My cousin is pregnant with her second baby. She and I grew up like sisters when we were little but live a little further away the last few years so spend less lime together. When she had her first baby two years ago she threw her own shower (not appropriate, I know) and sent the invites via Facebook. Most of our shared side of the family, shared aunts and cousins, are not on FB so we did not know about the shower until after the fact. Apparently only three people showed to the shower.
I know that she did not keep anything from her first baby. I kinda feel like she should have since she was not taking any proactive measures against having a second baby. I am so excited though because I love babies. I mentioned a shower for this baby and she told me she was gonna throw one at the end of summer. I said that mothers shouldn't throw their own showers, and offered to host.
I know that some people say that showers are only appropriate for the first babies, and I have heard of baby "sprinkles" for second babies. Since she didn't keep anything and is a full time student, I know the baby needs things. So how do I go about this? Do I call it a shower? Sprinkle? Do I inform her that a second shower is just in bad taste and that she should expect no one to come, like the first?
My mother and I have already begun buying "shower gifts" when we have seen baby stuff on sale, so either way I want to celebrate the second baby. I just don't know how to proceed at this point. As the hostess, I don't want to break any rules.