UO Thursday?

Virgo17 · June 2014

I think it's weird when couples say "we are pregnant". No, one of you is pregnant, but you are both "expecting a baby".

HisChamaoleGirl · June 2014

K3am said:

I'm tired of the World Cup. I want the world - and my office in particular - to go back to normal.

I was tired of it until we were just released from work for the day to go watch it.

Virgo17 · June 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

HisChamaoleGirl said:

K3am said:

I'm tired of the World Cup. I want the world - and my office in particular - to go back to normal.

I was tired of it until we were just released from work for the day to go watch it.

Jealous!

I don't even care about soccer, but I would take it!

ss265 · June 2014

K3am said:

HisChamaoleGirl said:

K3am said:

I'm tired of the World Cup. I want the world - and my office in particular - to go back to normal.

I was tired of it until we were just released from work for the day to go watch it.

I could definitely get on board with that. I shamelessly sent an email to our CTO (for some reason, he's the keeper of our dress code) suggesting a jeans day tomorrow if USA wins today. I have no idea what our chances of winning are, unfortunately.

It was decribed as David vs. Goliath this morning on the Today Show with the U.S. being David, so not very good.

jlaOK · June 2014

K3am said:

I'm tired of the World Cup. I want the world - and my office in particular - to go back to normal.

This was going to be my UO today. I'm tired of reading about it on Facebook. No way this many people are soccer fans.

jellybean529 · June 2014

^^ agree about the World Cup stuff. I'm over it.

welly01 · June 2014

Virgo17 said:

I think it's weird when couples say "we are pregnant". No, one of you is pregnant, but you are both "expecting a baby".

I'm actually okay with guys saying this. Men aren't technically pregnant but they (or at least my DH) had to put up with a lot of stuff while I was preggo and will if we get pregnant again (oops, said it again, lol). The cravings, mood swings, the vomit, me slacking on housework. The next time, he'll have to deal with all of this and taking care of a crazy toddler when I'm too sick/tired/moody to help out. I actually feel sorry for him.

MommyAtty · June 2014

I grew up on soccer, so I'm in heaven! Lol. My UO is that whiny or hysterical women at work make life harder for the rest of us. Yes, we should be judged as individuals, but I work in a male-dominated company in a male-dominated industry. Every female who "acts like a girl" (God, I HATE that phrase) sets the rest of us back.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

welly01 said:

Virgo17 said:

I think it's weird when couples say "we are pregnant". No, one of you is pregnant, but you are both "expecting a baby".

I'm actually okay with guys saying this. Men aren't technically pregnant but they (or at least my DH) had to put up with a lot of stuff while I was preggo and will if we get pregnant again (oops, said it again, lol). The cravings, mood swings, the vomit, me slacking on housework. The next time, he'll have to deal with all of this and taking care of a crazy toddler when I'm too sick/tired/moody to help out. I actually feel sorry for him.

I find myself saying "we" got pregnant because it's something we did together & it is a bit less crass than naming the event that resulted in my current pregnant state. Of course I'm the only pregnant one in the relationship, but like @welly01 says, DH takes the lead in keep us all together - family fed, house in working order, remembering things I forget, patiently responding to my emotional needs - so it does feel like a joint venture. I get to focus on taking care of my body and the growing baby and DH steps it up in the other departments when I need to take a step back.

mlee116 · June 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

welly01 said:

Virgo17 said:

I think it's weird when couples say "we are pregnant". No, one of you is pregnant, but you are both "expecting a baby".

I'm actually okay with guys saying this. Men aren't technically pregnant but they (or at least my DH) had to put up with a lot of stuff while I was preggo and will if we get pregnant again (oops, said it again, lol). The cravings, mood swings, the vomit, me slacking on housework. The next time, he'll have to deal with all of this and taking care of a crazy toddler when I'm too sick/tired/moody to help out. I actually feel sorry for him.

I find myself saying "we" got pregnant because it's something we did together & it is a bit less crass than naming the event that resulted in my current pregnant state. Of course I'm the only pregnant one in the relationship, but like @welly01 says, DH takes the lead in keep us all together - family fed, house in working order, remembering things I forget, patiently responding to my emotional needs - so it does feel like a joint venture. I get to focus on taking care of my body and the growing baby and DH steps it up in the other departments when I need to take a step back.

Yep, I agree with this. DH's life has definitely changed as much as mine has since we found out about the pregnancy. I feel like we share the joys and the not-so-fun parts of pregnancy in one way or another, so I don't have a problem with someone saying "we" are pregnant.

Virgo17 · June 2014

CK2MD said:

My UO is that I hate the terms "preggo" and "preggers." The word is pregnant, same number of syllables, so not really a shortcut. Ditto the word "hubby."

Yes!!!!

[Deleted User] · June 2014

I only use preggers and hubby here. Mainly to be a smartass.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

This could be unpopular in a sense - has anyone else noticed the influx of snarky visitors on this board? I don't want to call people out by name but I started checking out the more curt posters who seem to only chime in to dis daycare or jump on some one's case for saying something that wouldn't fly on a different board, but should be fair game here. There seem to be more this week than last. Any thoughts?

[Deleted User] · June 2014

Maybe I am taking this more personal than I should but do you mean me?

I am blunt by nature. I have been gone from TB for a while but came back recently and am dipping my toe in the WM board. I chime in regarding threads that interest me.

I guess this my intro?

jellybean529 · June 2014

I don't mind preggo or hubby or words like that, unless it's like..."zomg i m lyke t0tally pr3ggarz!!" Then I'm annoyed.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

nope, not you @MarlaSinger& ! I hadn't even checked out your profile until you just asked - you look legit to me

I'm talking about people who seem to be here just to give people a hard time - I've found a few of them don't seem to be working moms based on their other posts all over the bump. I'm just wondering why they keep popping in if they don't like what they see here. I mean, visiting is fine - welcome! - but visiting just to judge and be snarky isn't quite the same as visiting because you're curious, or you're thinking of going back to work but haven't decided yet.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

Gotcha. I am very needy today.

ss265 · June 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

This could be unpopular in a sense - has anyone else noticed the influx of snarky visitors on this board? I don't want to call people out by name but I started checking out the more curt posters who seem to only chime in to dis daycare or jump on some one's case for saying something that wouldn't fly on a different board, but should be fair game here. There seem to be more this week than last. Any thoughts?

I don't remember anything particular from this week but there are definitely 1-2 posters I noticed on here who seem intent on stirring the pot, who have started posting in the last month or two.

And I'm assuming that you aren't referring to my comment on your DH's aunts . I went back and re-read and didn't completely understand the situation - they are completely selfish for wanting your MIL to stay there, just to help them out. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

Edited for spelling.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

I think she means the posts such as the mommy wars one from earlier in the week?

I am putting words in her mouth though, so I could be wrong. I think I am picking up what she is laying down.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

No prob!

ss265 · June 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

nope, not you @MarlaSinger& ! I hadn't even checked out your profile until you just asked - you look legit to me I'm talking about people who seem to be here just to give people a hard time - I've found a few of them don't seem to be working moms based on their other posts all over the bump. I'm just wondering why they keep popping in if they don't like what they see here. I mean, visiting is fine - welcome! - but visiting just to judge and be snarky isn't quite the same as visiting because you're curious, or you're thinking of going back to work but haven't decided yet.

Ooooh, I never would have guessed this. I am totally going to check out profiles of the 1-2 people I had in mind now.

welly01 · June 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

This could be unpopular in a sense - has anyone else noticed the influx of snarky visitors on this board? I don't want to call people out by name but I started checking out the more curt posters who seem to only chime in to dis daycare or jump on some one's case for saying something that wouldn't fly on a different board, but should be fair game here. There seem to be more this week than last. Any thoughts?

There is one in particular that I wish would stop posting on this board!

[Deleted User] · June 2014

This never ends well.

ss265 · June 2014

@MarlaSinger&, which mommy wars post are you referring to?

[Deleted User] · June 2014

LibraryChica said:

MarlaSinger& said:

I think she means the posts such as the mommy wars one from earlier in the week?

I am putting words in her mouth though, so I could be wrong. I think I am picking up what she is laying down.

Sometimes posts turn into mommmy wars craziness, but generally I think some snarkiness improves a board. If people are just here to mess with people they won't stay long and, if not, well, it's a public message board. We can't agree all the time.

Clearly I have no issue with bluntness or snark.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

@ss265, I didn't mean you either! And you are right about my husband's aunts - they are from overseas where the idea is less egregious.

I don't mean to put everyone on edge - if you're a regular and working mom, then I don't mean you! If you only stop by the WM board to be snarky but are otherwise on the SAHM board all day, then I may mean you. SAHMs are certainly welcome - so I don't mean to put those people on edge either - but there are 2-3 people who've popped up in the last month who don't seem to have nice intentions and don't seem to identify as a WM and I'm just wondering - what's up with that? Why come here just to give us a hard time?

ss265 · June 2014

@cecilyandgautum, I didn't think you meant me but I have been meaning to apologize for not quite understanding the situation with your DH's aunts anyway so your post just gave me the opportunity to do so.

ss265 · June 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

@ss265, I didn't mean you either! And you are right about my husband's aunts - they are from overseas where the idea is less egregious.

I don't mean to put everyone on edge - if you're a regular and working mom, then I don't mean you! If you only stop by the WM board to be snarky but are otherwise on the SAHM board all day, then I may mean you. SAHMs are certainly welcome - so I don't mean to put those people on edge either - but there are 2-3 people who've popped up in the last month who don't seem to have nice intentions and I'm just wondering - what's up with that? Why did we suddenly get the snark pile on recently?

People just like to create drama and what better way to do so than come on a forum full of working Moms and slam DC or something along those lines.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

@ss265, I didn't take offense, no worries! I had started writing a "yes, that's right" response but never got around to finishing it on that thread.

cecilyandgautam · June 2014

There are no such rules. All are welcome as I said but if some one's only posts on here are negative and they otherwise don't seem to identify with the group, I think it's fair game to point out that it's odd. No one's kicking anyone out. I'm just saying I've noticed and I was wondering if anyome else noticed. I don't linger on other boards where the topic is one I'm unsympathetic to just to tell everyone how wrong their choices are, but we seem to have attracted a few who've taken it up as a hobby recently.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

It happens on all the specialty boards-here, sahm, c/s, natural. Even the CD board gets it occasionally.

I just ignore unless I feel feisty.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

So did anyone else see the irony is the "I am sick of people knocking daycare" post becoming a post slamming kids who don't go to daycare? Yeah, that's kinda of what brings this on, ladies.

Here's a tip. This is a public forum. People from other boards will look here and respond when you hit a nerve. Some are trolling to get in a slam and others are responding to posts such as the one I mentioned.

I have no issue with someone who has never worked a day in their life to pop on here and keep those type of comments in check. Language is powerful and it is a remind to be aware of what you say.

MommyAtty · June 2014

amy052006 said:

Wow, talk about petty crap. This is why this board has the rep as it does, and partly why so many moms that work PT, or freelancer, or opposite shift, or any other so of flexible arrangement, usually post on SAHM. Who the hell do you think you are to tell anyone they can or can not identify as a working mom? That is actually part of to the mommy war problem. Also, kindly point me to where anyone slammed daycare. Not using daycare isn't slamming it.

She didn't say who could identify... She said people who DON'T seem to identify that way. So if you don't identify as a working mom, and don't really have the issues working moms tend to have, not sure why you'd want to post here. And generally, I don't read who posts what, so I'm not talking about anyone in particular. But I do know what she's saying. I would never head over to the SAHM board bc I don't share their issues generally. There are SAHMs on other boards I post on, and they seem really nice, but I would never go to a board that was devoted to the idea of stay at home motherhood. Esp just to dog them if they complained or asked advice about the things that are inherent to staying at home. There does seem to be a judgy-ness from some new people here about WMs trying to work out issues inherent to being a WM. Some of the new people here are downright funny (I'm talking bout you, cj), and I only know those posts came from those people bc they intrigued me enough that I scrolled over to see who wrote it. So welcome, we are glad to have as many WMs as we can get. Snarky is fine. Judgy, um, not so much.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

cjcouple said:

MarlaSinger& said:

So did anyone else see the irony is the "I am sick of people knocking daycare" post becoming a post slamming kids who don't go to daycare? Yeah, that's kinda of what brings this on, ladies.

Here's a tip. This is a public forum. People from other boards will look here and respond when you hit a nerve. Some are trolling to get in a slam and others are responding to posts such as the one I mentioned.

I have no issue with someone who has never worked a day in their life to pop on here and keep those type of comments in check. Language is powerful and it is a remind to be aware of what you say.

Which is funny because the handful of SAHM posters over here that are being talked about are working moms as well. They just work off hours, weekends, or PT like Amy said. So they pretty much fit in both worlds.

Yup. And their friends who they know from many years of posting are on SAHM so that is where their home is. I get it. I am agreeing with you.

ss265 · June 2014

cjcouple said:

@ss265, I didn't mean you either! And you are right about my husband's aunts - they are from overseas where the idea is less egregious.

I don't mean to put everyone on edge - if you're a regular and working mom, then I don't mean you! If you only stop by the WM board to be snarky but are otherwise on the SAHM board all day, then I may mean you. SAHMs are certainly welcome - so I don't mean to put those people on edge either - but there are 2-3 people who've popped up in the last month who don't seem to have nice intentions and don't seem to identify as a WM and I'm just wondering - what's up with that? Why come here just to give us a hard time?
talk about stirring the pot? only stirring in this post I see is this. I know I am 1 of the ones you are talking about. ((shrug)))) don't care. I just post honest opinions. and I post just as many "nice" comments. so maybe you should research more thoroughly. oh and pssssttttt - if you don't like something said just don't respond and ignore it. no one is forcing you to engage. also not that I need to explain myself but I am a former SAHM who has friends over there and have been back to work for over a year. that will always be my home board. if I was seriously out to cause trouble over here, you would know it. lol

FWIW, you weren't one of the people I had in mind. I used to lurk on the SAHM board when I was bored at work and I recognized you from there. Even if you hadn't gone back to work, I personally have no issues with you posting on here because you participate actively and yes, you post positively and negatively. Cecily was referring to posters who come on here just to post snarky, judgy comments about WM and otherwise don't contribute at all to this forum. It doesn't matter if you are a WM or a SAHM.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

Ignore the trolls. They are everywhere. You can tell the difference.

As far as "you don't belong here", that's silly. If you don't want to get called out on saying stupid shit, don't say stupid shit.

(general "you")

Since this was a vague bump, I can only assume which poster and posts are being referenced. I was referencing the most recent even if it was a hyperbolic example.

mlee116 · June 2014

MarlaSinger& said:

So did anyone else see the irony is the "I am sick of people knocking daycare" post becoming a post slamming kids who don't go to daycare? Yeah, that's kinda of what brings this on, ladies.

Here's a tip. This is a public forum. People from other boards will look here and respond when you hit a nerve. Some are trolling to get in a slam and others are responding to posts such as the one I mentioned.

I have no issue with someone who has never worked a day in their life to pop on here and keep those type of comments in check. Language is powerful and it is a remind to be aware of what you say.

I agree. This was the main issue I took away from the post *I think* everyone is talking about. Just like we don't to be judged for working and putting our kids in daycare, it's not fair to judge or make blanket statements about those who don't. And if someone does, I think it's perfectly fair for SAHMs to come over and address it.

Although the person who said it wasn't even a reg and I don't think most people on the board feel that way, FTR.

And honestly, this board isn't that snarky. I mean, it exists, but compared to a lot of other boards, this one is very low drama. Some snark keeps things interesting.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

Ignore the trolls. They are everywhere. You can tell the difference.

;
But how else would I get the opportunity to share my vast geography knowledge ? ;-) /sarcasm font

I thought that's why we had Jeopardy Tuesday?

[Deleted User] · June 2014

/sarcasm font

litzo27 · June 2014

Dang, I've had a busy week and clearly missed some drama (finally we got drama!!! Woohooo!!! It was sad that the most exciting thing in the past months was the "Israel is in Africa yo" debacle). Is there a thread I need to catch up on or something?