be painful too. I do think that little by little you'll feel more ready to open your heart to this little life. As good news piles up, it has a way of quieting down the fears some. For me, it is still scary and still sad, but the numbness from early on has given way. Hang in there!! Hugs!!

SamanthaLaura16

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome and Congrats! PgAL brain sucks! I am still waiting for it to get easier. For me I just take it one day at a time and try to enjoy being pregnant (although I may feel miserable at times) everyday. As the ladies above said as more time passes and you start to have good appointments things get a little easier but I don't think the worry ever completely goes away. ((Hugs))

Eliz77

As PPs said, PgAL is very tough, and can be relentless. I've found taking each step/milestone as they come has helped me. People keep asking me about the down the road details, like when I would stop lovenox or what hospital or maternity leave, and I always respond that I am taking each week as we go and letting the Drs tell me what I should be thinking about next. 

I also have to say my biggest hurdle was making it to the NT scan/2nd tri. Now that I have passed all my loss milestones, I do feel a weight has been lifted. I still worry and find my mind going a million miles at times, but I am able to enjoy being pregnant today. 

Lots of luck and ((HUGS)) to you!!!