I feel like I'm slowly starting to hate children.. Am I alone here?

RedBaramid

I feel like I'm slowly starting to be completely intolerant to kids.. and I feel awful. I think it's mostly my little sister in law(although stranger's kids in public sometimes really get me too now), she's about to turn 7, but she still hasn't learned her please and thank yous, she blatantly ignores direction from adults(full blown temper tantrums happen daily when her parents bother to attempt to correct misbehavior), and still doesn't grasp that when grown ups are talking to each other she needs to wait until they are finished before interrupting.  Are my expectations too high? Am I just going a little crazy due to hormones? I feel like if I can't handle her there is no way I am going to be able to be a good parent to my own child. I feel awful when I am short tempered with her, but she listens to no one. I really hope this house closing goes by quick so we can get out of here earlier than our deadline date.

(Sorry I think I really just needed to get this out.... have a good evening ladies!)

bumpuser10199668

Slowly? I never really liked other peoples' kids!

chardonnay24

I really dislike most children. I still love my kiddo, even when he's being a huge, out of control brat.

Bonnesetter27

I teach Kindergarten and usually once a day I remind myself "I like kids, I want more children." I definitely find myself shorter and more annoyed right now with all of my hormones etc. However, then some kid will do something adorable and I melt.

hizah05

It's completely different when it's your own kid. I love mine and think he's the cutest thing in the world. But I'm not very interested in other people's kids. Sure, they are cute and I'll look at pictures. But I don't want to hold them or play with them. I've never really liked kids.

Pancake227

I love kids but I have limited tolerance for kids with no manners or respect.  My two year old says "God Bless You", "Excuse Me", "Thank You" and is working on saying "Please" in a complete sentence.  It takes time but it's totally possible.  She learns most of it from example.  My patience for kids that demand things or disrespect others is zilch.  Hormones?  Maybe.  More like a common courtesy that I wish everyone taught their kids.  Don't feel awful.  Just remember it's now how you want to raise your child.  You'll encounter so much more of it as time goes on.

peanutbuttervibes

Last pregnancy I was working at a daycare in a room with about 20 something 2 year olds, I quit when I was 4 months pregnant because I was scared I would hate my child before he was born.... I feel your pain!

MrsLaLaBug

I'd say you aren't alone, but.... Don't let other people's kids who have bad excuses for manners ruin your perspective.

mana8503

It's all how your parent. I have 2 cws, both have 2 year old girls. One will say please, thank you, etc. The other says "that's mine!". The latter parent thinks it's hilarious. No, it's rude... Good luck in the up coming years.

beccalee721

Don't worry you're not alone! When my DH and I were trying to get pregnant with DD (19 months) we used examples we saw in stores of bad behavior to start discussing how we want to handle situations like that. It's a good thing I think because we have a sound understanding of how we want our kids to be raised. My DD says please and thank you so that's a start. We're working on "excuse me" instead of "MOVE!" lol but it's a work in progress. It's going to be a combination of their attitude that day, their age, and how you raise them / what you tolerate. But no matter what you'll love them and it's 100% different than dealing with someone else's kids.

Bella2425

I am definitely not a fan of other peoples kids. Never have been. I haaaaaated babysitting when I was younger. I thought I'd like them more once I had my own, but nope. I think it's fine. I love my kid more than anything and that's all that matters to me, everyone else can deal with their own kids.

Fishyhatch

I feel the exact same way, especially in regards to my 10 year old niece who also lacks the most basic of manners and up until a couple years ago also still threw temper tantrums.  I have pretty much zero tolerance for ill mannered children.  I'm not crazy about other pp's children either, but I think there is not much more adorable than a well mannered child.  Last night at our kickball game, a little girl maybe 3 years old came over to one of the spectators and asked very politely if she could pet his dog.  It melted my heart! 

harkeyl86

ha this is funny because I'm a peds nurse at a clinic and i am so easily irritated by bratty kids that don't listen and my cousin has 4 kids who i love to death but same thing with the please/thank yous. It has helped me learn things i do and don't want to do with parenting. 

C0602t

I'm a nanny and probably say "I hate children" too often!

brittneyandadam

I'm totally dreading dinner with the neighbors this weekend for this exact reason. Their boys are annoying as hell and demand attention all the time. I don't have the energy to deal with a chatty 5 year old and a 3 year old who clearly had rocket fuel for breakfast.

softsoprano

DH and I have also had many discussions as to how we would deal with different situations based on how we see family/friends raising their kids.  SIL is the one we see the most of together, and we've felt for years that she'll be having a harder time with her kids when they get older (manners, whining, etc).  I'm not sure if we're now getting to that point where the oldest is really being an annoying pain in the ass, or if it's just hormones, but he was just about pissing me off the other night at dinner complaining about not wanting to eat, making faces, etc.  

widgetsnm

I have the same problems with my 13 year old nephew! I feel
Your pain. I correct him. All the time.

MMason12

CarmAlarm said:

Slowly? I never really liked other peoples' kids!

This! I swear there are more kids now-a-days with no manners than polite kids. I do not believe are supposed to be quiet objects who sit in the corner all day, but they should have some manners and learn respect. I really can't stand most kids so you are not alone!