TTC>35 grad check in 6/24

tlc35

Congrats to all our grads!  How are things going?

BeckyP005

Hi ladies!! Guess I'm 5 weeks? Lol. Will find out tomorrow. My beta #3 and u/s tomorrow. Very nervous. Please send some good thoughts my way if you don't mind.

That's about it. Ready to walk into dentist to get a crown. Yuck. Had to get stitches yesterday because I sliced my elbow at Whole Foods on their stand. Hoping tomorrow brings better news!! Thinking of you all

Davie813

BeckyP005 said:

Hi ladies!! Guess I'm 5 weeks? Lol. Will find out tomorrow. My beta #3 and u/s tomorrow. Very nervous. Please send some good thoughts my way if you don't mind. That's about it. Ready to walk into dentist to get a crown. Yuck. Had to get stitches yesterday because I sliced my elbow at Whole Foods on their stand. Hoping tomorrow brings better news!! Thinking of you all

Absolutely all the good thoughts to you!  You'll do great, and I can't wait for your update!

Lesliem0901

Ditto!!! @BeckyP005 - only good vibes and positive thoughts!!

lcwed

Things are going good so far.  I am 6 weeks and a few days, so close to the 7 week mark.  Random nausea started at 6 weeks but my boobs are still sore and am still having round ligament pain.  I am so comforted by those little twinges.  My first appointment and ultrasound is less than 2 weeks away.  I can't wait.

ProcessofBecoming

Hi all:

Things are going pretty well here. The big news is that we had our Anatomy Scan and Little William (Liam) passed with flying colors. It took the high-risk MFM and his staff like 2 hours to do the scan (they were very, very thorough) and he just kept saying everything looked "beautiful" (yay!). We discussed amnio, and he said that he would do an amnio if there was something in the anatomy scan that merited further review, and there are risks to the baby if we were to do an amnio at this stage. And he didn't think that the benefit of the amnio would outweigh the risk to the baby, given that the baby had a totally normal anatomy scan. I know personally that a perfect anatomy scan does not mean your child will not have issues (my son is on the spectrum), and I am worried about having another son with autism. The MFM said that, in my case, I could do an amnio and microarray (if insurance covered it), but then we'd have tons of information that would need to be deciphered and sometimes a microdeletion on a chromosome can cause no issues. All this data, and nobody would know for sure what it could mean. In short, it'd be a crap shoot, and by the time all of these results came in, the baby would be on the cusp of viability. And, I know myself and would not be able to live with any decision other than proceeding with the pregnancy. So why bother with more testing at this point? So, I made the decision to put my trust in God that this baby will be healthy and happy and will hopefully not have to deal with the issues that challenge his big brother (and all of us). If you ladies have any prayers to spare for a happy outcome, I'd love them.

Anyhow, other than this, we're going to the cape next week with the in-laws for a week long family vacation. All of us under one roof. In a not-huge house. And I can't have any Xanax. Or wine. Or wine AND Xanax. Sigh.

But in happy news, here's a picture from the A/S of my son. I have the creepy 3D ones too, but he looks all sorts of cute here (same profile as his big brother!). I can't wait to meet him, in no less than 19 weeks (the goal now is NO preeclampsia!!! Go, ancient uterus and placenta, GO!).

Mrs.McIrish

Good luck Becky!!
Processofbecoming-- I hear you on the family under one roof at the cape... That is my life every summer as my ILs live there.....too many people and not a big house. 1.5 bathrooms. I need some privacy as Im still puking and injecting lovenox every day. No wine= annoyance with them!!!

AFM: we did an amnio last week and got rapid results that there are no chromosome abnormalities with 13, 18 or 21 and we are having 2 girls!!! So thrilled. We will get the full results around 4th of July.

Davie813

Congratulations to all of you!  @Mrs.McIrish, so exciting to find out you're having girls!

@ProcessofBecoming, I hear you on the amnio.  I was in almost exactly the same situation with DD (I was all set for amnio when I was ~22 weeks, but the genetic counselor at the hospital where I would be having it done advised me against it).  You had both Verifi and the triple screen, though, right?  I'd feel pretty confident if I were you.  (Easier said than done, yes.)

Anyway, definitely sending good thoughts your way.

ProcessofBecoming

YAY for you, Mrs. McIrish!!!!!! Two girls is just magnificent--I am so happy for you!!! Do you have names for them yet? And it's nice to know that someone can feel my pain re: In-Laws at the Cape. Oh, how I am dreading this "vacation"--I am trying to cajole my husband to take my son and I will meet them there midweek, but chances of that happening are slim. A REAL vacation would be 4 days at home, alone. That, my friends, is pure joy.

I am also jealous that you got your anatomy scan so early and were able to do the amnio. I sort of feel like my doctors were all subtly against the amnio (maybe because of my age, and if something happened due to the procedure, this would have been my "last shot"--maybe because they all practice with a Catholic hospital--don't get me wrong, I'm Catholic too, so it's fine and all, but I wonder if that could sway them???), and I was only offered the anatomy scan AFTER 20 weeks (the MFM only does them after 20 weeks so they can see everything). I am 20 weeks and 5 days now. If I have an amnio, I wouldn't get the full results from that until I was likely 23 weeks along, at the earliest. Fortunately, my MaterniT21 test results came back negative for T21, 18, and 13, same with the AFP, and there were no markers for anything found on the anatomy scan. So that is all good. But still, I worry. I am not a Fragile X carrier (the most common chromosomal disorder associated with autism), so that is good. But I wish there was ONE gene that would let you know if your kid would be autistic. And that an amnio or microarray would catch that gene. But there isn't. And that sucks. Fortunately, my son is very mildly affected and high-functioning. But even "high-functioning" is a disabling disorder when it comes to autism. He is very bright, but very willful (and a handful). One, I can handle. Two... I am just praying that Baby Brother is part of the 80% of future siblings that escapes the diagnosis. I pray pretty much all day every day for that. Go, little fetus made from a 42 year old egg, go!!! Hee hee hee.

TTC and Motherhood. Neither is for sissies.

Lady2010

Hi Ladies - 

Sounds like everyone is doing great!  Lots of exciting news.

AFM: Just had my final ultrasound with our RE today and she 'graduated' us.  I am measuring exactly at my due date - 9wks, 3 days.  We got to see our little peanut - looks like a lot more than just a blur (what it looked like last time).  We can see the head and body and arm/leg buds!  I think he/she looks like a spider body right now - LOL.  Heartrate was good - 171bpm!  I then had my first nurse-midwife appt at my OBs office (see my OB on the 9th).  I didn't get the one I wanted - the one who has a clinical interest in infertility and ART (figured she would be more sensitive to all I have been through).  I didn't really like this nurse-midwife and while the general practice is to see the n/m most of the time - you can opt to see the OB - which is what I will likely do.  I am getting the Materniti21 expanded tests done on the 9th - so we will have those results the following week.  The n/m said better to wait until we are solidly in the 11th week to ensure there is no ambiguity.

We are going to tell both sets of parents this weekend!  First heading to my parent's place on Th/Fri, then to see ILs on Sat/Sun.  Think we will hold off to tell siblings until after our appointment on the 9th.

CaraH

I am just over four weeks.  The downside of getting a BFP so early is that the wait for my 7 week ultrasound feels like an eternity.  (My RE didn't feel the need to do more than two betas, and really there's no medical reason he would.)  I've freaked myself out several times already.  But, today I'm finally feeling some clear cut pregnancy symptoms.  Nothing major, but enough to be reassuring.  Plus, the light cramps I had a few days ago have stopped without developing in to anything AF like.  Here's hoping today's calm can last for three more weeks.

Mrs.McIrish

@ProcessofBecoming‌ -- I haven't had the anatomy scan yet. My MFM won't do it until almost 21 weeks. He was very supportive of the amnio if that's what I wanted. He also was very confident in doing them-like it was no big deal. He said he does them basically every day. I'm with a high risk group right at the hospital with a level 3 NICU so I think it's just par for the course for these doctors. He never made me feel crazy that payi wanted one (we used a young donor so theoretically I didn't need one but it was something I couldn't shake. I know the amnio doesn't mean "nothing" is wrong and I understand your fears. Sending T&Ps that baby boy 2 doesn't have autism issues.

Samuelismomma

Hi girls...so glad everyone is doing great on here! I had my 10 wk scan Monday..baby was stretching:) he said everything looks great! Stopped the progesterone and most of the nausea has went a way or it was so severe before, I'm not noticing it now! Lol constipation is better, now just hoping to get rid of the bloat:) I go back the 14th of July at 13 wks to do harmony and all blood work and end of July get the stitch in cervix..I will be sedated ....I was worried! Hahaha...after this yr my hooter feels like she has been through war.....hahaha...love all you girls!

lcwed

@CaraH I hear you about the wait till the u/s.  I will say after I hit 5 1/2 weeks, time started flying.  I'm right there, anxiously waiting with you.

on42

We had our anatomy scan last week, and everything looks good. I have to go in again for another scan as the baby wouldn't move so that we could see her profile. I'm really struggling with sleep right now, and it's so stressful and frustrating. Not sure if I mentioned it before, but we're having a girl; we've named her Maxine Rose. 

I'm starting to have some cramping (round ligament pain, maybe), which is uncomfortable as well. In general, I'm not enjoying pregnancy, but I'm excited to meet the baby in a few months!

I am so pleased to see you all in this check-in!! I know that our hottiegans is next!!! 

xo

URMySunshine77

on42 said:

We had our anatomy scan last week, and everything looks good. I have to go in again for another scan as the baby wouldn't move so that we could see her profile. I'm really struggling with sleep right now, and it's so stressful and frustrating. Not sure if I mentioned it before, but we're having a girl; we've named her Maxine Rose. 

I'm starting to have some cramping (round ligament pain, maybe), which is uncomfortable as well. In general, I'm not enjoying pregnancy, but I'm excited to meet the baby in a few months!

I am so pleased to see you all in this check-in!! I know that our hottiegans is next!!! 

xo

Love to see all of the updates here! I'll continue to stalk all of you in Pregnant > 35. 

@on42, I hope that your husband has been more supportive recently. (I hope that I'm remembering that correctly?) I think that a lot of guys have a hard time adjusting to the responsibilities that loom ahead.

Have you been doing prenatal yoga?

on42

No, no prenatal yoga, which I've been wanting to do. But we just moved, and I haven't had been able to find any local classes. I may just go to a regular Hatha class and tailor it for the pregnancy (not do certain poses, or adjust as needed).

My husband has been more supportive, thankfully. He said last night he's 110% on board with me basically just resting when I get home from work if that's what I need (we're also renovating the new house!!). 

From what I hear from friends and my midwife, I think that most men have a difficult time adjusting to their pregnant wives/partners. They just want to make us happy, you know? But pregnancy, I'm finding for me/us, is its own beast. Some days, I feel like I share my body with the head of a dragon, hahaha!

URMySunshine77

on42 said:

No, no prenatal yoga, which I've been wanting to do. But we just moved, and I haven't had been able to find any local classes. I may just go to a regular Hatha class and tailor it for the pregnancy (not do certain poses, or adjust as needed).

My husband has been more supportive, thankfully. He said last night he's 110% on board with me basically just resting when I get home from work if that's what I need (we're also renovating the new house!!). 

From what I hear from friends and my midwife, I think that most men have a difficult time adjusting to their pregnant wives/partners. They just want to make us happy, you know? But pregnancy, I'm finding for me/us, is its own beast. Some days, I feel like I share my body with the head of a dragon, hahaha!

@on42: You can definitely do regular yoga. I didn't think of that.

I'm glad that your husband is on board! I'm excited for you.