Summer Bucket List with a Newborn

Huahine

I thought it would be fun to look ahead, to a time when we are beyond all the aches and pains of being 68 weeks pregnant and the fears of delivery, and think about how we want to spend our time off this summer. 

Here is my bucket list of things to do with my toddler (2.5 y.o) and newborn this summer, once I've recovered enough from delivery to get out and about:

• local beach days
• easy walking trails
• fly a kite
• crabbing off the dock
• picnic
• zoo
• roast marshmallows 
• swan boats (we're outside of Boston)

 What's on your list?

ghostof5letters

No leaky tits in public 

tealowl

Be able to pay all my bills on maternity leave and not go into debt.

Huahine

ghostof5letters said:

No leaky tits in public 

Heh, heh. I was an overproducer last time around, so if this time is at all the same, I'll be wearing the pads 24/7. 

AMcLaws

I live in AZ...so...

Hide inside until October.

ghostof5letters

I would also like to not fall into a depressive, "holy fuck, what have I done?" state again. But...I've got no control over that aspect of things. 

Not getting a breast abscess that requires weekly visits to the breast surgeon would be nice. 

Being able to spend some quality time with my toddler and not leave her feeling neglected. 

Use soap on my nipples would be fucking spectacular. 

lindslalala

I'd like to get over to the coast one day, maybe a zoo trip if I'm feeling ambitious (it's 2hrs away). Hopefully some swimming at my parent's pool and lots of trips to the park.

brewbecks

I am going to...

*have a few days at camp with my mom & baby

*lay by the pool

*read a book

*3 company picnics for DH's company

*spend a few days on the coast to celebrate our anniversary & new family!

Hopefully I can squeeze these things in...I already have a sign up going for just grandmothers who want to take a turn babysitting for a few hours here and there so I can run errands and sleep! (This is the first grandchild on my side and the first girl on DH's side)

Soon2BMrsN

Seriously, OP? Fly a kite? My summer bucket list can pretty well be summed up as "survive a third c-section and recovery, then go home to survive life with three kids five and under with a DH who works 70 hours a week, breast feeding, laundry, etc. and my 'helpful' mom visiting all too often." Don't get me wrong - I love my life but I think I'll be too busy to fly any kites this summer.

littlemissmarla

tealowl said:

Be able to pay all my bills on maternity leave and not go into debt.

haha all of this for me too

Big+Lil

My bucket list is to put my toddler in school and arrange for her to do summery things with family and friends while I:

Weep excessively

Sit around nursing like a cow

Walk 9 trillion times around the neighborhood to lose the weight

Huahine

Soon2BMrsN said:

Seriously, OP? Fly a kite? My summer bucket list can pretty well be summed up as "survive a third c-section and recovery, then go home to survive life with three kids five and under with a DH who works 70 hours a week, breast feeding, laundry, etc. and my 'helpful' mom visiting all too often." Don't get me wrong - I love my life but I think I'll be too busy to fly any kites this summer.

Good luck with that third c-section - I'm looking down the barrel at my second. DS1 was born in January, in New England and we had such trouble getting out of the house. I started to go stir crazy - and that was with just one. I know I'm going to need to have some ideas in the bank when he starts to get antsy and we need to get out to keep him from driving me up the wall.  So yeah, I thought find a field to spread out a blanket for DS2 to snooze on while DS1 ran around with a kite was a pretty good idea.  

abunai523

I'm hoping to survive the transition into parenthood with minimal emotional scarring for all involved and without maiming DH. I also hope to be able to get the hang of breastfeeding, and be able to financially survive being out on leave. Seriously, those are the big items.

I will say that walking around the block with my little family at some point would be considered a win and a major bonus.

katnipeverclean

I'd like to have a baby without needing therapy and pills like last time.

My plans are to buy a kiddie plastic pool, a giant fucking tub of bubbles and sidewalk chalk to keep DD occupied and happy while I deal with a newborn. I also plan to become best pals with Dora, Diego and George.

Seriously? Crabbing? Boating? Kite flying? So far off my radar they're in another country.

littlemissmarla

I don't know how I feel about taking a newborn into a swan boat.

SuperTinkerham

Not drop baby on his head.

January Bride

I hope to feel good enough myself/be in a good place with learning how to take care of the baby in order to hopefully:

* Take her on some walks outside
* Visit with some local friends who have kids
* Take the baby to DH's work for a visit
* Go home to Iowa for a family visit a month or so after the birth

We'll see, though.  I want to roll with things as much as possible and try to cut myself some slack if I need more time for recovery or if I need more time at home to figure out how to take care of the baby.

baxterdreamer

Poop pain-free but I'm thinking that'll be an impossible dream.

Huahine

littlemissmarla said:

I don't know how I feel about taking a newborn into a swan boat.

The swan boats are on a pond in the public garden - flat water, very low-key.  https://swanboats.com/  Just about as safe as being on land.  

jensavicci

1. Try to stay alive. Definitely my summer priority.

Nicole3&counting

Op you sound like me. As long as this ones birth is as uneventful as the rest we plan on being on the move right away. I so t do well being cooped up in the house so I will be running my other three to their activities. And we plan on spending a. Good amount of time at the pool, park, and zoo.

January Bride

2lacyblue said:

@January Bride‌ are you planning to fly to Iowa? I'm already stressing over our christmas trip: Texas to Oregon....

I just really want to use my new stroller so neighborhood walks sound good. I might join a moms group for baby wearing that has meetings and events, but those are the only "activities" on my radar.

No, just driving.  However, it's going to be probably a 3 hour drive to my parent's house and then a 5 hour drive from there to my grandparent's house, so it will be a long trip (longer with all the stops we'll have to make with a newborn).  It's for my Grandparent's 80th birthdays and 60th wedding anniversary, so even though it's not the best time for a trip, we will try to make it if at all possible since it's so important to them.  We'll have to play it by ear, though.  A lot of my friends have told me that they actually found traveling with a newborn easier than an older baby, so we'll see how it goes in our case.

Good luck with your TX-OR flight! 

bullybutt

My goal is to find a way to drink as much sangria margaritas as I can while still nursing a newborn 24/7.  I barely drank at all with DS (like never). 

mamatomp

My main ticket bucket list item is potty training DS2 while at home with a newborn; trying to get a breast feeding and pumping system down pat before I return to work; trying to lose some of this Godforsaken baby weight; maybe a couple of dinners out with the girls... I'll be thrilled to spend time by the pool with the kids... That's really all I've got.

TugboatSheila

I'll be transitioning into part time or full time SAH status after baby so my list is:

Give birth
Talk to adults at least a few times a week
Make things (food, DIY stuff, canning) so that I have an outlet

brittany&dain

I just want to still be able to function and remain some contact with the outside world and adults !

iris427

We are moving to another state the first week of August so alas, crabbing will have to wait. I am hoping that we can take some little family outings once I am recovered and we have moved. But survival is definitely my top priority.

honeybee434

My only goal for this summer is to survive a c-section emotionally and physically and to not stress myself out about finances. That's about it. I aim low. (Or maybe that's aiming high....I guess time will tell!)

INmommy871278

Go to the zoo and see the new Orangutang exhibit and go to the state fair come August, that's my only big plans for the summer. DS was an easy delivery and recovery, so I'm hoping this one will be the same.

[Deleted User]

If I can survive the newborn phase again, I'll be happy. I'm trying to do as much as I can with DS before the baby comes because I'm sure we'll mostly just hang out at home in the kiddie pool after #2 is here. By the time I feel ready to get up and going with both kids, summer will pretty much be over and DS will be in preschool.

Soon2BMrsN

Huahine said:

Soon2BMrsN said:

Seriously, OP? Fly a kite? My summer bucket list can pretty well be summed up as "survive a third c-section and recovery, then go home to survive life with three kids five and under with a DH who works 70 hours a week, breast feeding, laundry, etc. and my 'helpful' mom visiting all too often." Don't get me wrong - I love my life but I think I'll be too busy to fly any kites this summer.

Good luck with that third c-section - I'm looking down the barrel at my second. DS1 was born in January, in New England and we had such trouble getting out of the house. I started to go stir crazy - and that was with just one. I know I'm going to need to have some ideas in the bank when he starts to get antsy and we need to get out to keep him from driving me up the wall.  So yeah, I thought find a field to spread out a blanket for DS2 to snooze on while DS1 ran around with a kite was a pretty good idea.  
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Good luck with your c/s. My second one was so much easier than the first. I hope your son has fun with his kite.

1982Babies

I have so many goals, but haven't gotten much done.  I guess keeping up on the diaper laundry counts enough, right?  Other than that, holding the couch down.

ADC1979

1.  Sleep again.  I hope baby and my body will let me.  My body is my own worst enemy.

2.  Survive this whole giving birth thing.  I imagine the hospital will feel like this:

3.  Figure out how new life for me, DH, and baby will work out. Hopefully we will all be this adorable.

Yeah so my bucket list is simple things because I don't know how this post-baby thing will work yet.

Dream123456778

Survive. 

marsalisails

I'm hoping to take full advantage of being home for 12 weeks and then not traveling for 12 after that. I'll take the first month to heal (barring no c-section), but then I'd like to: take zoo trips (we're members and it's close), take Spanish lessons with DS (researching now), and just be able to play with him. I'm such a dud because I work so much.

Then he's in school full time after labor day, so I'll concentrate on napping and working out like a crazy person before I have to go back to work again and not have time for anything

chelseakae07

I think making lists is a good idea, as crazy as that may sound. I am one to go stir crazy so hopefully I'll be able to occupy myself throughout the summer!
1. Master cloth diapering
2. Go on lots of walks around the neighborhood
3. Try out new recipes
4. Finish up some sewing projects
5. Maybe join a mommy group?
6. Visit my coworkers and show off my baby girl
7. Can lots and lots of veggies
8. Multiple trips to Starbucks!

Salsera29

Figuring out how to feed my preemie every 3 hours around the clock while also pumping every 3 hours and giving him formula every other feeding.

mamakiss

-survive
-have the weddings we attend in august and September go as smoothly as possible
-hang out a lot at home until SO is done with overtime season (fall)

Come fall, I'm excited for:
-beach days (it will be 85+ until late October)
-trips to the mountains or the city
-more likely, a Santa Cruz day trip every weekend

Living in central California leaves a lot of options >2 hours away so I'm more excited for next summer so the car trip isn't so hellish

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twister22

-Keep my house clean

-Successfully continue to nurse my 18 month old while nursing the NB (not at the same time haha)

-Survive a flight with DH & I have the babes as lap riders

-Actually enjoy the beach

Nichole8787

-Stay optimistic

-Visit my hometown with baby

-Newborn photos

-Fall in love with my husband in a whole new way as the father of our child

-Not get behind on bills

-Take some walks with lo and puppies

acciovino

I live in Texas so I will be enjoying the A/C this summer. I am hoping to:

Recover from my second c-section without complications

Not kill my preschooler

Master cloth diapers

Be able to function without anxiety meds (so far so good)

Nurse and pump for as long as possible

Find a good daycare for the kiddos before going back to work

No fun things planned, however the plastic pool and bubbles is a genius idea for DD. I am definitely going to steal that!