UO Thursday

JNerd

Unpopular opinion time!

JNerd

I think most people have their babies in car seats (the bucket) for way too long. Car seats should be used when you are in the car. If baby is not in the car they should not be in the car seat.

diagonalley

JNerd said:

I think most people have their babies in car seats (the bucket) for way too long. Car seats should be used when you are in the car. If baby is not in the car they should not be in the car seat.

My baby hates his car seat so this isn't even an option for us!

My UO: I stand by my previous UO that not all babies are cute. Thankfully mine is

tbmadeamistake

I don't like it when people refer to breast milk as liquid gold (no offense to whomever started the thread on that today).

katekat8721

Lilygrace48 said:

I don't like it when people refer to breast milk as liquid gold (no offense to whomever started the thread on that today).

I don't either. I also think it makes women who can't make "liquid gold" feel bad about themselves. But maybe I'm just overly sensitive that I don't have super boobs

(Confession: I also thought liquid gold referred to colostrum, not BM lol)

chickpea912

katekat8721 said:

I don't like it when people refer to breast milk as liquid gold (no offense to whomever started the thread on that today).

I don't either. I also think it makes women who can't make "liquid gold" feel bad about themselves. But maybe I'm just overly sensitive that I don't have super boobs (Confession: I also thought liquid gold referred to colostrum, not BM lol)

Thank you for this.  I had a crap supply last time and I have a slightly less crap supply this time - Hey!  I can feed my kid HALF of the time, woohoo.  At least for now.

So yes... I have supply envy and issues around breastfeeding, so stuff like this rubs salt in the wound.

And i also thought liquid gold was cololstrum since there is only a very smll amount and it is so densely nutritious??  BM is just...milk.

katekat8721

@chickpea912 (((hugs)))

otter1103

I'm sure all of LO's difficulties nursing have contributed to this but my UO is I can't find much joy in BF'ing like so many other women.
At one point there was hope but now I feel like it's just one more thing I have to do that I can't. No problem with supply, she just isn't efficient at nursing so we supplement pumped BM and formula when necessary. I have no issues supplementing but all of this extra work on top of working through nursing is just too much. It's not blissful and it doesn't feel like a beautiful bonding experience for me and that is really tearing me apart.

Mia081081

I don't get people who say they don't have time to eat since baby arrived. Breastfeeding makes me insanely hungry. I eat way more now than when I was pregnant. I basically shovel deli meat, yogurt and nut bars into my mouth between baby feeding and changing and stuff.

chickpea912

@otter1103 ((hugs))

Taymiller

@MommyP710‌ - I agree with you for sure, not all babies are cute and Max is super cute. (I haven't seen any pics of him lately *hint hint) I was certain I was going to have an ugly baby because I was an ugly baby but I think Murphy is pretty cute.

diagonalley

@Taymiller‌ ask and you shall receive!!

katekat8721

@MommyP710 ah! So cute!

Savvy122

otter1103 said:

I'm sure all of LO's difficulties nursing have contributed to this but my UO is I can't find much joy in BF'ing like so many other women. At one point there was hope but now I feel like it's just one more thing I have to do that I can't. No problem with supply, she just isn't efficient at nursing so we supplement pumped BM and formula when necessary. I have no issues supplementing but all of this extra work on top of working through nursing is just too much. It's not blissful and it doesn't feel like a beautiful bonding experience for me and that is really tearing me apart.

I don't really like breastfeeding either.  We've been lucky and haven't really had any difficulties like a lot of you ladies have had (HUGS to you, I know how hard it can be!)  But I just don't love it like I feel I'm *supposed* to.  I do it because, um, free?  And it also helped me lose all my baby weight with C.  But it's never been that beautiful bonding experience for me.  Truth be told, I actually prefer giving D a bottle because at least then I can see his cute little face while he eats.

SarahS11

I think it is fine to be a complete aw on Facebook... I feel like that's what it's there for. People just use it to brag and complain, so why expect any different? I'm that person that has posted a million pictures of LO and then I added an album of her pro pics and my male cousin made a comment "oh good, I was beginning to think you didn't have enough pictures of her" then before I could even explain myself, he must have realized it sounded rude and deleted it... I'm sorry, you don't have to look at them, you can block me from your newsfeed, and I don't post them to get compliments on how beautiful my baby is (even though she's freaking adorable) I post them because none of my family lives around us... They want to see her growing and changing and Facebook is actually the easiest way. So I'm sorry cousin douche bag that I am annoying you with pictures of my baby my brother, who lives 14 hours away, has yet to meet and she's already a month old! Rant over... Just to summarize, my uo is attention whore all you want on Facebook!

elsa1688

StrawberryDreams219 said:

It pisses me off when people spend all their time complaining about whatever crappy relationship/situation they are in but don't do anything to improve their situation. If you are unhappy, make a change and stop venting to me about it because I don't have any shits to give right now. Plus this has been going on for months!

Ohmygod this. My older sister is like this and it's driving me insane. The guy is a dick, grow a pair and leave him already. And then she defends him "oh, you only hear the negative parts". Umm, no. He's abusive and you need to leave.

otter1103

@MommyP710‌ he is so cute! I also may or may not have gone back through another thread to look at a snapchat picture you posted too. Yeah, I creepy stalked you for a few minutes.

sumochik

My UO is that they should get rid of those stupid baby on board signs ppl put on their cars. Most of the time I only notice them BC you pulled some dbag move in front of me. You drive like an asshole but I should watch out for your baby? Wtf?!?

sunny1310

Babies with a full head of hair are much more adorable than the bald babies

diagonalley

otter1103 said:

@MommyP710‌ he is so cute! I also may or may not have gone back through another thread to look at a snapchat picture you posted too. Yeah, I creepy stalked you for a few minutes.

It's all good. That picture is ridiculously cute after all . It's one of my faves to look at!

JNerd

BrightEyes112 said:

My UO: Watermelon Oreos are delicious.

Yup. What @BrightEyes112‌ said I love watermelon and I love Oreos but that sounds horrible.

jclester614

lyracelesti said:

to all you ladies struggling with issues surrounding BF. I'm totally with @Savvy122. I feel lucky that i don't have any issues BFing, and I feel like a douche saying that overall I still kinda dislike it. It doesn't feel like a magical bonding experience to me; it just feels like someone sucking on my boob for 10 minutes. I only do it because I'm cheap and it's free. I wanted to try EPing but my right tit doesn't give it up for the pump for whatever reason, and also I'm too lazy to commit to carrying the pump around with me.  

This is 100% how I imagine I will feel about BFing. I am actually really glad to know that I would not be alone in that feeling (although I wish for y'all that it WILL turn into a better bonding experience!!).

BMaidPlanner

I wasn't able to sing to or read to my belly when pregnant. Just didn't feel normal. Even now the reading feels too soon. She only cares about my boobs and not sitting in dirty diapers. Can't really blame her. I just feel like I'm missing something "magical" with my approach to her right now, which is basically keep her alive and crying as little as possible while trying to keep sane myself.

jjva

BMaidPlanner said:

I wasn't able to sing to or read to my belly when pregnant. Just didn't feel normal. Even now the reading feels too soon. She only cares about my boobs and not sitting in dirty diapers. Can't really blame her. I just feel like I'm missing something "magical" with my approach to her right now, which is basically keep her alive and crying as little as possible while trying to keep sane myself.

I haven't sung or read to my belly either (still pg). I was feeling really bad about that but then my mom pointed out that she and my dad played Bach, Brahms, Haydn, etc for me all the time when I was on the inside and look how un-musical I turned out. It's true too, I can't carry a tune or keep a beat to save my life. It was blunt but it made me feel better And hey, from over here, if you're keeping the baby alive and dry you're a hero in my book.

BMaidPlanner

Thanks @jjva‌! I am a singer so it's strange I'm not into it more but singing really doesn't soothe her, eating does. Newborn realities!

tbmadeamistake

@BMaidPlanner‌ I was the same way with my first. The only reason that I read to Charlie is because his sister wants books while he's nursing! She is two and loves books, but didn't get many until she was older. No worries!