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Omg..don't read this if you're in a bad mood.

J&D2007J&D2007 member
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https://gma.yahoo.com/woman-sets-ban-surrogacy-094638387--abc-news-health.html Can you believe ignorant people actually think like this?? It's utterly unbelievable.
Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown
10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
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Re: Omg..don't read this if you're in a bad mood.

  • DoublePortionDoublePortion member
    Wow, what an idiot! There will be good and bad in any situation. Citing a few cases where things went bad doesn't prove that all GC/S situations will turn out poorly.

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    AMH .97 as of 4/2012! ~ AMH 1.63 as of 4/2013!?!
    Him: 29 ~ perfect swimmers
    Laparotomy w/partial oophorectomy 8/2009 to remove cysts/endo.
    Stopped BCP 4/2010.
    Multiple clomid rounds from 11/2010 to 6/2011. ~ All BFN
    IUI w/clomid 7/2011. IUI w/clomid & injectables 11/2011 & 1/2012. ~ All BFN
    IVF:EPP 5/2012 ~ (4R, 3M, 2F w/ICSI). Both embryos txfrd. ~ BFN
    BCP to manage endo from 10/2012 to 12/2012.
    FET w/donor embryos #1: 10/2013 Cancelled
    FET w/donor embryos #1.2: 11/2013     ~ ET of 2 beautiful blasts on 11/27.
    Beta 1: 503(12dp5dt) Beta 2: 1035(14dpt) Beta 3: 3001(16dpt)     Beta 4: 8503(19dpt)
    Twins with an EDD of 8/15/14! Team Purple
    G&B born 6/30/14 at 33w3d via emergency c/s.

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    edited June 2014
    Ugh... Yeah, bc there's never been a custody fight between "regular" parents before....... Just ugh.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • lincoln79lincoln79 member
    Just what my unsupportive family needs to hear at this time. ugh.

    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d, 
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

    Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!

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  • lincoln79lincoln79 member
    I do have to say, I gambled by reading the comments and they were overwhelmingly in support of people having this option and telling this lady to bug off. It makes me feel a lot better!

    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d, 
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

    Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!

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  • Mama-BearMama-Bear member
    Having a baby is ALWAYS about wants/needs/"what can I get" whether you conceive with or without ART/TPR.  Most people have a baby because they "want" a baby.  This is why surrogacy and other ART is taboo, because people make it out to be this awful thing to do. 

    I'm so tired of hearing that only the rich can afford surrogacy and all surrogates are illiterate, uneducated, poor, helpless, women who are being exploited and couldn't afford to feed their own babies without surrogacy compensation.  Most surrogates that work instead of being SAHM's make quite a bit more at their regular job than they would make doing surrogacy. 

    This woman has no idea what the hell she's talking about.  She's never been in the room when an IP meets their baby face to face for the first time, hears that first heartbeat on the doppler, sees their baby on the U/S, is told by the clinic or her surrogate that she's expecting.  I wasn't mad before reading it, but I'm getting pretty pissed off now. 

    IMO this is worse than "why don't you just adopt, there are so many kids out there that need homes", to which my answer is "why didn't you". 

    I'm not saying that all surrogacy is good, there have been plenty of journeys that I see from the beginning and just think "this is going to end horribly", but usually if you're HONEST and go through the proper procedures and have a VERY detailed contract, things can work out beautifully. 

    I delivered a beautiful baby boy for a wonderful couple 13.5 months ago, a pregnancy would've been fatal for his mother, and when I was pregnant with him, she ended up with thyroid cancer, since she wasn't pg she was able to be treated quickly without risking his safety. 

    The couple I'm currently matched with, the mother would be bedridden and could possibly be paralyzed if she became pregnant (plus she has to have a hysterectomy right after her ER). 

    If you're not IN it, "you" should keep your mouth shut because you don't know what you're talking about (I'd maybe listen to someone that couldn't carry their baby and then talk down on surrogacy). 

    GSx1 - 05/13/2013
    GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!
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  • J&D2007J&D2007 member
    Mama-Bear said:
    Having a baby is ALWAYS about wants/needs/"what can I get" whether you conceive with or without ART/TPR.  Most people have a baby because they "want" a baby.  This is why surrogacy and other ART is taboo, because people make it out to be this awful thing to do. 

    I'm so tired of hearing that only the rich can afford surrogacy and all surrogates are illiterate, uneducated, poor, helpless, women who are being exploited and couldn't afford to feed their own babies without surrogacy compensation.  Most surrogates that work instead of being SAHM's make quite a bit more at their regular job than they would make doing surrogacy. 

    This woman has no idea what the hell she's talking about.  She's never been in the room when an IP meets their baby face to face for the first time, hears that first heartbeat on the doppler, sees their baby on the U/S, is told by the clinic or her surrogate that she's expecting.  I wasn't mad before reading it, but I'm getting pretty pissed off now. 

    IMO this is worse than "why don't you just adopt, there are so many kids out there that need homes", to which my answer is "why didn't you". 

    I'm not saying that all surrogacy is good, there have been plenty of journeys that I see from the beginning and just think "this is going to end horribly", but usually if you're HONEST and go through the proper procedures and have a VERY detailed contract, things can work out beautifully. 

    I delivered a beautiful baby boy for a wonderful couple 13.5 months ago, a pregnancy would've been fatal for his mother, and when I was pregnant with him, she ended up with thyroid cancer, since she wasn't pg she was able to be treated quickly without risking his safety. 

    The couple I'm currently matched with, the mother would be bedridden and could possibly be paralyzed if she became pregnant (plus she has to have a hysterectomy right after her ER). 

    If you're not IN it, "you" should keep your mouth shut because you don't know what you're talking about (I'd maybe listen to someone that couldn't carry their baby and then talk down on surrogacy). 

    Whew! Beautifully stated:-)
    Me: 37, DH: 38: ttc 7 years, dx: unknown
    10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
    11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid & normal hsg),
    12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s, 1/12: D&C
    6/12 IUI#1-IUI #3: clomid = BFP!, C/P
    IVF #1(10/12) FSH 5.4, AFC: 16 long Lupron, 5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast/1-8 cell transferred=BFN
    IVF #2(12/12)AFC 21, MD lupron, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast and 2-8cell. BFN.
    IVF#3(4/13) Natural start antagon protocol, 12R,11F. one PGS normal at day 6 transfer. BFN.
    IVF#4 (11/13) C.CRM (ODW.U normal 8/13 Still no Diagnosis) EPP/antagonist. ER 13R/7M/6F. Only 1 made it to freeze. Abnormal. Looking into options of DE, Fresh vs frozen.
    10/14 new local RE to look into what's next. CD3 FSH 4.7, AMH 0.9. Met with DE agencies and exploring options for feb/march 2015.
    Surprise natural bfp (4 days before donor is signed). Beta #1 at 9dpo: 51.8, 2nd beta: 195 (25 hours doubling) @11dpo. 3rd beta (12/15): 516 (35 hrs doubling) 4th beta(12/17): 895 (58 hours doubling) 5th beta(12/19): 2120. U/S at 5w0d(12/22): one gestational sac with yolk sac. U/S #2 (6w0d)12/29. One little bean measuring 6w0d with HR 124. 3rd u/s(1/4)7w0d: baby measuring 7w2d. HR 134. 3/30: A/S at MFM went great except for low lying placenta. Verifi results are normal! Team Blue! Please send any positive thoughts our way! EDD:8/24/2015
    Baby Will born 8/18. He's perfect.
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