T&PS for my husband

Mufflerlove

We just got a call and my husbands Dad passed away in a motorcycle accident today. They have not spoken since December. They got in a fight about smoking around our daughter. I posted about it then. We said we wouldn't come to there smoky house with our daughter but they were welcome to come to our house for christmas. They swore and hung up the phone.

I just don't know what to do for him. He keeps repeating "what have I done". My heart is broken for him. Does anyone have any advice?

His step mom fully blames him from the short phone call he made to her for the fight. she is a drinker and I see this going all sorts of bad places.

musicalsilver

I don't have any advice, but I'm so sorry - that's a terrible situation.

DaisyDuck40

I'm so sorry thoughts and prayers for y'all.

Nix55

I'm so sorry.

Cricket81

I'm so sorry. I have no advice, but am sending lots of thoughts and hugs your way.

Lizzybizzy80

That is just awful, I'm so sorry and sending thoughts and prayers to you guys. Even though you and YH were in no way in the wrong about the smoking, how devastating.

riansmommie

I have no advise but wanted to offer my condolences. T's&P's headed y'all's way.

ColieAnn31

I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there and just be a shoulder for your H to cry on. It's probably going to be a rough couple of days for him. I'll be thinking of you guys.

WasNotWas

I'm so sorry for y'all's loss. Timing is a bitch but he has to know it wasn't his fault. I'm so sorry sweetie

GracieL79

Oh no, I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers for you all.

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cynthia2007

Sending prayers your way, that's just awful.

kelly422

So sorry

tiffletons518

I'm so sorry! I can't imagine how you both must be feeling right now. I agree with a PP, maybe try and keep step mom as far away from him as you can for now. I know there's only so much you can do, but anyone with the sole intention of bringing more pain can take a back seat right now.

Maelara

I'm so so sorry. I hope your husband will realize that it was his father who cut off ties and reacted that way. It's not your DHs fault. Poor guy

GalLaura

I'm so sorry. I hope your husband can find peace and remember the good times with his dad.

jmcgra06

So sorry I agree with PPs that there is not much you can do in the next few days except be supportive, but definitely in the future counseling could be so helpful.

phishgirl29

So Sorry 

BC&LM

So sorry! T&P with your family!

flerlgirl

I'm so sorry. Praying for your husband.

BunnyLove416

I'm so sorry, sending good thoughts and prayers for your family and husband. 

Mufflerlove

Thanks everyone. He seems to be doing okay but he's a master at hiding his feelings. Yesterday was the first time in 7 years that I have seen him cry.

His step mom ended up calling last night and apologizing for her original behaviour on the phone. We went over today and it went well enough. We still have no answers about what caused the accident though.

He is hoping to be able to see his dad in an open casket. I don't know anything about funeral arrangements but I'm worried his step mom will take along time to arrange any sort of funeral and maybe it will have been too long.. That's just her personality to begin with. She has never made a decision. I'm not sure what condition he's in to begin with though but I really do think it would help him because he can't remember the last time he saw him.