Ugh, vent

20thirteen

I have a friend who I've known since high school, we used to be really close but we're not so much anymore.  She has a hair-trigger temper and depression issues, has a trouble with that, so we've grown apart because I don't know how long I could walk on eggshells around her.  Well, that criminal who got a modeling contract because the internet went crazy of his mugshot, I posted how I was disgusted by that and she made her comment about it, whatever.  But then she made a comment about how the "irony here is killing me".  I have not confirmed with her, because of her temper and I just don't want to deal with that, but I assume that comment has to do with my BF.  Yes, he has a short checkered past. And yes, she does not like him for whatever reason (the reasons she gave me didn't make sense).  So we don't talk about my relationship.  But every time she gets the chance, she makes a comment about him being a shitty person but then goes on about whatever we were talking about.  It drives me nuts that she has such a bad opinion of him!  She doesn't believe anyone can change ever.  The "beautiful" criminal that I had posted about has a much longer rap sheet, and clearly has no interest in becoming a better person!  BF has changed and is a wonderful dad to DD and treats me unlike any BF I've ever had.  That just really got under my skin today.  I mean, she can be a good person, we do have a lot in common, and she has always been there for me (as I have been for her), but I just... I don't know if I can continue to be her friend if she can't accept that he has changed for the better. Everyone, but her, has seen that.  His family, his friends... My friends like him, my parents *love* him.  She is the only hold out. And it is starting to really bother me.

And I know that communication is key here, but if I ever bring him up, it would be like shoving a sharp stick in her eye.  Seriously. It's that bad.

MinnesotaMomma91

I understand. Someone ive been friends with since high school refuses to accept that bf and i are in a healthy monogomous relationship and that he isnt the same drunk ass hole he was at 21. Awhile back i got really sick of listening to her talk shit about bf and just said.

"Didnt you support my marriage to the drunk who couldnt hold a job, an apartment, afford gas without me, and cheated on me with not one but five different girls? And you want to call tony a bad guy? They are the same agebut bfs never been in prison, has had the same job for three years, owns his own house and he has full custody of his son. Yeah tony is a real looser."

I still dont think you need people to accept your relationship. If your relationship is healthy and your partner treats you well fuck everyone else they dont matter.

And one the note of the mugshot.douchebag... i actually dont think hes attractive. But im not attracted to gangbangers. And this is my reaction to girls who try to convince me hes.attractive

tig594

Yeah.  What she said. 

MinnesotaMomma91

Seriously. Explain to me what is so attractive to me about this guy? The poorly done gang tattoos, the two tear drop tattoos(which if i remember corectly you get a tear drop per murder committed), or is it the rap sheet?

Actually i hate to say it but i think some of these girlsgoing apeshit over this guy have what we are now going to call 'the jax effect' they have this fanticised image of what these men are like because of sons of anarchy and they want to be some guys tara.

If the guy wasnt a gangbanger maybe i could see the apeal but i dont. Sorry not sorry.

@20thirteen‌ say this to your friend if she insults your bf again

jellybean529

This sounds like someone who would not be a friend anymore. Beyond not being supportive of your relationship, the fact that she's so voliatlie that you can't express yourself to her is indicative of a bad friendship.

20thirteen

I just learned from a mutual friend that she used to have a thing for BF back when him and I were just meeting and talking and all that. Her and I were not friends at that point, so I had no idea. But her comment when I told her he contacted me out of the blue now makes a little sense. ("Of *course*, he would contact you.")

MinnesotaMomma91

Auuuuh, it all makes sence now. Bitches be tripping because she wants the d and your getting it